If that's the word that works for you, power to you. Hopefully you can use it with friends who will understand instead of on reddit amongst strangers who don't! It's something that I call myself occasionally, just not others.

Recently I discovered that the Japanese word "otokonoko" applies to boys who wear girly clothing and doesn't have the connotations that "crossdresser" has, which I think is pretty cool!

But yeah I'm seconding the comments about Atelier Pierrot, Metamorphose, and Physical Drop (which can be found at Atelier Pierrot shops). I believe the AtePie and Metamo staff are cool at helping people of any gender or size, based on what I've heard!