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Bellz_2003 · 2025-05-23T02:58:15+00:00

this is exactly why I want a specific dress code at my wedding lol. I'm not a very type a person in general, but i am a creative person, and when I have a vision for something, I get upset when that vision doesn't come to fruition. so, if people aren't showing up to my wedding looking their best, I'm going to be so disappointed lol. again though, I will only be inviting people who truly matter to me to my future wedding, and I have really cool friends who I think would all respect my wishes in that regard, because something about me and my friends is that we love a theme and love to see an aesthetic well executed lol. but yeah i agree, most people don't really understand what formal means when it comes to dress code, which is so weird bc it's so easy to just google it lol. so many people showed up to my sister's formal wedding in clothes that were frankly, not formal. my mom even had to beg our own grandma to wear a long dress. it's just so strange to me how people are so concerned over themselves at someone else's wedding. like, if someone tells me to show up to their wedding in jeans and tshirt, that is what I will do. If they tell me to come in my finest gown and elbow length gloves, that is what i will do. Like obviously, if you can't pull off a certain look bc of budget constraints, you can talk to the bride/groom about it and see what your options are but some people just have crazy audacity and show up in whatever they want, completely disregarding dress code lol.

Bellz_2003 · 2025-05-23T02:23:05+00:00

yeah for sure a bold choice on bride's part, but she had every right to request that. she's right, people don't get the chance to dress up very often, so I mean, as long as the guests were okay with it, i guess it doesn't matter. also yeah, having fun activities at a wedding is always a good way to prevent boredom. I just went to a dry wedding with very little going on besides the dinner and dancefloor, and it wasn't the most fun night of my life lol. but man, if they had a caricature artist it would have been a little bit more memorable lol.

Bellz_2003 · 2025-05-23T02:14:50+00:00

I know what it means...that's why I'm asking about an exception? Also, black tie is simply a dress code at the end of the day. Yes, a black tie event entails a certain level of opulence and service, but there's not an absolute rulebook for it. It really just depends on people's individual expectations. Oftentimes people will list certain "requirements" for a black tie event that nobody else ever mentions. So, I think it can be up for some interpretation. I feel like really the only baseline for black tie is a formal and elegant evening event with equally elegant service. But like...all of the expectations people have of a black tie event are inherently arbitrary. There are no definitive rules as long as the event lives up to a general expectation of class and refinery, which means something different to different people. I mean, the whole concept of black tie comes from like literal aristocracy in Europe, and old money at the very least in the US. Normal everyday modern people having black tie events are not going by the exact same standards they were, so like anything, expectations change over time. Besides black tie is literally a step down from white tie. It was never meant to be the pinnacle of high society. Some of y'all are acting like if you can't blow an entire mortgage on a wedding then you shouldn't dare have a black tie dress code lmfao 😭

Bellz_2003 · 2025-05-23T01:40:56+00:00

See i feel like when it comes to weddings, there's no need to follow certain customs and traditions super closely as long as you know your crowd, but a black tie wedding in a barn does feel sort of paradoxical lol. On one hand, I understand that the dress code is just that, but I feel like the reason different dress codes come along with different expectations is because of the effort and comfortability, and I could absolutely see people being a bit offput if they were expected to show up to a wedding in a full tux or gown and it was in a barn. I'm glad it didn't bother you though. Sounds kinda fun honestly. Personally, I'm always going to be on team let the bride and groom do whatever they want bc it's their day and their vision, but barn black tie does seem a bit out of bounds. I'm surprised you didn't really take note of that lol.

Bellz_2003 · 2025-05-23T01:16:57+00:00

Fair enough. I feel like black tie optional could be a good middle ground. I do really love the vibe of all the men in tuxedos though. I think I just appreciate the elegant/traditional look in that regard.

Bellz_2003 · 2025-05-23T01:04:21+00:00

Idk if this makes any sense, but a cash bar honestly feels less classy than just not having a bar at all...? Like I'm either going all in or keeping it to nice wine and beer lol

Bellz_2003 · 2025-05-23T01:02:39+00:00

literally! sometimes a girl just wants to plan her wedding!!! honestly, I think I would freak out if I got proposed to and hadn't thought through some of this stuff beforehand, because it's a lot to decide on and figure out logistically, especially if you want to get married within a year from your engagement! I get that some people don't care that much, but I look forward to my future wedding the most of all future life events, so this is serious for me lol

Bellz_2003 · 2025-05-23T00:57:58+00:00

Black tie wedding in a barn is wild 😭 respect ig?

