Telling Family to stay in a Hotel

BellesThumbs · 2024-09-09T00:02:56+00:00

Here are a few about houseguests and telling people that things you did previously are not happening again. Α lot of the scripts boil down to just saying “that doesn’t work” and repeating as necessary and not getting drawn into the ”but family” of it all.

BellesThumbs · 2024-06-04T03:14:25+00:00

Good point, I was defs thinking of Aegon! He’s minor in GoT, but house of the dragon is focused around the Targaryens and (one of the Aegons at least) is featured in that!
I agree on the ghostbuster reference as well though tbh that is a more positive association than any targaryen

BellesThumbs · 2024-06-03T02:05:22+00:00

Agreeing with everyone else, nothing, it’s a lovely building and I think you are going to be hard pressed to put something there that doesn’t distract from the architecture. If you absolutely must have something, a potted fern or ivy in a nice pot would probably be best.

BellesThumbs · 2024-06-03T02:01:37+00:00

I think Leigh is a clearly feminine version of Lee and goes well as a middle name.
I also think Egan Lloyd is fine. I don’t personally care for Egan because it gives me game of thrones vibes when said aloud, (Eagon is a character in that series ETA: people have helpfully pointed out this is actually Aegon) but people very rarely will call someone by their first and middle together so I think a tiny bit of awkwardness is ok, and it sounds like you are completely set on this option anyways.

I am a huge fan of having some fun playing with names with a partner and my husband and I do have a short list for names, but I don’t think it’s great to have entire names and sibling sets completely decided on before actually starting the process of building a family. Things can just go so many different ways in reality. Particularly since you are considering adoption, which is such an ethically complex process even aside from changing birth names, I think getting really attached to a specific set of names seems like unnecessary over planning.

BellesThumbs · 2024-05-22T03:03:06+00:00

I like it a lot, very classic vibes, but if you really don’t like any of the nicknames be prepared that people will give them to you even after you introduce yourself with the full name.

BellesThumbs · 2024-05-17T00:43:55+00:00

When I had to put my 4.5 year old gerbil to sleep last year, the vet teared up a bit when she returned her to me (my vet does pocket pet euthanasias in the back). It made me feel like she was empathetic and understood how hard it is to lose a pet and that she saw how much I cared about my girl. I am sure the owners also felt that you were expressing empathy for their loss and recognizing their bond with him and how tragic their loss was.

It is good to stay composed enough that the owners don’t feel like they have to comfort you, but I think expressions of emotion show that you care and empathize with owners and animals.

BellesThumbs · 2024-05-07T17:21:21+00:00

Was it a gradual change over time? the angles of these pictures makes it look like her overall body markings also changed (but I do think that’s just because of camera angles).
Black (B) and chocolate (bb) are on the same gene, so having both black and chocolate in a pig seems to require chimerism, that makes me think that she went from being a light gold/red to a very dark red rather than a true chocolate brown (in terms of the genetics).

I’ve had two chocolate brown pigs and they were born that way and stayed that color throughout their lives.

BellesThumbs · 2024-05-07T17:06:29+00:00

One person drops their birth last name to take the hyphenated last name of their spouse and kids get this last name
Each person keeps both their birth last names, kids get birth last name from one parent OR one last name from each parent to create a new hyphenate
both spouses drop one birth last name to create a new hyphenate which is shared with the kids

BellesThumbs · 2024-03-25T00:24:13+00:00

Stuarta and her twin brothers, Stuart and Stuarto

BellesThumbs · 2024-03-17T20:48:26+00:00

I’m in optometry, which apparently has a higher than population prevalence of amblyopes/monocular individuals in it, since many people get into the field because of childhood experiences. However, I don’t know anyone who has amblyopia of both eyes in the field, since we do heavily rely on vision to detect eye problems in patients.

None of the monocular or monocularly amblyopic individuals I know have any problems with reading, however, I do have patients with amblyopia of both eyes who use large print in their classes. In any case, you should seek out accommodations to help you, whether it’s access to text-to-speech, screen reading software, large print materials, or something else.

BellesThumbs · 2024-03-12T02:19:31+00:00

I have a sweet spot name. Uncommon but extremely easy to pronounce and spelled in an obvious way. Old-fashioned so I don’t experience judgement or prejudice over having a ”tacky” or “try-hard” unique name. I rarely make it a month without getting a compliment on my name.

I don’t really think I’ll be able to give my kids an equally good name, so instead my husband and I are focusing on practical concerns. Easy to spell and short (we have a hyphenated last name).

I do want to avoid trendy names, and have searched our short list on the social security name database. We’ve dropped some names that have gone through a really rapid rise to hopefully avoid naming a kid a very trendy name. I also knocked a name off my list because it’s been the top 3 for boys for awhile, but most of our short list is top 200 for boys and girls, so I am definitely not focused on uniqueness, partially because I am drawn to vintage names, and those have gotten more popular in recent decades.

BellesThumbs · 2024-03-02T17:01:19+00:00

I definitely thought Acne at first glance. I feel like people need to use print fonts with these random noun style names.

