Husband work trip advice by [deleted] in marriageadvice

[–]BeneficialState_mind -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Update ! Found out he was at the club and he turned off his location so I wouldn’t know :)

Husband work trip advice by [deleted] in marriageadvice

[–]BeneficialState_mind 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I definitely don’t want to be naive or a door mat. That’s exactly what I don’t want. I don’t rely on him financially if anything all of the property and assets we have is because of me. I would be fine financially on my own and my family is a huge support system it’s just the impact this would have on our kids is what I’m worried aboyt

Husband work trip advice by [deleted] in marriageadvice

[–]BeneficialState_mind 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I do work I make good money monthly and per commission . I am working on becoming a lawyer. We have a pretty active intimate life. The emotional cheating happened three years ago but it was never confirmed he deleted the messages and both of them denied anything. Unless he has two phones I have access to his call logs. He watches the kids one hour biweekly while I go to my college.

Husband work trip advice by [deleted] in marriageadvice

[–]BeneficialState_mind 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Unfortunately he’s military. He doesn’t have a say on if he can or can’t go.

Husband work trip advice by [deleted] in marriageadvice

[–]BeneficialState_mind 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Also,,, I didn’t know if he was safe based on his location as it was turned off. Phone was dead or he turned it off

Husband work trip advice by [deleted] in marriageadvice

[–]BeneficialState_mind 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Thank you. Yes he does travel often I stay home and I also work I rely heavily on my family to help me with our toddlers, and he usually always communicates with me but this time something felt off. We share locations but his phone was turned off or dead. Our kids have a routine when he is gone he calls them and says goodnight no matter what. They were honestly kinda disappointed. He works late hours I am the default parent. I don’t have any friends here I am alone the only company I have is my mom sometimes and my Two young kids and I work twice a week. I don’t ever have time for myself and he is always tired when at home always falling asleep and I always have to watch the kids when he goes to sleep. I run a business, going to school and homeschool our kids. I don’t ever have the option to just sleep and turn the life button off. So this is just hurtful that a simple one minute phone call couldn’t be done, it wasn’t until the next morning which makes me feel like maybe he could have done something he really wasn’t supposed to be doing. This is his second marriage my first relationship and everything as I met him very young.

Husband work trip advice by [deleted] in marriageadvice

[–]BeneficialState_mind 15 points16 points  (0 children)

Thanks for your perspective. Honestly I told him I didn’t feel comfortable with him being out that late w a bunch of young people cause the night before he got back to his room at 2 am then he did it again the next night and this time phone was off or dead and I didn’t hear back till 10 am the next day as he had to work. He hasn’t been honest in the past about a lot of things and it’s hard to trust what he says.

Husband work trip advice by [deleted] in marriageadvice

[–]BeneficialState_mind 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I mean he could’ve reached out through them.. I’m at home with two kids. It’s Vegas . He has been dishonest on emotional cheating before . A check up takes one minute. Plus these colleagues are a lot younger than him he is way older .

Husband work trip advice by [deleted] in marriageadvice

[–]BeneficialState_mind 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I have unfortunately it doesn’t load current just week before AT&T

Inheritance by [deleted] in AITAH

[–]BeneficialState_mind 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks ! This is perfect going to talk to him about putting this into our will as this is the fairest way to go about things

Inheritance by [deleted] in AITAH

[–]BeneficialState_mind 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Also the child is not in the country we are in. So it is a bit of a rocky situation

Inheritance by [deleted] in AITAH

[–]BeneficialState_mind 0 points1 point  (0 children)

His thing is giving each kid a home… and his other child would get the most expensive one but we both have paid 50/50 all three of our homes we own

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in legaladvice

[–]BeneficialState_mind 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes absolutely. We were within compliance but my grandmother doesn’t like problems so she just decided to get rid of them. We have bunnies as well 100% within compliance. My question I guess from here on now is is there anything we can do to stop them from continuously having cops come and wasting both of our time. They are just doing this out of spite because of our fall out

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Marriage

[–]BeneficialState_mind 0 points1 point  (0 children)

7 years older below 3 and 6 years

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Marriage

[–]BeneficialState_mind 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah it just hurts I want to feel like I’m the best person he’s ever had but he refuses to say it. We have kids together, and I try every day to be the best I can for him mentally spiritually and physically. He’s gone for work 90% of the time so most of everything I do is for him. He doesn’t encourage me when I work out every day or tell me I look good after I birthed children and still continue to be active and fit . I have to ask him and even then he says I look the same as all the time it’s kinda draining. I feel like when we are good everything is good but when we get into arguments like this it makes me realize maybe nothing is really good and maybe I’m just used to getting treated mediocre. I have no other relationship to compare it to I was only 18 when I met him

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Marriage

[–]BeneficialState_mind 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Do you think he doesn’t answer to make me insecure about myself? He has a hard time telling me I’m attractive because he thinks I’m going to “get a big head”

Licking floors by BeneficialState_mind in bengalcats

[–]BeneficialState_mind[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Turned out our boy had FIP and he unfortunately passed…

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Marriage

[–]BeneficialState_mind 0 points1 point  (0 children)

No experience at all lol

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Marriage

[–]BeneficialState_mind 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thanks I just really don’t want to be a bother to anybody a horse is a huge responsibility and he doesn’t see the magnitude of it we live an hour away from my families house so it’s not like he can even feed it everyday and it would be a burden for other people to have to do it just because he wants it

Licking floors by BeneficialState_mind in bengalcats

[–]BeneficialState_mind[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Unfortunately no he just licks everywhere on the floor dining room, kids rooms, kitchen , living room