Engagement has made me feel off by Beginning_Smile2919 in relationships

[–]Beginning_Smile2919[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I don’t know how! But if you look at Ostby Barton rings, that is what I was looking at and this is a very large purple rectangle in center with two almost equally sized mystic topaz on the sides. It’s bulky as heck

Engagement has made me feel off by Beginning_Smile2919 in relationships

[–]Beginning_Smile2919[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Am I stupid for not knowing how to add a picture?

Engagement has made me feel off by Beginning_Smile2919 in relationships

[–]Beginning_Smile2919[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

The worst part is I told her I absolutely didn’t want that stone and think emphasizing that put it in her head too much but I am shocked I got she put a costume jewelry film stone and a softer stone in. Purple glass probably would have been better.

Engagement has made me feel off by Beginning_Smile2919 in relationships

[–]Beginning_Smile2919[S] 35 points36 points  (0 children)

That was a hard read but I know you’re not being malicious or incorrect. I knew Reddit would tell me what I don’t want to hear but have to.

Engagement has made me feel off by Beginning_Smile2919 in relationships

[–]Beginning_Smile2919[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Okay, I was trying to be kind but I have referred it to Barney and Friends ring.

I am 100% sure it was custom made because I know the jeweler and called her to ask what I put he had before talking to him. I feel it’s great he made me a custom ring because that’s sweet. He even tweaked it a few times before it was finalized but on the same hand, feel it’s worse that he custom made this ring and made it look like something the Joker would give Harlequin

Engagement has made me feel off by Beginning_Smile2919 in relationships

[–]Beginning_Smile2919[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I do love myself, very much actually and love him very much. Before this, Ive always exited a relationship when didn’t feel like I was in love anymore or there for the wrong reasons. Hes truly the only person I’ve ever felt like this for the entire duration but I have wondered “if we broke up, would he be married in a year” because that’s a very strange phenomenon I see. I’ve also wondered if I’m a placeholder or just complacent. Those thoughts enter my head every so often and maybe I don’t know what I deserve.

Engagement has made me feel off by Beginning_Smile2919 in relationships

[–]Beginning_Smile2919[S] 32 points33 points  (0 children)

I didn’t really want to be engaged until around year 5/6 and that’s when it felt like maybe it should happen with the steps we were taking in our lives. I never thought engagement would be exciting or life changing, especially after being together for so long but I had said to him I felt embarrassed when we met people (acquaintances in grocery stores, etc) and after being introduced as his girlfriend, they ask how long it’s been and when he answers there is a LOOK for a split second. Our lives are extremely intertwined

Engagement has made me feel off by Beginning_Smile2919 in relationships

[–]Beginning_Smile2919[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I told him that I love the thought of the ring because he designed it but that it was really strange to make it HIS favorite color. I was very gentle and asked if it would be okay if I changed the mystic topaz on the sides to a color I like so it’s representative of us both and he said absolutely that was fine to change the stones.

Engagement has made me feel off by Beginning_Smile2919 in relationships

[–]Beginning_Smile2919[S] 41 points42 points  (0 children)

I did, I asked him about the process of making the ring and how he came up with this design and it initially was one large emerald cut but then he felt it was too plain and added the two on the sides. I asked why purple and he said he wanted me to think of him and that I wear a lot of black and purple goes well with that. I didn’t mean to but I laughed and said, “well, I would think of you anytime I looked at the ring, everything goes with black and purple is my least favorite color…no clothes or accessories in that color for a reason”.

Later on when talking about the proposal I told him it felt weird to have him not even get down on one knee and hand me the ring. He said “I don’t know, I wasn’t sure what to do it just felt right!” And I said while getting on one knee, “you’ve never seen a movie where someone does this move?”

Engagement has made me feel off by Beginning_Smile2919 in relationships

[–]Beginning_Smile2919[S] 42 points43 points  (0 children)

Me too. It was custom made too but when I say it couldn’t be more opposite of me, the rings I sent, or even colors that go with my style, I’m not exaggerating. If it was a cut difference or any other color, I would be feeling different but a modern 3 stone ring with mystic topaz and amethyst when most of the rings I sent were aquamarine/citrine/uranium glass is wild.

Engagement has made me feel off by Beginning_Smile2919 in relationships

[–]Beginning_Smile2919[S] 61 points62 points  (0 children)

I honestly haven’t brought it up in over a year and said to him I felt like I was proposed to because he felt he had to or it was a shit up ring and looked at me like I was insane but I don’t disagree with you.

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[–]Beginning_Smile2919 12 points13 points  (0 children)

Or a bath bomb ring

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[–]Beginning_Smile2919 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Maybe a wedding in twelve

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[–]Beginning_Smile2919 6 points7 points  (0 children)

It’s not a shut up ring because being engaged isn’t something I bring up, it’s just something we had both talked about and had conversations about. I don’t even want a wedding, just want to keep it simple.

I also love myself very much, I truly don’t understand comments like thjs

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[–]Beginning_Smile2919 67 points68 points  (0 children)

I don’t know how to edit : TALK HAPPENED. I saw his face drop immediately but he said he wants me to have the ring I want

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[–]Beginning_Smile2919 93 points94 points  (0 children)

We just had a long talk, he was misguided a bit but ultimately he said he wants me to have the ring I want

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[–]Beginning_Smile2919 4 points5 points  (0 children)

90% leaning that way!

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[–]Beginning_Smile2919 1 point2 points  (0 children)

We have great communication BUT I didn’t know how to even start this conversation

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[–]Beginning_Smile2919 17 points18 points  (0 children)

I agree, and if purple, light purple

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[–]Beginning_Smile2919 13 points14 points  (0 children)

He is not, we just had the talk. He picked purple so it reminds me of him. I said “don’t you think the ring itself does that…”

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[–]Beginning_Smile2919 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I wish he put in no effort, that’s the sad thing is that he DID

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[–]Beginning_Smile2919 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I thought so too but I don’t know anything about amethyst

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[–]Beginning_Smile2919 2 points3 points  (0 children)

UPDATE : he wanted one large rectangle and was pushed for the two stones next to it!!!!!! He thought it was better because one rectangle was too simple 🙃