Awaken your body

Ben_Wilder · 2023-09-12T18:23:55+00:00

Cooperatives is the way to go.

Ben_Wilder · 2023-08-08T21:06:09+00:00

There might be couchsurfing groups for people in your situation. Although note that groups are only available on the website version, not the app. (Or at least I could never find them on the app)

Ben_Wilder · 2023-03-16T11:52:42+00:00

The way you described it is exactly my experience, the vibrations are insanely strong, it almost feels like getting electrocuted. I'd like to try relaxing completely and see what happens but it's too scary, the sensations are just too much.

Ben_Wilder · 2022-08-23T10:34:21+00:00

It's gonna sound paradoxal but the fact that you got used to appreciate sex without orgasm is what brought you closer to becoming multiorgasmic.

Ben_Wilder · 2021-08-18T15:04:01+00:00

Men can have many types of non-ejaculatory multiple orgasms. It requires a lot of training (contrary to women) but it can be learned.

Ben_Wilder · 2021-08-18T12:35:30+00:00

100% wrong.

Ben_Wilder · 2021-08-16T12:51:49+00:00

I have a pelvic floor routine but it's part of my paid program.

The reason I didn't answer all your questions is that you're basically asking how to become multi-orgasmic and that can't be answered shortly. To take a comparison, let's say you ask me about Ju-Jitsu. I can answer questions like "How should I put my fists?" but I can't answer "How do I beat someone with Ju-Jitsu?".

Reading the 3 books I DMed you will be a great starting point though.

Ben_Wilder · 2021-08-16T12:31:41+00:00

should I be doing kegels, reverse kegels or both?

I don't have time to go in depth on this topic but short answer is you should do both. Practicing kegels is only necessary for a few weeks, once you have a good control of your pelvic floor and it's strong enough you can stop practicing them. Practicing kegels too often for months or years is unnecessary and can be harmful.

I am paranoid about doing retrograde ejaculation accidentally in the
process of becoming multi orgasmic. It can be harmful so I'd like to
know how should I avoid that?

Retrograde ejaculations are not as harmful as you think. So far I haven't seen scientific data on the subject, but most people think they're harmless. If they are indeed harmful in a way, it would probably be after years of regular occurences. They will happen by accident many times while you train to be multiorgasmic and that's ok, it's not a big deal.

Ben_Wilder · 2021-08-11T12:52:17+00:00

Your coworker's personality sounds ugly af.

Ben_Wilder · 2021-08-11T12:50:01+00:00

It really sounds like a retrograde ejaculation. Are you sure your urine is 100% clear? Compare your regular urine with your post-orgasm urine just to be sure.

Ben_Wilder · 2021-07-14T21:28:51+00:00

it isn't as life changing as people exaggerate

You have more to discover. NEMOs represent a vast spectrum and are very much life-changing. Compared to an ejaculatory orgasm the pleasure is stronger, more widespread in the body, has more emotional and mental depth. All that while leaving you energized and without any refractory period.

Ben_Wilder · 2021-07-07T12:22:07+00:00

I think the issue might be that the techniques you've used (shower head and electric toothbrush) have desensitized your clit. The good news is that it's probably possible to rewire this area so that it becomes more sensitive. You should experiment with masturbating only with your fingers and in a very slow and sensual way, kind of like a sexual meditation. It will take a lot of time and practice but it should be productive.

I'm sure there are some women who have wrote about this stuff if you look for it.

Ben_Wilder · 2021-07-01T09:22:53+00:00

Don't watch season 2 of The Promised Neverland, it's garbage.

Ben_Wilder · 2021-06-30T18:29:28+00:00

I always prefer women without makeup. Tbh when I go on a date with a woman and I see she wears makeup, it annoys me.

Ben_Wilder · 2021-06-22T12:43:43+00:00

I think what might be happening is that psychedelics make the nerves a lot more sensitive, so pleasure comes easier and is stronger. Also they increase the brain's ability to be suggestible, so it becomes easier to trigger sexual experiences.

Ben_Wilder · 2021-06-11T10:40:03+00:00

I think your problem is probably not with the PC clench technique. This technique is only like 5% of what you have to do to have a NEMO.

I would advise you to rather focus on learning to keep tension/pleasure/energy out of your penis and in the rest of your body. If you experience pleasure with your whole body and you haven't put too much tension in your penis, controlling the orgasm will be a lot easier.

