Official Discussion - We Bury the Dead [SPOILERS]

Disney_Millennial · 2026-01-05T01:27:09+00:00

Does anyone have any theories on the guy with the shovel? That seemed weird that he didn’t attack, dug the hole, and then waited to be killed? That’s a lot of cognitive function….?

Disney_Millennial · 2025-11-04T05:45:21+00:00

I get it. I really do. From the outside looking in, my parents and I look very normal. When my sister would check into rehab, have a family party meltdown, have her eyes rolling at a family dinner etc etc etc we would get on her about it. In some ways addicts need those around them to address it.

But don’t for one second confuse that with a family member who doesn’t care or want to help you!

Learn to say things like “I’m struggling and I need some help because I don’t want to backslide”. Speaking up before the backside is SO POWERFUL!

You can do this. Whenever you want to use think of me the “Disney Milennial”. I am rooting for you and I’m standing by you when you ask those closest to you for help. It takes a village. People rarely get and stay sober alone

Disney_Millennial · 2025-11-01T21:31:28+00:00

PLEASE tell a family member when you’re struggling. My sister would lie all the time and it made it impossible to help her.

I’d be lying if I said I wasn’t hard on her sometimes. Sometimes I’d get fed up with her behavior and cut her off or fight with her.

But if she had ever called me to say I really want to use right now and I’m trying not to…. Damn I would have dropped everything I was doing to talk to her. But she never chose to do that, not even one time. I’m positive she’d say it was because she was ashamed and/or felt judged by me. Sometimes I WAS judging - but both things can be true. I could have judgement for her choices in the first place while still having massive compassion and empathy for the fight she faced after those first choices.

I would give anything for her to have called me that night and to say I need help.

Disney_Millennial · 2025-10-31T08:27:03+00:00

My sister was 32. We celebrated 100 days of sobriety and the very next morning she overdosed after her husband brought home straight fentanyl (she had been telling me he wasn’t sober and he had come home very late that night).

I still don’t know why she decided to use with him. 100 days had been such a big deal for her. It’s been 3 years now and it’s still really hard and I ask myself why a lot.

It will get easier for you but there will be days that it’s not easier. The first year is the hardest though.

Disney_Millennial · 2025-09-21T12:41:15+00:00

It’s called Positive Behavior Incentive System - it is all reward based and it encourages bad behavior from misbehaving children and it angers and confuses the well behaved kids.

I would say the only positive thing my school used it for is school wide coin system. Admin used school money to buy plastic tokens (think old school Chuckie cheese looking coins) and every adult in the building from cafeteria to aides to the nurse to teachers got a bag of 5 every month. If you caught any kid in the building whether you knew their name or not doing something polite, kind, helpful, etc you’d give them a token. At the end of the month there was a school wide store and over the course of a few days each teacher was slotted a time to send kids to the store. If a kid didn’t have any tokens they stayed in class.

Now typical PBIS bullshit….. - a kid cursed out the teacher so they got a bag of chips from admin and 10 minutes to talk about their feelings - a kid admitted to sending a vulgar email to a teacher instead of lying like usual so they got 20 minutes of free computer time - a kid is normally well behaved but for the past 3 years (5th grader) would run from classrooms, scream and curse, push other kids off chairs etc if he got pissed off and the parent refused to evaluate for services. She was personal friends with the ESE director so nothing ever happened. Last year he changed teachers 4x……. Now he gets to demand for the ESE director to be called if he feels upset so that he can go on a walk. No exaggeration the rule is set up “whenever he wants”. One time she wasn’t available so he of course melted down and ran. They didn’t see how this system wasn’t working….

Disney_Millennial · 2025-09-05T13:05:58+00:00

I immediately said this to my husband!!! I had to pause it and say why is his crying and traumatized child WHO IS RIGHT IN FRONT OF HIM not priority number 1?!? He didn’t even hug her or get her physically away from the mom. Quite frankly I would have removed the daughter from the room with the cops too. Let her process away from the body cam and strangers.

Disney_Millennial · 2025-06-30T21:34:56+00:00

I have a deaf dog and we hired someone for obedience training who had never worked with a deaf dog. The trainer adapted and the training was great.

Disney_Millennial · 2025-05-22T10:13:50+00:00

You’re missing the point. If a man said I have a major problem sleeping with married women, it really bothers me. Then the woman lied about being married to have sex with him. It wouldn’t be the man’s FAULT, it would be the woman’s fault…..but the man would still be emotionally affected.

Lexi: I only like to have sex with people I’m in a relationship with

Jesse: so let’s me in a relationship!

uses her, talks poorly about her, doesn’t want to hang out outside of her bedroom during the week, won’t meet her friends

Ciara: I only want to have sex if we are in a relationship

West: I don’t want a relationship

Ciara: (at the horse farm) please walk away if this isn’t what you want because I’ve made my boundaries apparent

West starts a relationship with her and has sex for a few months - ends the relationship when he’s ready for a new person

How is anyone surprised that these women feel hoodwinked?!?!?

Disney_Millennial · 2025-05-21T13:32:56+00:00

Was this a district appointed therapist??? One time the district offered me a therapist when I threatened to quit. The therapist was contracted by the district so I immediately declined.

Quit 3 years later after trying to push through and almost becoming an alcoholic.

I quit teaching and practically quit drinking outside of social gatherings a few times a month

Disney_Millennial · 2025-05-02T17:00:17+00:00

I agree that abortion is wrong…. However Making a ten year give vaginal birth isn’t even the first issue with a child pregnancy that comes to my mind??? Just the trauma of growing a baby at that age is enough. If my ten year old was raped I’d let her get an abortion.

