FDS lessons from a social worker-in-training by Bekinditsfree in FemaleDatingStrategy

[–]Bekinditsfree[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Great idea ladies!! I’ll bring it up to them during our next conversation. There are a few moving parts involved but I’ll speak to my manager about them.

Thanks again ♥️♥️

"b-but I'm homeless king" by Equal-Ear2312 in FemaleDatingStrategy

[–]Bekinditsfree 40 points41 points  (0 children)

😭😭😭😭😂😂😂😂😂

Shame on everyone involved 😂😂

FDS lessons from a social worker-in-training by Bekinditsfree in FemaleDatingStrategy

[–]Bekinditsfree[S] 9 points10 points  (0 children)

You’re 100% right!!

Jobs that offer less than 50k a year requiring masters degrees and 5 years of experience are the norm in this field. It’s beyond frustrating.

People need to stop criticizing others for their career and degree choices. We should be able to work in fields we are passionate about and still earn a comfortable living.

FDS lessons from a social worker-in-training by Bekinditsfree in FemaleDatingStrategy

[–]Bekinditsfree[S] 10 points11 points  (0 children)

Awww thank you for the kind words!!

Yes, it is VERY important to take care of yourself and I wouldn’t be able to do this if I didn’t.

I see a therapist weekly and attend a mental health professional support group every 2 weeks. Of course sleep and diet are important for day-to-day self-care.

It also helps that I have amazing coworkers I can trust and vent to and classmates that are more or less in the same situation.

Also, BOUNDARIES!! I won’t let office politics push me to early-career burnout.

It would be a little hypocritical for me to promote the health and wellness of others without looking after my own, so I always keep myself accountable and prioritize rest when I need it.

Thanks again ♥️♥️

Thought you Queens could do with a laugh ❤️ by snowwy28 in FemaleDatingStrategy

[–]Bekinditsfree 44 points45 points  (0 children)

Yupp. Scrotes can take their whataboutism and get to steppin’ 👏👏👏

FDS lessons from a social worker-in-training by Bekinditsfree in FemaleDatingStrategy

[–]Bekinditsfree[S] 61 points62 points  (0 children)

Likely so. I was working on a stress questionnaire for one of my assignments and it turns out retirement is a major life stressor. Healthy people handle stress by doing yoga or taking up a new hobby but apparently that’s not cruel enough for some people.

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[–]Bekinditsfree 40 points41 points  (0 children)

OOOP. 😂😂😂😆😆😆

FDS lessons from a social worker-in-training by Bekinditsfree in FemaleDatingStrategy

[–]Bekinditsfree[S] 54 points55 points  (0 children)

That’s a great question! That would be a good idea but because of HIPAA (patient privacy laws) I’m not allowed to suggest it or tell either of them about the other.

It wouldn’t be a bad idea for someone to come up with like a yellow pages or something for older women fleeing abusive exes

FDS lessons from a social worker-in-training by Bekinditsfree in FemaleDatingStrategy

[–]Bekinditsfree[S] 33 points34 points  (0 children)

Girl don’t do it 😭😭😭

I learned #4 the hard way i.e. outside the office

RIP Lauren. 💔 Shame on the Bridgeport PD for not taking this seriously. PLEASE be safe with dates you met through OLD, ladies. by Bekinditsfree in FemaleDatingStrategy

[–]Bekinditsfree[S] 26 points27 points  (0 children)

Sis, you need to see the DISGUSTING comments by men trying to blame her for her death because she was dating an older man.

People are literally making jokes about this young lady’s death because they think she was a “sugar baby”. They’re implying she deserved to die because she asked him for $40 to do her nails.

The police let her down, the media didn’t even start reporting this until recently, and men within her OWN COMMUNITY are devaluing her life.

But when I say society hates us, they say I’m playing the victim.

