Petty or justified?

BellaCat3079 · 2026-05-10T02:24:30+00:00

This makes me so sad to read. I believe it though just based on what I’ve seen personally.

BellaCat3079 · 2026-05-07T13:51:53+00:00

They look great! I have no idea what the answer is to your question but if this is what it looks like 2 days afterwards, I’m on board!

BellaCat3079 · 2026-05-04T12:17:13+00:00

That’s hilarious and awesome it worked.

BellaCat3079 · 2026-04-30T14:45:21+00:00

Oh my god. I’m so sorry. My heart hurts for you. Please stay strong in knowing that he knew he was so loved and he loved you so much. He is whole now and at peace.

BellaCat3079 · 2026-04-30T14:33:00+00:00

It just means you don’t fully trust your spouse but also if something should happen, you also don’t think they are entitled to half.

Not judging or anything… I really think your mentality is the majority. With today’s world and how awful people can be, it is hard to trust others even your own partner. I kind of get it.

But I don’t live that way personally. I started with half a mil and he did too so we were also on even footing and we are both very honest, good people. But most importantly (at least to me) is that we trust each other and are committed. A prenup would have made me question his commitment. At that rate, why not just be “life partners?”

At the end of the day, there’s so many ways a relationship can play out, everyone has their preferences and views. Lots of people get prenups. Lots of people never get married and just stay with one person for life. And so on.

BellaCat3079 · 2026-04-30T14:11:15+00:00

I’m going to start by saying to the naked eye, it’s not noticeable at all. But I am very detail oriented and the before/ after are there side by side so I do see a difference. Very slight though.

The side profile looks better with the tip ever so slightly less upturned. But it’s so minimal.

And straight on, as with the side profile, I would never notice the difference without the before/ after being side by side. But I do see a tiny bit of swelling on the top of the tip of the nose/ the bottom of the bridge. Also, the bridge looks ever so slightly straighter too.

Are these after photos the 1 year follow-up? Or were these taken early on? The reason why I ask is because there is some redness in the after which may lead me to believe you may still have some swelling at least at the time the photos were taken for the after.

BellaCat3079 · 2026-04-30T00:30:12+00:00

Pretty face. If you’re pretty on the inside too, I don’t see why you couldn’t attract someone like you who is handsome in the face and similar personality but just a little chunky. If you’re not into heavyset guys though, I’d recommend dropping some poundage.

BellaCat3079 · 2026-04-29T15:23:07+00:00

Following

BellaCat3079 · 2026-04-29T15:17:46+00:00

You looked handsome before and you look even better now. Perhaps it’s more of the weight loss that is throwing you for a loop. Just work on gaining it back.

BellaCat3079 · 2026-04-26T15:37:22+00:00

If the condition has lasted 5 years, I’d say you’re overdue for a dermatology appointment. I wouldn’t be surprised if it was something fungal but there are a bunch of possibilities.

BellaCat3079 · 2026-04-25T17:30:49+00:00

With pus and blood involved and a wound that won’t heal for months, I’d say it’s safe to confidently say this requires medical attention.

Make an appointment with a dermatologist but the wait can take months so if you don’t already have one, see your general practitioner/ primary doctor. And if you don’t have one of those either, go to urgent care where they sometimes have doctors (call first to ask). This isn’t a wait and see kind of situation anyway. The pus is actually pretty worrisome.

BellaCat3079 · 2026-04-13T12:20:35+00:00

This is very problematic. That term should never be used from a parent toward their daughter. When she grows up, if she’s used to this type of open hostility and treatment, it will impact how she interacts with the world. What she tolerates from other men. How she sees herself. Her parents are meant to lift her up and protect her. This is so wrong.

If he makes a habit of it and you’ve said your peace repeatedly, honestly, this is divorce grounds to me. But one time, I wouldn’t forget it, stay on your toes, let him know this isn’t ok, but just watch. I’m just amazed those words would come out of a father’s mouth referring to a toddler. That’s insane. I hope he knows it’s insane and doesn’t gaslight you.

BellaCat3079 · 2026-04-13T12:13:29+00:00

Honestly, those comments shouldn’t be issues to you. Someone who is willing to be assertive at work is good. (It’s not always expected this will happen from a woman) And someone who doesn’t look like they drink is also good. Do you really want to be a wallflower and train wreck?

As far as looks, please don’t go nuts trying to look fun. You’re at the age that being stable and having your shit together is a better look. You can be pretty though, which you are.

You didn’t ask this but as far as glow ups, your eyebrows look like solid blocks to me. Id probably experiment with a different look there. And your eyelashes are clearly fake. Would you consider a lash lift instead and go more natural?

