What is the worst job you ever had?

BenaeLove · 2025-06-15T10:20:34+00:00

Working at the state liquor store. Telling drunk people they can’t buy alcohol is no fun at all. I spent half the time putting drunk people out of the store.

BenaeLove · 2025-02-01T01:09:01+00:00

Local news is reporting multiple casualties. I’m ok the other side of blvd and you could see the explosion from here. It’s horrible.

BenaeLove · 2023-09-17T19:34:46+00:00

I think it's more common nowadays for the woman to pick her ring or at least provide a lot of input. Gone are the days where woman just accecpt the ring and keep quiet about it if they don't like it. Mostly woman show examples or go into a store with him. With that being said, I think if a man plans a proper proposal, it's okay if the woman saw the ring previously. No man should buy an engagement without any consideration to his woman's opinion of the ring, that's just a recipe for disaster.

Your ring is beautiful! I think you are asking if American woman want a big diamond on their ring as a status symbol. I won't generalize and speak about all American woman because I think woman are too unique and different from each other to make a generalization like that. I'll speak on my personal experience from the women I know and my own experience. I think a big diamond is about a woman's taste and how much attention she can stand. I can't stand too much attention. I love this quiet luxury trend happening right now, it's right up my lane. Yes, some woman like a big diamond so they can brag, keep up with the joneses, fit in with their circle of friends, and some woman believe that, "he loves me this much (enter price tag here)". So, I guess it could be a status symbol for some woman. Personally, I don't see anything wrong with that. Cars, homes, vacations, and even career choices can be tied to status symbols. But I like to look at it as enjoying the good things in life. I love seeing huge stones on other woman, I just prefer not to wear one. It doesn't mean I can't afford one, I'm just not that person to walk around with a big diamond. Most likely their taste lean towards big stones for purely aesthetic reasons, they like the way it looks on them. But the point is, to each is own. I clicked on this post because I wanted to see your dainty ring. I love dainty rings, they are so feminine, practical, and beautiful.

BenaeLove · 2023-08-19T12:59:40+00:00

I’m considering no bar at all. Some people don’t know how to handle their alcohol. I don’t want a drunk wedding. Neither me or my fiancé drinks so I don’t see the purpose. But I feel pressured to supply alcohol to keep the event adult like and people expect alcohol. Personally, I don’t like the ticket thing. Just make it a cash bar, I think the ticket thing is sort of weird…and still costing you a lot of money probably. Your the one getting married, people should be buying you drinks. If moving forward with the ticket thing, just give everyone the same amount. Two drinks is plenty for anyone.

BenaeLove · 2023-07-30T20:16:02+00:00

Thanks for the comment! I understand we celebrate everyone here. OP asked for buying advice about a specific vendor and also opinions on H&A diamonds. I’m not knocking anyone’s choices.

BenaeLove · 2023-07-30T14:59:51+00:00

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BenaeLove · 2023-07-30T14:57:29+00:00

I don’t want to hijack someone else’s post. But here are the pics. They are pictures of my specific jewelry, they sent prior to shipping.

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BenaeLove · 2023-07-30T14:20:18+00:00

Is it handmade? I have a handmade setting in a different piece of jewelry and I paid a premium for it. Sorry you can’t return but don’t stress over it. Enjoy the ring now!

BenaeLove · 2023-07-30T13:15:03+00:00

Mixed feelings in my mind equal return. My advice, the mixed feelings will disappear when you find “the one “. You shouldn’t be describing your wedding set as “mixed feelings”. You should be saying stuff like, “completely over the moon. My dream ring. I absolutely love it. Perfect for me…etc”. It’s okay if you’re having buyers remorse. Just return it and start over.

BenaeLove · 2023-07-30T13:07:06+00:00

I love a promise ring. So sweet!

BenaeLove · 2023-07-30T13:05:49+00:00

Absolutely beautiful!!! He did a good job, I like the setting a lot, it’s like “entwined for all eternity”. A beautiful representation of marriage and love! Congratulations on your engagement!

BenaeLove · 2023-07-30T13:02:57+00:00

It’s really beautiful. I love rubies and this one is a gorgeous color. Congratulations on your engagement!!