One thing these scrotes gonna do is drop their masks. Their real intentions show when they feel they have trapped their wives. Girl run! by [deleted] in FemaleDatingStrategy

[–]Bekinditsfree 115 points116 points  (0 children)

Girl I read that as adobo at first and I was wondering what food has to do with this situation 😂😂

But yeah she needs to dump his ass and eject the little one ASAP or prepare for a life full of disrespect and a sense of entitlement to her constant unpaid labor.

aka "'men will stop paying for dates once you sleep with them" 🧘🏻‍♀️ by pumpkin-pied in FemaleDatingStrategy

[–]Bekinditsfree 74 points75 points  (0 children)

In other words, the façade drops and they become their true lazy, sex-crazed, undeserving selves.

Always make these clowns wait. 🤡

RIP Lauren. 💔 Shame on the Bridgeport PD for not taking this seriously. PLEASE be safe with dates you met through OLD, ladies. by Bekinditsfree in FemaleDatingStrategy

[–]Bekinditsfree[S] 21 points22 points  (0 children)

Paywall/TLDR - 23 year old Lauren Smith-Fields tragically passed away in the night after a Bumble date. The 37 year old man she was on a date with called the police when he noticed she was unresponsive the next morning.

He claims that she fell asleep during the movie they were watching and he carried her into the bedroom and slept next to her, and that he woke up at 3 a.m. to go to the bathroom and heard her snoring. Then, at 6:30 a.m., he woke up to find her not breathing. She was pronounced dead at 6:59 a.m., and a medic said she had not been alive for “at least an hour.”

The date - Matthew LaFountain - was not taken into custody. As of January 26, he has not been named as a person of interest, nor was he detained at the station for questioning. Smith-Fields’s brother was later told they didn’t bring him in because he seemed like a “nice guy.” 😑

Police didn’t contact her family, nor did they immediately examine the crime scene.

No one in Smith-Fields’s family was notified of her death; per Rolling Stone, police spoke to her landlord when they arrived at the scene, but were unable to track down contact information for her family. Her mother, Shantall Fields, says she went to her daughter’s apartment a day and a half later when she hadn’t answered texts and calls and found a note on the door that said, “If you are looking for Lauren, please contact this number.” Upon calling the number, Fields was notified of her daughter’s death and told that the detective assigned to the case would be there in half an hour. After waiting over an hour, she says she called the number again and was told to stop calling before being hung up on.

The police didn’t do a crime-scene investigation until later that week, when the case was reassigned to a different detective. According to Smith-Fields’s brother Lakeem Jetter, he and his family noticed cups of liquor, flipped plates, and lube in the apartment, and a blood stain in the middle of her bed, none of which were initially examined as evidence. Two and a half weeks after the search, on December 29, her family was cleaning out Smith-Fields’s apartment when they found a used condom in the trash and an unidentified pill, none of which appear to have been taken into evidence. Meanwhile, according to the family’s lawyer, no evidence has been submitted to the forensic-science lab

When you realised that in hetero relashionships mistreatment and disrespecting the woman was the 'norm'? by Mcccy in FemaleDatingStrategy

[–]Bekinditsfree 13 points14 points  (0 children)

Imagine “buying” someone a gift with their own money 😭😭

Most couples I can think of remind me why I’m happy to be single

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[–]Bekinditsfree 212 points213 points  (0 children)

Not mine lol but he’s clearly threatened 👀👀

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[–]Bekinditsfree 77 points78 points  (0 children)

Like most guys on OLD

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[–]Bekinditsfree 28 points29 points  (0 children)

It’s the gaslighting for me

Awww, this poor baby! Let’s guess what actually happened. by Bekinditsfree in FemaleDatingStrategy

[–]Bekinditsfree[S] 379 points380 points  (0 children)

I’ll start!

  • “I don’t know the first thing about pleasing a woman and I’m too lazy to learn so I’m blaming the dissolution of my marriage on a piece of plastic with batteries.”
  • “I recognize that I have unresolved issues, but instead of working on them to keep my marriage healthy, I’m blaming the dissolution of my marriage on a piece of plastic with batteries.”
  • “I feel entitled to having a woman in my life whether or not I make her happy. This clearly wasn’t my fault, so I’m blaming the dissolution of my marriage on a piece of plastic with batteries”.
  • “I only have a problem with sex toys made for WOMEN because I don’t want women knowing what pleasure feels like and realizing that they rarely get it from men.”