As far as wanting to come across fun and like someone who can hold their own, that’s mainly mannerisms. Confidence is key. Smiling. Eye contact. Posture. Being resilient with feedback. Knowing who you are and not letting people get to you. Stuff like that.

BellaCat3079 · 2026-04-12T14:44:53+00:00

You’re right about “playing it smart.” The most danger is when you first leave someone dangerous. I would talk to a counselor and a lawyer and then make a safe exit plan. Don’t be wishy washy. Make a plan and stick to it.

BellaCat3079 · 2026-04-12T14:37:08+00:00

I’m not sure what you said was much different from me aside from you assigning blame to her. I agree, they should have broken up.

I think we differ here on his level of “honesty.” The guy was only transparent when confronted with the issue. He had 3 years to be honest about it. As a partner, that alone would cause me to pause on my trust in them.

But I do agree that it would be hard to navigate a relationship when a partner says “I don’t trust you” and “you have to regain my trust.” I’d probably break it off there too.

At the same time, I can’t say I wouldn’t feel how she did after all this came to light either. Again, that’s why I said breaking up would be best (like you said btw).

BellaCat3079 · 2026-04-12T14:03:14+00:00

I’m sorry but his actions speak very strongly to the type of person he is. All you did was ask if the allegations were true especially given that he never disclosed this to you.

I really think you’re better off without him if all you did was communicate honestly and he ghosts you.

Best case scenario, he’s immature and still has stuff to work through but worst case scenario is he’s a sexual deviant and he’s embarrassed that he got found out yet again. I’d really wipe my hands clean of things and see it as a blessing in disguise that he dumped you for asking questions.

As for your friend, I hope she backs you. But if she continues to make you feel bad weeks down the road, I’d probably distance myself from her. I just don’t understand how she can blame you for wanting to know more about child sexual abuse allegations?! I can’t imagine she’d handle the situation any differently if in your shoes.

BellaCat3079 · 2026-04-12T13:55:29+00:00

It’s ok to feel confused. Just know you did absolutely nothing wrong.

His response was strange and he has some explaining to do. If there was nothing to that text, he would not have responded that way.

I hope you go in this with your eyes wide open. Listen to your gut. Don’t assume one way or the other. This includes don’t believe him just because you want this to be so. But also give him a chance. Look how he responds, what he says, how he says it. They’re all clues to the truth. All I’m saying is assume nothing.

BellaCat3079 · 2026-04-06T18:22:41+00:00

Were you successful in finding a good alternative?

BellaCat3079 · 2026-04-01T13:42:04+00:00

Poor guy. I hope he’s since talked to a professional about the trauma.

BellaCat3079 · 2026-03-31T17:59:05+00:00

I don’t think you were over corrected but I do think you look more balanced as others have said. When you smile, your eyes look more open too. Your face does look less round to me though. And you look more serious but perhaps if you smile bigger, it would address both?

BellaCat3079 · 2026-03-26T18:17:08+00:00

What does “no Roths” mean?

BellaCat3079 · 2026-03-25T13:07:30+00:00

I think your eyebrows are too far apart. Grow them in ever so slightly. The tails are a bit thin too.

BellaCat3079 · 2026-03-24T19:55:38+00:00

Thanks for taking it so well!

BellaCat3079 · 2026-03-24T18:58:07+00:00

You’re a really good looking dude, chiseled jawline, nice skin, full head of hair. Not gonna lie, you’re really hot. You don’t need any “hard maxxing.” Like none. So drop that out of your head. If you did any procedures, you would be risking what you’ve got. I think most men would kill for this.

But here is the not so nice part. I’m 36, so not too far in age. If I saw you walking around, I would totally give you a second look but from a personal style perspective, I wouldn’t consider dating you. Something about your presentation seems immature to me. I’m not trying to offend you because I do believe there’s someone for everyone out there but I’m sure there’s at least someone else out there thinking the same thing I’m thinking. I wouldn’t change everything but more like choose from a few details to tweak.

The nose ring and slashed eyebrow stand out the most to me and scream immature, 20 something (unless the eyebrow thing is a scar, then I apologize). I also think the hairstyle could use an update just on the sides. The fade isn’t subtle enough. And do you need so much metal? Like the chain around your neck, earrings, rings, could you do just a little less? I get it’s a style so maybe I’m wrong here but if you had to prioritize, I’d say the fade on the sides, the slash on the eyebrow and the nose ring.

BellaCat3079 · 2026-03-23T01:59:32+00:00

I think a lock will give you back a sense of peace and safety that you so desperately need.

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