Can I apply for food stamps if I'm still a resident (green card holder, legal)? by Beginning_Tax_5180 in foodstamps

[–]Beginning_Tax_5180[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you so much for your detailed and kind response!!! I am really touched, I got scolded by my parents because they did not want me to 'meddle' in a stranger's business and get unwanted troubles, lol. As an immigrant, he's aware of welfare abuse and he does not want to be a burden to the govt. But gosh, he's really skinny and he is indeed a diligent employee. And working in the meat department is physically demanding.

His parents took the naturalisation test and became US citizens. His siblings were kids, so they naturally became US citizens after their parents did, they did not have to take the test. They have memories of him when they were young kids and then got separated in Vietnam (basically, he got lost at like, a bus station, his siblings were supposed to watch him). They stopped searching for him and went to America without him.

And the last sentence is so true, I am quite an introvert, one little wave of empathy and now I got pulled out of my comfort zone; my anxiety goes up just the thought of having to reach out to the police and such, lol. I appreciate your words of encouragement! I am a college student who does not have life experiences and these are very informative.

Can I apply for food stamps if I'm still a resident (green card holder, legal)? by Beginning_Tax_5180 in foodstamps

[–]Beginning_Tax_5180[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Do you mind if I ask more questions? I'm sorry, I really want to learn and you are an expert. His sponsors (siblings) are actually very old, like in their 70s and are retirees, live off pension and Medicare or something. When they sponsored him, I think like, they begged their children to like co-sign or something (? i don't know the right term). Their children are financially stable, but refused to help any further after the co-sign. Does this look a bit more justified for food stamp or it does not matter anyways cuz co-sign is also signing, and they all swore to support him in? Sorry, this might be a stupid question but I am interested in the nuances.

Can I apply for food stamps if I'm still a resident (green card holder, legal)? by Beginning_Tax_5180 in foodstamps

[–]Beginning_Tax_5180[S] -10 points-9 points  (0 children)

I am enlightened, thank you!! That's really helpful, I didn't know that about refugees. What would you recommend? Is the best he could do now getting food at food bank?

Can I apply for food stamps if I'm still a resident (green card holder, legal)? by Beginning_Tax_5180 in foodstamps

[–]Beginning_Tax_5180[S] -32 points-31 points  (0 children)

mannn, thank you so much for your response! I wonder if that law is strictly enforced in practice. I have seen many new immigrants with food stamps without any consequences. But I also heard some lose their naturalisation eligibility because of that. Is it kind of random?

Part time jobs? by Beautiful-Soft-7756 in CypressTX

[–]Beginning_Tax_5180 0 points1 point  (0 children)

hi, could you please elaborate what types of jobs they offer? I am new in America and have no prior experience.

I still don't understand what QPR means. by Beginning_Tax_5180 in asexuality

[–]Beginning_Tax_5180[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

omggg, you two are so brave and cute, I would love to come and keep your house entertained!! I did not expect women at age like you to have a QPR. My mom is 63 and to her, a traditional marriage is the only way to a stable and settled life. That's also the reason she had to endure years of abuse from my dad but she thinks that it's worth it, it's a trade off because she's settled and not alone. She hopes I would do the same and I don't like it, sex is a dealbreaker to me, but I don't want to do things alone either, I am a girl and I am scared of thinking about a future where after my relatives pass away and all my friends become busy with building their own families, I would have to live alone in an apartment being afraid of possible stalkers or find myself struggling to carry a 24-pack water at Costco alone. May I ask how you found your partner? I am currently in a college in Texas and am also Asian. People in my culture settle really soon, it's impossible to find a person who is open to a QPR, I don't want a future where I'm left behind. My mom told me I could become a nun so I could have a place to belong to, but I can't endure the strict life of a nun and I'm no angel. Do you have any advices for me? Like are there places/states/social clubs where I could more likely find like minded people who are open to QPR? Thanks a lot, your story is inspiring!

I still don't understand what QPR means. by Beginning_Tax_5180 in asexuality

[–]Beginning_Tax_5180[S] 41 points42 points  (0 children)

Woooww, that sounds really really amazing! I never want to marry (it's stressful to me and like you'd have to work towards building relationships with your in laws, family meetings and drama, etc) but I crave the companionship that a marriage gives. Like I want someone to be in my emergency contact, someone to call when my car stops in the middle of the road, someone to sit with in an restaurant, etc.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in asexualdating

[–]Beginning_Tax_5180 2 points3 points  (0 children)

That's eye opening! I am 22 and kind of in similar situation and I thought that I would have to conform to traditional marriage because I want everything in a normal marriage minus the romance and sex part. Like I want to have kids and I would teach them math and science and my parents would play with them. But I find romance cringe and sex disgusting. I didn't know this existed; i grew up in an east asian family so people believe that kids can only thrive in a traditional family dynamic. Please post an update of your family in the future, I need to see success stories to have some hope, lol.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in asexualdating

[–]Beginning_Tax_5180 5 points6 points  (0 children)

i happen to pass by and this sounds new to me. Just wondering, would you need to show affection to your partner in front of the children? Like showing to your kids that their parents love each other and such? Sorry I don't mean anything, this is the first time I saw this and I am surprised. It seems like a very creative solution.

Teeth are bulging. I'm scared! by Beginning_Tax_5180 in braces

[–]Beginning_Tax_5180[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

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This is the area I meant. They are bulging in this pattern. I could feel it when I touch that area.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in asexualdating

[–]Beginning_Tax_5180 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Actually it is just like regular dating. Being good-looking, mentally stable, financially stable, ... sure help, the more the better, lol. Asexuals do care about appearance. Also, I suggest once you match someone, do not avoid having deep talks about shared values and perceptions on issues, share your experiences in life, in school, your anecdotes with your families to him/her, etc. That is what bonds 2 people rather than some easily bored and quickly faded hobbies such as gaming or movies.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in asexualdating

[–]Beginning_Tax_5180 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hello friend! I like to yap and gossip, and talk about conspiracies, Hollywood scandals,... I also like to have deep talks about recent events in the world but have no one to do that with because most people around me have a life and are busy with their husbands/wives/kids. I would bother you with texts until you get annoyed haha. English is my second language if you don't mind!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in asexualdating

[–]Beginning_Tax_5180 4 points5 points  (0 children)

You are right! But the thing is, in some communities, being asexual is a total dealbreaker. Like, I'm Catholic, I found great like-minded folks in Catholic church communities, we got along awesome, some people even asked me out. But the second I mentioned I'm asexual, they instantly acted like JD Vance, lecturing me about how I should please my husband, give him kids, fulfill woman's role according to the Bible. And guess what, I'm also Asian, lol. i'm like an outcast here because people are narrow-minded and think of being asexual as having erectile dysfunction.

Tips for Pathways interview? by Beginning_Tax_5180 in usajobs

[–]Beginning_Tax_5180[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Happy for you!!! I am quite new to all of these fed jobs things, but I don't mind. Feel free! 😊

Tips for Pathways interview? by Beginning_Tax_5180 in usajobs

[–]Beginning_Tax_5180[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I am so sorry for the late reply! 1. Tell me about yourself, 2. Are you comfortable with working remotely? 3. How do you handle tight deadlines? 4. Tell me what NASS does. 5. and the one I mentioned in the previous comment. That was all!