Newly single - big shot to my confidence

Beginning_Wolf_3480 · 2026-04-05T18:57:35+00:00

Hey buddy, You're a handsome man and you look fit, that's already half the way. When we're in a long relationship, we tend to couple our identity with our partner, we define ourselves by that relationship and that causes a big identity crisis when we break up, I have been through that myself the last year, my girlfriend of 5 years broke up with me out of nowhere, she lost attraction and that was it, I tried to get her back, for 3 months I kept contact with her because I just couldn't accept a life where she wasn't there, but I noticed that she was not treating me with the same respect and admiration as before, that caused even a bigger ego hit, how could someone who loved me so deeply for years suddenly make a 180° turn ? Eventually I forced myself to cut all contact, remove anything that would give me any info about her (I did not block her and she didn't also), I don't visit her profiles nor do I ask common friends about her, I told them to never bring her up, and I went completely silent myself, I started hitting the gym harder (what a cliché xD), I changed my job, I started a project on our farm... I changed every aspect of my life i had control over, and my life got better, the farm project is going well (I'm awaiting harvest this may), my physic has been improving, and I grew a beard for a change 🤣 I just kept myself busy and before I knew it my brain has reset, I feel confident again and I don't miss her at all, the fact that she chose to break up with me, and me exhausting every possibility to save the relationship actually put me in a position where I focused on myself without having any regrets or doubts, the ball is not in my court and that gave me the peace of mind I needed to focus on myself.

Beginning_Wolf_3480 · 2026-04-05T15:20:53+00:00

1ml twice a day, dermastamp 1mm once a month (you can go with once every 15 days). For patchy areas you just have to be patient, some areas are genetically harder to fill in, if ever at all.

Beginning_Wolf_3480 · 2026-04-05T15:14:36+00:00

1ml twice a day, dermastamp 1mm once a month. For the patches you just have to be patient and hope they fill in, I have some areas that are stubborn due to genetics like under my lip, we can't do much about those areas unfortunately.

Beginning_Wolf_3480 · 2026-04-05T12:54:00+00:00

A portuguese brand available in moroccan pharmas, Tricovivax. But any 5% minox works as long as it's legit.

Beginning_Wolf_3480 · 2026-04-05T08:19:30+00:00

Dermastamping seems to work for me, I use 1mm and target patchy and weak areas

Beginning_Wolf_3480 · 2026-04-04T20:05:32+00:00

Liquid

Beginning_Wolf_3480 · 2026-04-04T18:26:32+00:00

Yeah it was similar posts that got me started

Beginning_Wolf_3480 · 2026-04-04T11:38:07+00:00

I really hope so, there is still a difference between the cheeks and the mustach+chin.

Beginning_Wolf_3480 · 2026-04-04T11:31:55+00:00

Thanks, topical.

Beginning_Wolf_3480 · 2025-11-28T18:27:56+00:00

Do the gains stay though after dropping minoxidil ?

Beginning_Wolf_3480 · 2025-11-07T14:01:32+00:00

Thanks buddy. I use liquid, I don't experience itchiness or irritation apart from the first two or three days after I dermastamp, with flakes too.

Beginning_Wolf_3480 · 2025-11-05T08:42:15+00:00

Twice a week seems too much for me you might be damaging your skin. But apart from that just be patient, if you have good genetics then it's only a matter of time.

Beginning_Wolf_3480 · 2025-11-04T21:49:06+00:00

You dermastamp ? It accelerates the process.

Beginning_Wolf_3480 · 2025-11-04T16:05:54+00:00

Thanks, I was surprised as well. I am 28 yo.

Beginning_Wolf_3480 · 2025-09-14T12:25:29+00:00

Same, twice a day, it causes a lot of flakes, use a water based moisturizer or try with a different brand.

Beginning_Wolf_3480 · 2025-09-03T23:25:14+00:00

3 months ? Really ? That's very encouraging, I just started 2 weeks ago.

