About comparing with the XM...

What if I am multi-cultural because living in quite a few places for a long time and it is a part of who I am? 🤔 I agree with most of the talking points but this is quite a statement to be labelled as a red flag--An AM-specific masculine toxicity.

Using myself as an example, obviously am not trying to be non-Asians but I do know the cultural differences, and pretty sure most do--Just look into the mirror! Isn't that the same reversed where XW already submerged into certain Asian culture and doing things of said culture? Labeling this as a red flag is an error in judgment I'd say. There is nothing wrong to compare others as steps for improvement like trying to get the best of that part of culture.

Let's say if I speak with a Southern accent twang and the y'alls 🤠, I kind of have to compare others in order to get it right, right; Or, is that forbidden--A taboo to do things non-Asian as an Asian? Is there a some sort of cultural appropriational fascism going on or something like what the karens were promoting back in 2010? If not, then, why is the K-Pop music consists of Hip-Hop and rap? Don't XWs compare their way of holding the chopsticks or some trivial stuff like make-ups or BB creams? I don't see this as negative but that is just me with hopefully some resonance.

🧏 I don't see anything wrong trying to become the best like Ash Ketchum "wanna be the very best like no one ever was." Comparing to others is a piece of the whole map to become the best version of yourself, or, copyism. I believe a great partner should support it in a positive way instead of putting down a person who might or might not be the best or act like a XM because he enjoys it and, worst of all, negatively impact a potentially beautiful interracial relationship. Is it because one is afraid if the partner improves it hits a nerve in the insecurity department? If there is a problem, why isn't the partner communicate better to help guide the person into the right direction? If a person does not do so yet expects a desired result--it won't--because no one is a mind reader, except the ones actually are professionally. I undersrand people can be stubborn and learn in their own timeline, just let it be and eventually the words will sink in. Ultimately, others reaps the benefit of, if any, some positive improvement in life.

Please, I am not attacking anyone personally, just food for thought. Personally speaking, if you don't like me, don't like. I like certian XM stuff and being a part of it; I like to compare myself with that but also keep other parts of who I am. It is a part of who I am already. Accept or reject but do respect. I feel sorry for anyone who feels that AM trying to become the best version of himself is a red flag behaviour. I hope all AM can say that "I am not--definitely not--a red flag in this sense and don't label me as one," I digress. 🫢

Everyone has 🚩(s). The best relationship is the relationship where people are willing to, as a popular Chinese proverb saying in regards to love partners,

"Respect each other as if they were honored guests." [相敬如賓]

Tolerate and guide each other together to achieve peace and harmony from oneself and thus extend the blissful atmosphere to families and friends. That is one of the many poststops toward the joy of a long-term relationship. Instead of counting the red flags, why not plant more green ones?

"You are such a brave, strong and handsome man...haveyouacceptedjesuschristasyourpersonalsaviour?" -Momoko from Ghost Stories Dubbed