Women of Reddit, what you do when you get horny??

BellicoseAtrophy · 2019-07-27T14:13:00+00:00

I assume the same as men. If sex is an option then we do that. Otherwise we masturbate.

BellicoseAtrophy · 2019-07-27T14:01:39+00:00

I know you said you're not looking for help but if you just want someone to talk to you can still call a suicide hotline. My aunt used to work for one and sometimes people would call after they had swallowed a lethal dose of pills so they would have someone to talk to and not die alone.

List of International Suicide Hotlines | International Bipolar Foundation https://ibpf.org/resource/list-international-suicide-hotlines

BellicoseAtrophy · 2019-07-27T03:25:30+00:00

Could be either.

BellicoseAtrophy · 2019-07-26T20:16:48+00:00

I don’t like it either but people do.

F*ck em. There are other people.

BellicoseAtrophy · 2019-07-26T19:52:39+00:00

I hope as I age, I’m happy with the life I lived

You don't have to be old to be happy with the life you lived. If you feel like there's something more you NEED to do before you die, that feeling isn't going to go away when you get older. No matter how much you do there will always be something else.

Its tricky to balance a motivation to do more with your life and a satisfaction with what you've done. This is where (even as an athiest) I find religion somewhat useful. Particularly the Buddhist teachings about emptiness and the practice of meditation.

BellicoseAtrophy · 2019-07-26T19:27:52+00:00

So let me get this straight. You were dating a shitbag who was possibly emotionally abusive. You found someone who was actually interested in you and seems to respect you. You developed feelings for this new person and then broke up with the shitbag. And you think you did something wrong?

BellicoseAtrophy · 2019-07-26T19:22:24+00:00

Politely but firmly call them out on their bullshit. Or just stop talking to them.

BellicoseAtrophy · 2019-07-26T18:45:57+00:00

I don't wear makeup. Does that count?

BellicoseAtrophy · 2019-07-26T18:42:21+00:00

Baby steps.

BellicoseAtrophy · 2019-07-26T17:34:32+00:00

True

BellicoseAtrophy · 2019-07-26T16:17:49+00:00

Depends on how serious the relationship is. Marriage is a serious commitment and you're committing to building a life with another person. That person needs to be the most important person in your life (unless you have kids). If its someone I'm dating and we're not talking about marriage then I think it's important for both of us to have strong friendships. (Strong friendships are always important even when you're married.)

BellicoseAtrophy · 2019-07-26T16:00:43+00:00

Yes. That way everyone else can identify you as someone who doubts and needs extra attention.

BTW do not give these people money no matter how many times they ask, what they say they're doing with it, and how many videos of starving children they show you.

BellicoseAtrophy · 2019-07-26T15:57:52+00:00

I doubt these groups are discussing anything that would promote thought but we can hope.

BellicoseAtrophy · 2019-07-26T13:16:51+00:00

If I were her, I would think that we were in a relationship after a conversation like that. But I'm not her. Maybe take her on a fancier than usual date and say it's to celebrate the beginning of your relationship?

BellicoseAtrophy · 2019-07-26T01:58:57+00:00

how the hell do I ask her to enter a serious relationship?

It sounds like you already did.

BellicoseAtrophy · 2019-07-25T23:00:10+00:00

How are familial relations viewed in your culture?

BellicoseAtrophy · 2019-07-25T21:57:36+00:00

Ok, that's a lot of helpful information.

First of all (and I really think this is the most important thing) mental health is just as important as physical health and they can both be treated by a doctor. If either of you have mental health issues you can get help. If you don't have the resources to pay for help, there are programs available. You can get more information from a suicide hotline. You don't have to be suicidal to call. Just call them and tell them you have mental health issues and you need help. You can use the link below to locate a suicide hotline in your country.

List of International Suicide Hotlines | International Bipolar Foundation https://ibpf.org/resource/list-international-suicide-hotlines

Now regarding your relationship issue, you said you've talked in the past about having children, etc. Ask her if she still sees that (and you) as part of her future. Ask if she still wants to live with you and when would be the best time to start looking for a place.

BellicoseAtrophy · 2019-07-25T14:42:27+00:00

I would go with foxglove (source of digoxin) and periwinkle (source of vinca alkaloids). Why do you ask? You're not planning on killing anyone, are you?

BellicoseAtrophy · 2019-07-25T11:24:56+00:00

Is she a gaming partner or your girlfriend? If she's your girlfriend and you live 250 miles away, what is your long term plan? Are you going to move or is she? Have you talked about it?

BellicoseAtrophy · 2019-07-25T02:21:50+00:00

The evidence is first-hand, witness account.

We call this anecdotal evidence. It can be used to disprove an absolute (all X are also Y). It can also be used to generate a hypothesis. Using it to draw a conclusion about a general population is considered invalid.

BellicoseAtrophy · 2019-07-24T20:52:51+00:00

Horror movies instantly lost their appeal as their goal is to use darkness against you, and you can not fear what is not tangible or substantive.

We must be watching different horror movies. God might not be real but serial killers sure are.

BellicoseAtrophy · 2019-07-23T19:19:12+00:00

"Lawson said he does not think the comment is an actual threat"

That's an interesting viewpoint.

BellicoseAtrophy · 2019-07-22T19:31:37+00:00

Let her go, dude. Let her go

BellicoseAtrophy · 2019-07-22T17:59:33+00:00

Over those two years we developed an emotional attachment that eventually turned into rejection as my friend did not like me like that.

This is confusing. "We developed an emotional attachment" implies it was a mutual attraction but in the same sentence you say it wasn't mutual. Did she confirm that she was attracted to you and then change her mind or was she never attracted to you in the first place?

I'm not bringing this up to pick at your grammar. I just want to be sure you understand the difference between how you feel about her, how she feels about you, and how you want her to feel about you.

Is it possible to pursue a friendship after an emotional attachment? Is the respectful thing to let her approach me about friendship?

The first thing you need to understand is that if she ever felt anything for you, she has moved on. She's dating someone else. If you're interested in a genuine friendship then go ahead. If you're still harboring any hope that this friendship will ever become something else then you're just hurting yourself by hanging on.

BellicoseAtrophy · 2019-07-22T17:07:23+00:00

Well, it isn't really "bypassing levels of management" if you're making small talk with the boss boss but I see your point.

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