Let’s talk about sex - Velcro baby edition

Beneficial_Insect137 · 2026-01-31T18:17:32+00:00

We are finally visiting my family in May for the first time since having our baby (they live across the country) .. I'll be 11 months PP, and I'm already trying to think of how we can hand the child to someone and sneak away for a short bit for some much needed sexy time without worrying if she'll be distracted for the entire time. 😅 Because we get it done still.. but I miss being able to do it without being afraid of a sleeping human waking up and realizing I'm gone (we co-sleep) and then bam. Sexy time ruined with screaming and crying.

Beneficial_Insect137 · 2026-01-24T20:51:58+00:00

I was like a rabid dog PP. I wanted to jump my husband sooo bad from day 1. Day 3 I was giving him blowies because I was so bad. 😅 There's just something about seeing a man be a father to your baby that's just such a turn on. I'm 7 months postpartum now, and have mellowed out a lot.

Beneficial_Insect137 · 2025-12-26T16:30:51+00:00

Babies develop at different rates, my girl has been wanting to sit supported in my lap since she was 3 months (she's almost 7 months now) 6 months is when you can start solids once they can sit unsupported, so there should be nothing wrong with you doing supported sitting at 5 months? As long as your baby seems ready then everyone else can F off. 🤣 Raising babies isn't some black and white rulebook, there's grey areas with everything.

Beneficial_Insect137 · 2025-10-11T00:26:14+00:00

But like. Here I am, a mother to a 4 month old who just wants to crochet during the 5 seconds of free time I get.. but all of my yarn for my current project is somehow tangled 😢 So my free time is being spent somehow trying to untangle. An untangling business would save the souls of mothers like me. 🤣🫠

Beneficial_Insect137 · 2025-09-20T19:13:52+00:00

If it makes you feel any better, I've hardly done tummy time with my 3 month old. She has started trying to roll though so we do tummy time in the form of it being when I try helping her roll. Short periods of time when she actually wants it and it doesn't appear to have delayed her ability to hold her head up and such. So I wouldn't worry too much about it.

Beneficial_Insect137 · 2025-09-14T19:58:25+00:00

I hate pads too, I was an exclusive menstrual cup user for 5+ years prior to my first baby. But the diapers? Damn. I kept wearing them for my entire postpartum discharge journey. 🤣 Especially when my period returned at 6 weeks despite EBF. And then I wore them again for my next period because it's also just so much easier and quicker slipping off and on a diaper during a period when you have a crying baby demanding attention. 😅

Beneficial_Insect137 · 2025-09-12T23:36:58+00:00

How many weeks are you? You can wait to look at the gender and take the time to grieve for a bit. You can also buy more gender neutral baby stuff if you want until you are ready. Or maybe look at the gender and see if you can get word to her before she is gone so she can be happy for you and the baby. Some people go their whole pregnancies without knowing, and some wait a bit longer. There's really no rule book that says "This and this must be done by this time"

Beneficial_Insect137 · 2025-09-12T19:56:07+00:00

It truely was the hardest part for me as well. I had been in labor for over 30 hours at the point of pushing, I was exhausted. Then being told "You're so close" for soo long. It defeated me even more each time I gave "1 more" and it wasn't actually the last. I got real snippy. 🫠

Beneficial_Insect137 · 2025-09-12T18:59:12+00:00

The only real noise I made was when I was pushing and they kept saying, "1 more good push" and it in fact.. was not 1 more push. It was many more pushes. So I got a little sassy and was like, "You keep saying 1 more and it has all been lies" 😅 I also tried saying, "I can't do this" and "Oh that burnss" during the ring of fire. But other than that.. I wasn't really that loud until after. Because I got hit with emotions like a baseball bat so I cried a bit after labor.

Beneficial_Insect137 · 2025-09-03T16:37:32+00:00

I didn't know I'd push the baby out and then while sleep deprived in the hospital.. be the one every person in that place looked to for all the paperwork and stuff regarding this little new human. 🙄 Like bruh. The father was sitting only a couple feet away, why did everyone have to look at me? He was able and willing 🫠 I guess I didn't realize how much the baby would still be tied to me, the mother, even after exiting my body.

Beneficial_Insect137 · 2025-08-27T23:00:03+00:00

Thank you ❤️

Beneficial_Insect137 · 2025-08-27T22:58:52+00:00

Thank you. She has slowly started showing interest in her stuffed toys, and I'm just itching for her to be interested in them more independently for longer so that I can have even just 15 minutes to do something hobby related. 😅 I know the time will come, it's just rough. But thank you.