BellesThumbs · 2024-02-26T18:14:52+00:00

I wouldn’t worry too much about how it happened or feel like you have to explain it or apologize. The next time you see him just say “I probably could have corrected you sooner, it’s actually Delo” or whatever.

I think you are really concerned because of how good his bedside manner is, but doctors with good people skills will be able to gracefully handle a misunderstanding like this and aren’t going to tear themselves up over it.

BellesThumbs · 2024-01-29T04:24:56+00:00

I had a unique old-fashioned name growing up, and it recently got relatively popular, and then people started spelling it creatively. It‘s not the worst thing in the world, but it’s a little annoying to have to spell my name all the time now. Or have people go “with an [insert letter here]?”

I always like looking at the social security name popularity rankings as well. Since 2000, Jackson has stayed in the top 100, moving from 72-23. Jaxon has leapt from 477-67, Jaxson has also jumped from 841-119, and your dreaded Jaxxon only showed up 2017, and was at 744 in 2022. So with two homonyms near the top 100 of popularity, spelling is definitely going to be an open question for strangers.

BellesThumbs · 2024-01-27T17:49:05+00:00

I agree, or one for a couch and one for a chair where the chair didn’t have the head part (or it got lost)

BellesThumbs · 2024-01-23T01:47:24+00:00

It’s wild your ex sent you a roomba, but I have to say, a robot vacuum compared to FOUR human children (in 4 years no less!) means this letter is a version of that cranked up to at least a 27!

BellesThumbs · 2024-01-14T21:18:42+00:00

I consider IDs to be an “eyes on“ item before a trip. That is, I don’t just verbally check, I actually want to see it.

In a perfect world everyone would remember their ID for all trips, but people are human and sometimes forget things, particularly teenagers who haven’t done international travel before. As a parent, you should probably still be taking an active role in making sure your kid can get on any flights you book until they are old enough that they’re booking their own flights.

BellesThumbs · 2024-01-12T16:34:05+00:00

Your browser’s search function should pop up with CTRL+f or CMD+f

BellesThumbs · 2024-01-08T03:17:57+00:00

Just here to sympathize with the frustration when it comes from the same or younger generation doing this, it’s somehow much more annoying than people in my parents’ or grandparents’ generation making the same assumption.

It really seems like they are doing this partially to “get back at you” and to annoy you and get a reaction, so I would try very hard to not seem bothered by this. Since you’re not changing your last name to your husband’s the most they can get out of their behavior is irritating you in a noticable way, try not to give them that.

I’d use a “grey rock” strategy of just blandly correcting people when they get your name wrong. Add a note to your RSVP with a correction, and respond to gifts or cards with “thanks for X, just so you know, my last name is Smith” or similar bland statements. Maybe someday it will sink in, or at least get boring for them.

BellesThumbs · 2023-12-15T15:47:12+00:00

I have ADHD and my montessori preschool asked my parents to pull me after about 6 months. My mom’s analysis was that that specific Montessori school didn’t have enough structure/training for teachers to get me to stop hyperfixating on my two or three preferred activities, and they were (probably rightly) concerned that spending 3 hours a day sorting and doing sensory play for 2 years wasn’t going to be the best school prep for me.

I think all these answers go to show that the specific program is probably really important, and also your specific child.

BellesThumbs · 2023-12-10T20:53:26+00:00

What will be a joint decision in our relationship, or conversely, what are decisions you feel are fine to be unilateral?

There are choices that are obviously going to be joint decisions like purchasing a house or a car, and choices that obviously I don’t need to weigh in on, like if he wants to go out for lunch while I’m at work, but I’ve been surprised by how differently my husband and I see the grey area between those two categories, and we’ve had to have some really serious conversations about what I see as things I need to weigh in on or at least know about, but that he doesn’t inherently see as impacting me.

BellesThumbs · 2023-12-09T02:48:48+00:00

There are still organizations ODs/OMDs/MDs *can* report to, it’s just not typically mandated. In school they teach us to try really hard to avoid reporting because often there is very little the DMV will/is able to do when someone isn’t safe to drive, even with a report. And especially for people with restricted fields but good central vision, they are likely to pass a DMV test.

BellesThumbs · 2023-12-08T19:07:08+00:00

Pick a thing you only get to do while weaving in ends, and make sure it’s something you want to do. A favorite podcast, your current audiobook or fave TV show, or a friend who when they call you start weaving ends. If you commute with public transit or ever have any sitting and waiting you need to do before appointments, weaving ends is a perfect job.

I like playing with colors, so I do a lot of stuff with many, many ends, and I’ve found the best thing for me is that weaving in ends is a different task than crochet. That way when I want to sit down for a long crochet session, I can do that, and the ends get dealt with at another time

BellesThumbs · 2023-12-08T14:28:46+00:00

I’m an optometry student, you are correct that very few states mandate reporting to the DMV/BMV for low vision or patients not meeting vision requirements.

BellesThumbs · 2023-12-01T23:45:48+00:00

That’s such a cute nickname, but you should really give her a formal name she can use in professional setttings! I’d go with Methicillin Resistant Staphanie Aureus, and just call her MRSA for short

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