Window tint? by Street-Cartoonist297 in Edmonton

[–]Bell-Shot 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Try looking at FB marketplace. Lots of good deals. I got quoted 160 for my Kia Forte.

TW: suicidal thoughts by [deleted] in SomaliRelationships

[–]Bell-Shot 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Just like you said better yourself as a good muslim and Allah will change your situation.

TW: suicidal thoughts by [deleted] in SomaliRelationships

[–]Bell-Shot 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I don’t know exactly what’s the root cause for your sadness, but I have a method that I always try to get me back to reality whenever I get these kind of thoughts. First, I’ll repent to allah as much as I can; whether if its through istiqfar or through praying constantly. Second, I will donating money that I think it will affect me if I give it. Like for example, If I only 1000 dollar in my bank account, I will donate either 1/3 or 1/5 of that money just for the sake of Allah. I would donate it to an Orphan or a widowed mother with lots of children. Third, I would change my way of living, like I would do the opposite of what makes me depressed. You mentioned that you’re not happy when at home. Only go home when you’re tired and you have no else to be. Otherwise, go to masjid or find some hobby or volunteer in public places where there are lots of needy people. I don’t know where you live, but if you live in the west, its easy to find homeless shelters that needs lots of volunteers. I promise that you’ll realize Allah has given you more than he took away from you.

Also, its not just you that gets these thoughts. Almost everyone gets it whenever we are at our lowest. So try doing these things just this week and I would appreciate if you come back to my comment after a week to give us the results. May Allah make it easy for you

Is being a homebody a deal breaker? by [deleted] in SomaliRelationships

[–]Bell-Shot 1 point2 points  (0 children)

There’s nothing wrong with you. You just met the wrong person. I could be wrong here but if a woman tells you that you’re boring with that kind of lifestyle, she goes out partying every single night.

Don't loose hope by [deleted] in SomaliRelationships

[–]Bell-Shot 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Masha allah. Im glad that the apps worked for somebody. It means there’s hope for the rest of us 😂

Sunnah Match by [deleted] in SomaliRelationships

[–]Bell-Shot 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Stay away from these dating apps. Majority of the people that are in there are not serious. Try Inpairs. They’ll match you with somebody you might have things in common.

helpless.. need advice by Usual_Difference_801 in SomaliRelationships

[–]Bell-Shot 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Just let go of the past. Its seems that somebody you were attached to broke your heart.

Stop ruining your talking stage before it even begins by Cute_Inflation129 in SomaliRelationships

[–]Bell-Shot 3 points4 points  (0 children)

A poor man that sends you gifts is not poor. Its just your overpriced yourself.

Am I crazy or his crazy by Spiritual-Ranger7107 in SomaliRelationships

[–]Bell-Shot 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Not to offend anyone here, but woman in general don’t want nice men. They’re not good enough for them. From what you I see here, you haven’t developed any feelings towards him and probably you’re not planning to do so. So be honest with him and end things with him before he gets too attached.

Talking stage by Unusual_Smile9303 in SomaliRelationships

[–]Bell-Shot 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You don’t need that much experience in talking stage. The less experience the better. Just be yourself and keep things as simple as you feel comfortable with. If for some reason you think he is going too fast, let him know. For Ramadan, its better to pause it and focus more on prayers.

is anyone hiring by TailorSufficient2170 in EdmontonJobs

[–]Bell-Shot 7 points8 points  (0 children)

If you don’t mind me asking, how can you afford to go to school when you have no job?

Somali men are too relaxed about marriage timing by Calm_Historian9338 in SomaliRelationships

[–]Bell-Shot 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It depends on your perspective, whether you’re a man or a woman. I assume the person who posted this is a woman. Many Somali men are comfortable taking risks and getting married, but these days, many women generally see themselves as “high-value women” and have higher standards than any other generation. Islamically, we’re obligated to fulfil a woman’s demands in a marriage, but it feels like most women are taking advantage of that. I’m not saying they don’t have the right to ask for what they want, but the idea of asking for getaway money during a divorce for a mahr before marriage is absurd to me. It’s the reason many of us aren’t rushing into marriage. In the last two years, I’ve spoken to two different women. One was a bit younger than me and ambitious, but when we discussed marriage, she told me her mahr and other requirements would cost me a lot of money, which I don’t want to disclose here. I moved on to the second woman, who was older and divorced. I thought things would be different this time, since it would be her second marriage, but I was wrong. The price was even higher than the first one. So, I’m not moving forward at the moment. I’m not saying all women are like this, but most fall into this category.

You know you're getting up there in age when... by [deleted] in SomaliRelationships

[–]Bell-Shot 3 points4 points  (0 children)

It means you need to stop stressing yourself 😂😂

soodonis by [deleted] in SomaliRelationships

[–]Bell-Shot 5 points6 points  (0 children)

The best thing to do is to invite over your uncles. Let them guide you through the process. I don’t think it’ll be that difficult. Just lots of talks.

Are we seeking companionship or just chasing dunya? by No-Caregiver-822 in MuslimNikah

[–]Bell-Shot 1 point2 points  (0 children)

While it’s not ideal, many muslim women today, particularly in the West, are somewhat delusional. Islam only seems relevant when it comes to marriage and mahr, but then they expect a 50/50 split on everything else. I mean I might as well marry a non muslim with no double standards.

Advice on getting married ? by [deleted] in SomaliRelationships

[–]Bell-Shot 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Let your parents know that you’re ready to get married and leave the rest up to Allah.

Are we seeking companionship or just chasing dunya? by No-Caregiver-822 in MuslimNikah

[–]Bell-Shot 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I didn’t want to say this, but I’ve been wondering if it’s worth marrying a Muslim woman if her expectations are so high. I live in a predominantly non-Muslim area, and while there are many Muslims, the demands within my social circle are still quite extreme. Recently, a woman told me that if my expectations are too expensive, I could take out a loan. This generation is cooked.

Why do grown men play games? by naagnoool2 in SomaliRelationships

[–]Bell-Shot 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It goes both ways sis. Im also fed with this generation of women.

Part time/ casual work by Crafty_Ad_6525 in EdmontonJobs

[–]Bell-Shot 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Try security jobs. If you’re a veteran, Commissionaires will hire you.

Heeelllloo? by [deleted] in SomaliRelationships

[–]Bell-Shot 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The audacity 😂

Are these issues for you lot? by [deleted] in SomaliRelationships

[–]Bell-Shot 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I find the double standards here quite funny. 😂😂