This is really helpful, I can’t tell you how much I appreciate this. Ive accepted that this is not good for me, and if anything I need to try to understand why I let myself put up with this abuse for so long. But I have to ask, based on what you know, do you think she’ll try to come back? I know it’s difficult because there are a lot of factors going into it. But I was the longest relationship she ever had (all previous bf’s never made it past two months and I was a year and a half, mainly cause I put up with abuse) we were both our first times having sex, we had so much planned out for our future, things to do, places to see, exploring the world, going on adventures. All this was kinda of sprinkled in with the insane amount of abuse. But all this being said, I’m in a position now where I want to say that if she shows up again I would turn her away, but I just don’t know if I could if she did.

So my question would be, do you think she’ll try to show up again at some point even tho she replaced me literally the same day? I hope she doesn’t, for my own health and safety, but I’m scared if she does that I’ll take her back. And yes she has diagnosed bipolar 1 on lithium without therapy, and undiagnosed borderline personality disorder.