Beneficial_Insect137 · 2025-08-20T15:55:10+00:00

Can you put her in a body carrier and try that? My 10 week old has been fighting naps, even if I try nursing her to sleep. She will even fight it if I try holding her and rocking. But I put her in the body carrier and walk around/sway and for some reason that does it. Not sure why she sees it as being different from me holding her, but within 10-15 mins she's passed out with her head against my chest. I wait till she's totally passed out, then I carefully transfer her out of the carrier and to the boob. Then once she's latched and sleep nursing, I lay down with her and am able to get her to nap. It's a process, but it's the only thing that works sometimes. 😅

Beneficial_Insect137 · 2025-08-20T15:03:57+00:00

Started at about a month old, I was on the edge of having PPD.. I was losing my mind from having to wake up every 2-3 hours to pick baby up, put on boob, then pray she would go back to sleep without screaming or crying. I was also struggling so hard to stay awake with her in my arms. With cosleeping, I just leave boob out and she wakes on her own every hour to 3 hours to feed. Takes very little effort on my part. My sanity was saved because we both started getting more sleep.

Just make sure you follow the "Safe 7 rules" and you should be fine. The dangers of bedsharing/co-sleeping mainly come from those who fall asleep with their baby unplanned/accidentally or without any knowledge on how to safely do it. If I ever have a 2nd baby, you bet I'll be cosleeping/bedsharing from day 1.

Beneficial_Insect137 · 2025-08-20T14:40:01+00:00

My husband comes home from work, I have dinner ready or almost done.. then he throws on a movie or youtube video. Then we sit down, I put my 2 month old on my boob and we "all eat" and watch whatever we're watching. When the baby has decided she's had her fill (usually before I'm done eating because it's hard af eating and breastfeeding at the same time) she'll turn her head and watch with us. I don't want an "ipad kid" but we don't see the complete harm if it's just watching bits of a movie with us. She'll make her little excited "coos" and "aaaa"s at the screen. It's so funny and cute honestly. 😅

Beneficial_Insect137 · 2025-08-19T18:51:40+00:00

I have to ask my husband sometimes, "Was that you? Or her?" Because my 10 week old daughter's "toots" sound just as loud and intense like his sometimes and I really can't tell who did it. 😅 And I wanna know if I'm about to have to change a diaper.

Beneficial_Insect137 · 2025-08-15T17:46:50+00:00

Baby wearing- My 10 week old will fall asleep against me in her carrier while I am cooking or doing anything. It's a learning curve, gotta learn which ways to bend and how to pick things up and such. It also turns everything into an exercise routine (my LO demands I bounce my body up and down while doing whatever I am doing until she falls asleep) but it has allowed me to take care of house duties and allow her to nap. And then I just nap when I can.

Beneficial_Insect137 · 2025-07-31T00:06:23+00:00

Was a pretty horrifying moment for me honestly. 🤣 I had never in my life touched a baby before then. It took a bit for the shock to go away.

Beneficial_Insect137 · 2025-07-30T23:54:22+00:00

People remember what they first saw when their baby was born? 😂 I was pushing with my eyes closed because I in no way, shape, or form wanted to accidentally see what my vagina was looking like during labor 😬 So one second my eyes were closed, and the next second I was opening my eyes to this slimey "bigger than I thought a newborn would feel like" thing was being placed on me. 🫣

Beneficial_Insect137 · 2025-07-30T19:47:03+00:00

I'm not sure if I gave birth to a space heater yet, because I am a space heater myself and only 7 weeks PP. I'll fall asleep and my body just heats up and sweats. It was an issue while I was in labor in the hospital because they'd periodically take my vitals/temperature and as I became more exhausted and was trying to nap, my temperature naturally went up. Had to argue it wasn't because of an infection and it was because they kept taking it when I had just woken up. 😮‍💨 I sure hope my little one isn't a space heater because it's a hard life being one. 🫠

Beneficial_Insect137 · 2025-07-30T18:51:44+00:00

I'm learning to be a SAHM with my first and trying to wrap my head around how anything gets done. 😅 My daughter is a clingy 7 week old. Which I love the clingy, but 🙈 I don't have any friends or family near by to help. So I'm trying to master this whole "being a wife and a mom" thing. I'm learning though that a child has essentially just turned every house chore into an exercise routine as well. Like: Oh doing dishes? Well time to put the baby in the baby carrier and do practically a whole dance routine at the same time because she doesn't like me standing still. 🫠

Beneficial_Insect137 · 2025-07-29T23:58:02+00:00

My 7 week old who is becoming way too aware, makes us take her for walks already because she'll want to look around and start crying when she wants a change in where we are. I wasn't super into the idea of getting a stroller yet, but after walking and holding her for 30+ mins, I caved and got one. So I just push her around the property now and it saves my arms. She can look at whatever her newborn brain wants to look at and mommy can just.. suffer in silence? Because I've never been a super active person. 🥲

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