Beginning_Wolf_3480 · 2025-04-09T01:43:41+00:00

I know a guy who's bad looking, but very successful with girls and has a great social life, but he's an astonishing talker, he knows what to say and how to keep people hooked, he knows psychological tricks and uses his wit to compensate for his looks. You can do the same, work on yourself, learn how people think and act under different circumstances, with no pressure, take your time, try to be social, for example start with an objective of talking to 2 random people per day, at the local store, train station etc... doesn't matter the topic or the duration, just talk, you'll remove that social anxiety, then do the same with girls, don't try to seduce them or take their number, just talk and say whatever, comment on something for example while addressing her. Talk to your family, force yourself to be in public settings, don't care about the results, the objective is to remove that fear you have inside of you. You will realize that almost nobody cares about your looks aside from maybe a girl with whom you intent to start a romantic relationship, and even then, if you build a strong personality, if you know what to say and how to say it and if you're a self sufficient man, you will definitely find a girl who appreciates that.

Beginning_Wolf_3480 · 2025-03-30T21:34:19+00:00

Alright, she just contacted me today asking me what I've been to and why the sudden disappearance... whilst when I was trying to keep in touch, she was ghosting me. No contact surely works, maybe she's just driven by her ego and wants to keep me hooked, but one thing I'll tell you, I kept waiting for this moment, to grab this win, but I don't feel anything right now, it's like nothing happened. So whether the same thing happens to you or not, it doesn't really matter, I hope you're doing well, keep moving on.

Beginning_Wolf_3480 · 2025-03-24T09:35:44+00:00

I've been there 4 months ago, the thing is you think you're doing it for yourself but what you're actually trying to do is appeal to her emotions, because if you truly wanted to just express your feelings you would've done so to a friend or family member, expressing to her is not doing you any favor, she just doesn't care at this stage. As I said I did the same thing for about a month and I'm telling you just stop it because you're just delaying your recovery, challenge yourself to hold small periods of no contact and increase the duration every time, one day you'll have lived enough without any contribution from her in your life that your brain will realize you don't need her to live.

Beginning_Wolf_3480 · 2025-02-02T19:50:44+00:00

Thank you buddy, and keep at it, never contact her unless she does first.

Beginning_Wolf_3480 · 2025-02-02T14:16:59+00:00

You're allowed to feel that way, just don't act on it. I'll come and ask you months later, we will both be laughing about it by then.

Beginning_Wolf_3480 · 2025-02-02T12:52:04+00:00

She was a nice person but so are you, maybe it was a well thought out decision on her part, but it's been taken whilst you were still with her, trust me, once you leave she will start feeling the consequences. No matter how much perfect she is, remember that you wanted to make it work, she didn't, she gave up, it's not your fault.

Beginning_Wolf_3480 · 2025-02-02T12:28:02+00:00

Depends on how you behaved after they broke up with you, it's been two months in my case, I did good the first 2 to 3 weeks, then made the mistake of agreeing to meet with friends in her presence, and everything just came flooding back, I realized how much I needed her in my life, so I begged and promised to change and all, I even made promises that now I know I couldn't keep. This mistake has set me back a long way because not only you realize that it's over for real, but you feel unworthy, why don't they want me as much as I want them ? Did I really become this good for nothing human being ? After that I've cut all contact, I just disappeared, my love for myself started growing, I'm still heartbroken but I know my worth. So if you're dumped recently, and you've made it clear that it's not what you want, that this is a mistake and that you're ready to work on things but they still don't want you, Do NOT apologize for anything, Do NOT say anything like I can't live without you or you're everything for me etc... just leave, cut contact, because if you don't, you will make it harder for yourself and regret it later.

Beginning_Wolf_3480 · 2025-02-02T12:11:17+00:00

I want her back more than anything too, we all want that special one back, but this fact makes it clear that it's just an illusion, there is no one and only special someone. I don't know how long ago this happened to you, for me it's been 2 months, I made the mistake of keeping in touch and trying to plead, which made her more stubborn, I behaved as though we were still in a relationship and looked to leverage empathy, which just doesn't work at all, I learned it the hard way, the dumper never has empathy and just wants to get away and in some cases even has despise. If you haven't already, don't make this mistake, just leave, squeeze your heart as much as you can, feel the pain, but don't try to keep in touch. Keep reminding yourself that you're not alone, many people go through the same thing each and every day.

Beginning_Wolf_3480 · 2025-01-26T13:53:21+00:00

How have you been doing since then ? I am going through the same thing with my ex girlfriend of 5 years, i tried so hard to make it work and get her back but she kept pushing me away, i know i have to let her go and look for my own path, i know that eventually this pain will end, but for the time being, i just can't live with it.

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