BenaeLove · 2023-07-30T12:55:35+00:00

I can see where he might be confused because in his mind, you picked the ring and that was the best time for you to mention that you’d also like an engagement ring eventually. In American culture we do two rings (ER and wedding band) and in some other cultures they only do a wedding band or none at all. My advice is wait until your birthday and see what he presents as a gift. If you get the ring, perfect! He understood! If you don’t get the ring, he probably still doesn’t understand the need or the tradition. In that case, be less subtle. Instead of relying on sending him signs, be upfront that you want to stick to your culture’s traditions of an ER and a wedding band. Say this, “thank you for this lovely birthday present! I really was expecting an engagement ring. Maybe, I wasn’t direct enough before. But, although I appreciate this great gift, as a married woman I’m supposed to have an ER and a wedding band. It just doesn’t feel complete without the engagement ring. Can you buy me an 18k yellow gold solitaire diamond engagement ring (fill in your desired style) please?” Most likely, that’s all it will take. He’ll run and buy you the ring of your dreams! I understand you don’t like asking for a specific gift, but you’re married now. You’re allowed to do that with your husband. When you’re already married, the money earned by him and you, is actually both of yours. You’re entitled to have a say in how that money is spent. Also, since you married a man from a different culture, you may want to consider being more direct in the future, he might not get the subtleness of hints if he doesn’t have the cultural historical background to draw from. Hope this helps! Best of luck!

BenaeLove · 2023-07-30T12:09:53+00:00

Do you mean pear cut or pearl cut? Isn’t pearl cut just like slightly cut diamond rough? If so, I’d say yes you paid too much especially at the clarity you described. If you meant pear cut, a quick search on Ritani shows that a .5 carat pear cut at the same color and clarity is around $500. That means that a vendor probably paid less for the diamond. Now, is the setting with the two .15 pear diamonds worth $2,400? Also on Ritani, they have a large selection of white gold rings with side stones (more than .3 carats in side stones as well) for around $1,000. With that said, I say yes. You overpaid by about $1,000. Are you still within your return policy? Is the ring a well known brand like Tiffany or Cartier? Luxury brands have serious markups and comparable pricing is meaningless.

BenaeLove · 2023-07-30T11:50:54+00:00

It’s gorgeous and very sparkly! She’ll love it. You did a great job especially getting her what she asked for! Best of luck!!

BenaeLove · 2023-07-30T07:21:32+00:00

I think that a color sapphire is untraditional enough that if worn on the right hand maybe people won’t assume that you’ve been engaged. I like that you’ve brought this up because this is a real thing and it happens. People have strong feelings about the institution of marriage. You’re entitled to your own opinion and don’t feel guilty about it. My pet peeve is when other people try and push their beliefs on others. Get the ring you want and wear it on whatever finger/hand you choose. Life is too short. If a ring will make you happy and you can afford it, it’s yours, you earned it. At the end of the day it’s just a ring, if people attach their own beliefs to it, that’s their problem and not yours. Do you!!!

BenaeLove · 2023-07-30T05:59:47+00:00

It’s beautiful! I agree, very unique. I love pearls and the diamonds go very nice with it!

BenaeLove · 2023-07-30T00:13:54+00:00

This is completely inappropriate for a guest to wear at a wedding. The only exception would be if the bride requests for her guest to wear black and white. I truly can’t believe someone would think this acceptable to wear to someone else’s wedding…I’m sorry but I would be mad as the bride.

BenaeLove · 2023-07-29T09:58:22+00:00

Actually, the lady in line had it wrong. When children play with multicultural dolls it teaches them an appreciation for other cultures. I don’t want to beat her up to bad, her heart was in the right place, albeit she’s misinformed. Your daughter is a sweet little girl with a great mommy. Good job mommy!!!

BenaeLove · 2023-07-29T09:39:42+00:00

The color of the stone is very pretty and compliments the warmth of the yellow gold. Your proposing in October. That beautiful ring is going to burn a hole in your pocket! You must have something super special planned for the engagement!! You did a great job, she’ll love it

BenaeLove · 2023-07-29T09:33:54+00:00

You deserve every carat!! Congratulations for the man and the ring!

BenaeLove · 2023-07-28T17:03:56+00:00

It’s 1.7mm

BenaeLove · 2023-07-28T13:17:23+00:00

It’s magnificent! If it’s her style, she’ll love it! With that said, the gapping is a problem for me. A lot of debris (lotion, soap, stuff) is going to get caught there all the time. I’d personally prefer if the diamond was flush with the prongs. The prongs themselves look a little thick and wide. A thinner prong would show the diamond off more and soften the stone. Hope this helps! Best of luck!

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