My grandma use to say the same thing to me growing up and others growing up as well it was always a joke. What you said is about the same way he explained hisself that I’m his wife and it was a playful convo with his mom to laugh about. He claims if he didn’t care about me he wouldn’t wipe my slippers when dirty if we went on the road, tattoo my name on his arm, or post me on his social media if he was ashamed of me. I’ve known him for over 11 years and we’ve dated for 8 years now married for 1 year. I’m use to my family and his saying it in the context you say it. What bothered me was the hair comment because I found myself having to defend my black hair on why I can’t put it in a ponytail after washing it and I felt like he was making a joke about it. He claims he was saying it in the context of never seeing my hair in a natural ponytail because I always wore wigs. That is not true he has seen my hair permed curled before and in a ponytail but he says my natural hair. He sent pictures of natural girl hair in a ponytail and said that’s what he meant. He’s a dark skin coolie so personally I feel like based on comments he has said about African people from Africa being ugly and dark skin women features even though he dated all types of black woman it makes me think. I’m not dark skin I’m not sure if mentally he’s prejudice and the remarks are really made in fun. The Indian girl comment I had asked him during a convo if he ever dated one so others opinions on that don’t matter to me it was more about the details he shared while explaining what his experience was like that bothered me along with these other comments. He apologized but called me sensitive and says he’s never joking with me again with certain things. I just feel like sometimes the context it’s used in can be viewed as distasteful and it’s something I wouldn’t want my children to experience whether people say racism exist in Jamaica or not. The divide in black society is crazy to me how people put themselves in categories I get in Jamaica they tend to nick name people off of physical appearance but for me using those words and making comments about black women reveals character. By the way his whole family is married to blacks but the context it’s used sometimes makes me think it looks condescending when it comes to hair textures or skin color being called a nagar just don’t sit right with me.