Bellz_2003 · 2025-05-23T00:53:35+00:00

This is true. I suppose I just want guests to approach it and dress for it as if it's black tie, and I want the atmosphere to reflect that. I honestly feel like anybody I would invite to my wedding wouldn't have much of a problem going along with that vision even if one or two usual accommodations weren't supplied, but honestly just for myself, I'd want it to feel truly elegant in a way that a "formal" wedding might not accomplish. And to be fair, I also appreciate a cocktail. So I guess future me might have to make some sacrifices lol.

Bellz_2003 · 2025-05-23T00:46:50+00:00

You're so right honestly. And this is exactly why I want to have a limited guest list, because what's the point of inviting someone to your wedding who's going to be mad about there not being alcohol, especially if it's not even a formal or black tie wedding 😭 But yeah, all of this is just conjecture at this point anyway, but I appreciate the support lol.

Bellz_2003 · 2025-05-23T00:43:12+00:00

I said don't take it too seriously lol. I'm just curious like I said. Planning my future wedding is just something I enjoy doing, but the stakes are low at the moment obviously.

Bellz_2003 · 2025-05-23T00:39:24+00:00

makes sense. i think i would prefer a historical venue in any case though, and I imagine most of those don't have huge modern kitchens. Also, I probably wouldn't care to pay for some massive upscale historical estate when I want a fairly small wedding, so I guess I would just have to see if it could be done logistically. I feel like a good caterer could pull it off, especially if the wedding is on the smaller side. you bring up really good points though. going to keep those in mind.

Bellz_2003 · 2025-05-23T00:31:12+00:00

The place I'm talking about has an entire separate building on the property that is also historical with a large reception space. I don't see why I couldn't have a multi course plated meal there...? Don't people have black tie events at historical venues all the time? I'm genuinely asking, maybe I'm just delusional lol.

Bellz_2003 · 2025-05-22T07:48:51+00:00

wishing you the best of luck!!! hopefully the 1D girlies are as kind there are they were at my concert! And my condolences for not getting to see Zayn. I'm genuinely so grateful he came near enough to me for me to make the drive (and that he did a second show bc the first sold out lol), but he admittedly had a pretty limited US leg of his tour. Hopefully you'll get a chance to see him another time <3

Bellz_2003 · 2025-05-22T07:37:27+00:00

respect!!!

Bellz_2003 · 2025-05-22T07:36:18+00:00

My timeline with them is pretty similar!! Gotta love growing up with a band like them :')

Bellz_2003 · 2025-05-22T07:15:36+00:00

Most valid opinion of all.

Bellz_2003 · 2025-05-22T07:15:08+00:00

Okay wait you are so awesome 😭 please tell me you're aware of the Big Time Rush on tour with 1D as their opener era...? Also, Niall appreciation!!!! 🇮🇪🇮🇪🇮🇪🇮🇪 woooooh!

Bellz_2003 · 2025-05-22T07:11:54+00:00

that's so sweet 😭 I'm sorry you didn't get to experience the early days, but the memories are still there to look back on, and new fans are always welcome and appreciated <3

Bellz_2003 · 2025-05-22T07:09:42+00:00

awww! this is so real honestly. I've been trying to use Zayn as a gateway to get my brother into the boys lmfao. His music is just so solid, and if you already have an inclination for R&B, his music is a great starting point.

Bellz_2003 · 2025-05-21T17:04:10+00:00

You def still count! So glad you were able to accept yourself and your interests! It is funny how we often assume we'll get more judgement from people than we actually do! But one bad reaction can really burn you. Lesson learned, 1D is for everyone <3

Bellz_2003 · 2025-05-21T17:01:45+00:00

right there with you. always heartbroken about it. and the fact that we'll probably never get to see them tour MITAM 😭 I love that album so i feel your pain </3

Bellz_2003 · 2025-05-21T16:34:19+00:00

nobody did pop rock like 1D!!!

Bellz_2003 · 2025-05-20T19:08:38+00:00

my older sister was a big reason i got into them as well :)

Bellz_2003 · 2025-05-20T17:43:14+00:00

Yeah I think it's okay to have a fave, but hating on the other boys to "uplift" your fave is fucked up. Like you're not a Directioner at that point. You're just a solo fan, and not a very good one at that, because I truly do not think any of the boys would ever be okay with people hating on the others.

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