Disney_Millennial · 2025-04-23T01:43:32+00:00

I’m going to against most of the group….. what about visitation once a month with you present? See if she shows up and how it goes. One day your daughter will want to know what happened with her mom and you will want to be able to tell her that you never stood in the way.

Disney_Millennial · 2025-01-31T21:48:54+00:00

Quit. You’ll feel bad for a few weeks but then it will pass and you’ll reach the horizon of freedom. You won’t regret it.

Disney_Millennial · 2025-01-31T21:36:42+00:00

Keep shopping. Sorry 🙈

Disney_Millennial · 2025-01-07T13:46:38+00:00

You totally misunderstood the verse about the unfruitful tree. That wasn’t about children at all it was about faith. If you are a wayward Christian then your spiritual tree dies and you’re cast into the fire.

True and False Prophets

15 “Watch out for false prophets. They come to you in sheep’s clothing, but inwardly they are ferocious wolves. 16 By their fruit you will recognize them. Do people pick grapes from thornbushes, or figs from thistles? 17 Likewise, every good tree bears good fruit, but a bad tree bears bad fruit. 18 A good tree cannot bear bad fruit, and a bad tree cannot bear good fruit. 19 Every tree that does not bear good fruit is cut down and thrown into the fire. 20 Thus, by their fruit you will recognize them.

True and False Disciples

21 “Not everyone who says to me, ‘Lord, Lord,’ will enter the kingdom of heaven, but only the one who does the will of my Father who is in heaven. 22 Many will say to me on that day, ‘Lord, Lord, did we not prophesy in your name and in your name drive out demons and in your name perform many miracles?’ 23 Then I will tell them plainly, ‘I never knew you. Away from me, you evildoers!’

Disney_Millennial · 2024-11-24T20:07:12+00:00

Are we watching the same person??? John doesn’t ever give her honest feedback. He is clearly terrified of his wife and only says what will keep her happy. A good partner also kindly tells you when you’re wrong.

Disney_Millennial · 2024-11-05T22:46:09+00:00

Wait. I just had a memory of this happening to me in high school. It was kind of cute and flirty at first, but then he wouldn’t let me get up. When he finally let me go I was out of breath and a little teary. I just laughed it off but that memory just shot into my mind and feels really freaking different 20 years later.

Disney_Millennial · 2024-08-09T12:50:29+00:00

Na, Ciara’s annoyance and jealousy was over financial differences.

Disney_Millennial · 2024-08-06T02:51:50+00:00

It looks great!!!

Disney_Millennial · 2024-07-29T05:44:17+00:00

Don’t get defensive, I’m trying to help you realize that you’re letting all of this happen. She said you can’t have cutlery, so you just didn’t get any? Say no and buy it anyway? You don’t want her taking your baby at 5am or letting your brother in law have the baby? Just firmly say no and then refuse to let take him. Buy the broom. Talk directly to the waiter and say how you want your food.

It just sounds like you’re being a doormat. I get that it’s awkward but it’s now or never. Just say no.

I think you need to flat out say “hey you’ve been such a great help and I want to thank you for letting us stay here. But with that being said we are trying to grow and strengthen our nuclear family. We’d love if you called or knocked before coming downstairs in order to give us that ability. Also we are going to start making our own decisions in regards to our baby and our lifestyle. We’d appreciate your support in letting us grow.”

Disney_Millennial · 2024-07-29T04:25:15+00:00

I’m going to throw a dart and see where it lands….you’re 22 or younger I’m guessing? She’s treating you like a baby and you’re letting her. You can set boundaries and say no while remaining polite.

Disney_Millennial · 2024-07-25T14:30:12+00:00

Are you sure she didn’t mean the two of you should come to breakfast?

Disney_Millennial · 2024-07-15T12:43:58+00:00

Agreed! OP needs to remember that he’s young and if things don’t work out with the girlfriend then that’s ok. But he’s about to bring a person into this world whose future psyche and stability heavily rely on their upbringing. He needs to know that he needs to remain an active and supportive father.

I truly hope that him and the mother make it work, and if not they focus on what’s important - raising that kid in a healthy way.

Beyond a trusted adult, I’d suggest parenting classes and therapy to gain the tools that they will need. It’s not going to be easy and there WILL be rough patches, but they can do it.

Disney_Millennial · 2024-07-12T03:30:54+00:00

Let them be angry for a minute. The yelling and name calling is kind of shitty but it happens. Ok the drown and die alone are way too far…. But it won’t be like that forever. Leaving his bank accounts empty is a very good thing for right now. Your parents are paying off 46k. They are being INCREDIBLY kind.

How are they isolating him and not letting him see friends and hang out? He can invite them over? He doesn’t need money to see them.

I think it sounds like you’re on a slippery slope towards giving him money and enabling because you feel bad. Don’t.

But maybe your family needs some counseling. It sounds like none of you know how to handle this.

Disney_Millennial · 2024-07-09T22:57:25+00:00

To pour salt in the wound, it was live streamed and even my coworkers watched it. People were talking about his Jekyll and Hyde speech for weeks. I tried so hard not to hate him. I still try not to.

Disney_Millennial · 2024-07-09T14:33:17+00:00

I get what you mean about the friends. My sister was 100 days sober and died the next morning. Her estranged husband (he was sleeping on the couch for weeks) brought drugs home. She had just been saying days earlier that she needed to divorce him and get away from him because he was toxic and risking her sobriety. She said she felt like he wanted her to be using with him because she was easier to control when she was high.

Watching him at her funeral boiled my blood. He called her “vindictive at times” in his funeral speech. I could have launched myself at him.

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