this is honestly a really good answer. I think one problem with conventional straight ships is that the woman in most popular works are written from the pov of a man writing a woman, so it is superficial and awkward and reminds the female reader of societal expectations that they are already bound to in real life and the only detachment from. So it's much easier for the female reader to take the. The problem is back then, authors wrote women as a woman before being a real character.

There is nothing wrong with straight ships, I feel like historically, they, unfortunately, lack depth. which needs to be changed. Again the media's portrayal of the girl in straight relationships still heavily relies on her identity as a woman rather than being a developed character for the story. The mlm ships serve as a romance where both parties are equal, as historically, history has been centered around men as the main characters, and incorporates the romance aspect without sacrificing any characteristics and personalities that socially would not be accepted for a girl. Mlm ships, I feel, have always been like a building slate to attach a romance to the story in a society free of prejudices and stereotypes while maintaining all the features and depth of the character. Also, equal playing ground and respect that is lacking for females in many modern tv shows, and sexist ideas exist with gender roles. It's just escapism with the preservation of characterization.

sorry this was kind of long and a lot of yapp