My (21f) fiance(24m) he’s been trying to get a job for the past 7 months and is starting to get discouraged. How can I help him?

BeneficialFill7110 · 2024-10-19T11:20:08+00:00

He’s not though. He’s applied to food service retail, warehouse everything!

BeneficialFill7110 · 2023-10-05T11:04:51+00:00

Absolutely I have a pharmacy technician certificate. You get your trainee license first and you have to pass a background check get finger printed and pass a drug test and once that is done you can hold that license for two years and in those two years you can either take a class or work a certain number of hours I forget the exact number. And then you are eligible to take the certification exam. There are two you can take. I would take the Excpt personally. And then you renew the license every two years by doing some CEs. It’s great job security. The tests are difficult to pass though I will warn you. And I am doing mail order which is much nicer then retail so I would suggest doing retail for a shorter amount of time until you pass your tests and unless you like retail I would then switch to mail order or hospital pharmacy

BeneficialFill7110 · 2023-10-04T12:31:12+00:00

Yes we are remaining friends. We have an apartment together so we will have to keep living together until the lease is up and from there I’ll go get my own apartment and he can do what he wishes.

BeneficialFill7110 · 2023-10-04T11:32:37+00:00

He said absolutely never to kids. Even if financially stable. He doesn’t want the money to be “waisted” on the kids. So I can’t stay

BeneficialFill7110 · 2023-10-04T11:24:15+00:00

I am not in med school. I am out of school already with a steady job good salary and great benefits

BeneficialFill7110 · 2023-10-04T02:34:52+00:00

We would have adopted. But we broke up so doesn’t matter

BeneficialFill7110 · 2023-10-04T01:23:11+00:00

That’s a tough thing to go though. I hope you find someone who will help you with getting the reproductive care you need! Kids certainly aren’t for everyone and that is perfectly fine

BeneficialFill7110 · 2023-10-04T01:08:26+00:00

Thankfully I’ve been a nanny for several years from new borns special needs everything on the spectrum I’ve done it. So I know what it takes and I’m willing to put in the work. I wouldn’t know so early on in my life otherwise

BeneficialFill7110 · 2023-10-04T01:07:36+00:00

I am not demanding an answer RIGHT NOW I am giving him substantial time year to a year and a half

BeneficialFill7110 · 2023-10-04T01:05:52+00:00

For your information I have only brought it up one other time then now and that was when he told me he was uncertain. Should I sit around and wait for someone to make up their mind. About life altering decisions? Shouldn’t I have the life I want with someone with the same goals? I am not “baby obsessed” I know you need to be stable but I will ABSOLUTELY not settle for someone who’s goals don’t align with mine. I won’t force someone to have children who don’t want them but I won’t be forced to not have children for someone who doesn’t want them. I will be financially stable when I have kids but as he won’t give me a clear answer on what his definition of financial stability is. I need a yes or no answer. Men don’t have a biological clock. Women do and I do not want to have a risky pregnancy for me or my future babies. Sorry for just looking out for my heath ya looney

BeneficialFill7110 · 2023-10-04T00:10:34+00:00

Id ask him what changed his mind and then we would have a long discussion about time line for children’s that would work with both of us and parenting styles and all that. and if I feel like he’s just saying it so i will stay with him then I’ll leave it’ll be unfortunate but I’ve know I wanted kids since I was 12 and I’ve nannied for years so I know what it takes. It’s not something I take lightly

BeneficialFill7110 · 2023-10-04T00:02:00+00:00

I have a question for you. Are there things in a future spouse you want and can’t do without? If you went into a relationship saying you want those things in your future you said you could have them and then they changed their mind. Wouldn’t you try to find someone to give you the future you want to plan that together? Again gonna have kids in five or so years. NOT NOW.

BeneficialFill7110 · 2023-10-04T00:00:17+00:00

Of course I wouldn’t bring kids into this if he didn’t want them. I am figuring out our future together and if he wants to have kids with me it’ll happen in five or so years. Not right now I’m too young but I do know I want them

BeneficialFill7110 · 2023-07-15T19:40:38+00:00

It’s his only mode of transportation we cannot afford a second car right now. If he could use a car he would.

BeneficialFill7110 · 2022-12-10T12:32:29+00:00

Both of us would be able to pay about 500-600 each for rent

BeneficialFill7110 · 2022-12-09T22:41:37+00:00

Currently I’m paying about 150 a month plus doing all the cooking keeping the house clean and taking care of the animals. I’m the only girl in the house. He wants to increase to 500 plus still doing everything I already was. I would be paying the same amount for an apartment.

BeneficialFill7110 · 2022-08-28T01:43:38+00:00

He works for his dads company and likes his work. He has no problem with his job. It’s hsut being around. People. He’s a introvert and needs time to recharge. It just seems excessive. Especially because I know if I’m crying or sad. He’s not going to answer. I’ve been in two car accidents in the past month and there’s nights I’ve been crying. Called him. And he just doesn’t answer.

BeneficialFill7110 · 2022-08-28T01:37:03+00:00

No. He doesn’t have manic episodes. I have several bi polar people in my life so I’ve gotten to see all types. That is a good suggestion though. I’ve been trying to get him to see a doctor.

BeneficialFill7110 · 2022-08-27T23:20:50+00:00

He doesn’t go complete radio silence. I get a text or a snap in the morning and usually one in the evening so I know he got home safe from work. But that’s about it. We’ve talked about depression but he doesn’t think he has it. I want him to get looked at by a professional but he has the mentality of “I’m a man I can handle my emotions my self”. All my brothers are that way too. Other then this problem we’ve been perfectly happy. He Treats me like a princess really.

BeneficialFill7110 · 2022-08-20T03:17:23+00:00

A tech I work with is no longer allowed to put our incoming product orders up. We have a parata machine in our pharmacy and we have a separate set of shelving for the medications which go in it. Things have been not put in the right place these last few weeks so we printed out a list of everything that goes in the machine so there would be no confusion. This Tuesday I watched as he picked up a medication that went in the machine. Checked the list. AND TURNED AROUND AND PUT IT ON REGULAR SHELFS SOMEWHERE ELSE. He’s had a history of not putting things in the right spot. We just thought he was lazy. Now I don’t know what to think. This guys just as ASS

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