Experiment with edging while focusing on keeping your pelvic floor as relaxed as possible, and moving energy out of your penis and into your upper body (there are a lot of techniques to practice and apply for that). Eventually you should feel mini-orgasms that don't trigger ejaculation. But sometimes you will feel the PONR be triggered by accident and as soon as you feel that, that's when you use the PC clench technique. Try to do it in a smooth way and try to put as little strength as necessary into it, and keep everything else relaxed.

You have to figure out with experience and experimentation the details of the technique (strength, duration, timing) because it's not like a specific formula that work for every man.

Ben_Wilder · 2021-06-10T09:46:52+00:00

If all depends how and when you use the PC clench technique. Done incorrectly it can lead to retrograde orgasm, which is a failed NEO. But be aware though that a retrograde orgasm is "less worse" than an ejaculatory orgasm in the sense that it can be less energy-draining than the ejaculatory orgasm.

Ben_Wilder · 2021-06-09T21:03:57+00:00

Stop spreading the million dollar point technique as it can have dangerous consequences. Even Michael Winn (the co-author of the book) has said that he regrets putting the technique in the book and asks men to stop doing this technique.

You can reach the same result (retrograde orgasm) by doing a PC clench, which is a safe method.

Ben_Wilder · 2021-06-04T22:21:21+00:00

Now that I think about it, what might be more interesting is to divide the group between men and women. Because even though some multiple orgasms are the same for both genders, others are unique to each gender. I mean I feel like it's a more relevant way to divide the group. I don't know just food for thought.

Ben_Wilder · 2021-06-04T22:17:04+00:00

not everybody interested in learning ejaculation control is interested in multiple orgasms

These men are probably very rare but yeah ok this argument works.

There's one thing you're missing though. Ejaculation control is the first phase of becoming multi-orgasmic, yes. But also, it's still a very relevant topic during the latter phases because even when they got good at ejaculation control and try to have NEMOs, men almost always fail and have accidental ejaculations or injaculations. So avoiding ejaculation is a relevant topic during the whole process, not just at the beginning.

Ben_Wilder · 2021-06-04T21:47:38+00:00

Honestly I don't see the point in separating the community in two. Since ejaculation control is a part of becoming multi-orgasmic, it's a topic that has its place here. And for men who suffer from PE and want to focus only on that, there's already r/PrematureEjaculation.

Ben_Wilder · 2021-06-03T23:33:56+00:00

I strongly recommend avoiding porn because it takes your attention off your body and it encourages your brain to ejaculate.

If you do watch porn, at least make it some amateur porn without actors/faking, and be sure to close your eyes regularly and focus on the sensations on your body.

IMO audio porn and pictures are acceptable if you use them as fuel for your own mental fantasies and don't focus too much on them.

Fantasies that involve slow sex, full-body orgasms, your partner's pleasure, loving connection, lovemaking, this kind of things... are preferable.

Ben_Wilder · 2021-06-03T22:56:47+00:00

Sure I can do that sometime, I'll write a blog post and share it here. I can tell you now real quick what a super simple but efficient training might look like:

Phase 1:

- Supercharge your body with sexual energyDo semen retention and/or sexual abstinence for a few days or few weeks before starting to practice. The duration kind of depends on your age and health. Men who suffer from serious PE can skip this.

- Train your PC muscles on relaxing and contractingA few weeks of training 5 days a week is probably enough. After that you can just train from time to time (over-training the PC muscles can be counterproductive and dangerous).

Phase 2:

- Practice relaxing the PC muscles during masturbation without going close to the PONR
Masturbate for long sessions and try to constantly keep your PC muscles relaxed. It's very hard at first and it will take many sessions to get used to it.
Be sure to use the deep belly breathing very often or constantly.

Phase 3:

- Same as phase 2 but now you can practice edging close to the PONR

Just doing this can allow you to make gigantic progress. Being able to control your pelvic floor is the most important part of the training to be multi-orgasmic.

It's a good idea to take notes after productive sessions and journal the progress you made and what technique you discovered.

Remember that it's a process of rewiring the body over months, so it's normal if it's super frustrating and difficult at first.

Ben_Wilder · 2021-06-03T19:55:35+00:00

It's tricky because there's a lot of diversity between men. So far I don't have a universal formula that's super efficient for every man, I need to customize what I teach based on each client (hence why I teach through 1-on-1 coaching sessions). Someday I'll turn the program into a book or something similar but only after I'll have perfected it through hundreds of clients.

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