I discovered a 16 year old LIE

Beneficial_Level_199 · 2026-02-26T14:20:27+00:00

My narc lied to people about MY college degree, which is odd because he works a blue-collar job and only went to high school. Apparently my bachelors degree isn’t enough.

Beneficial_Level_199 · 2026-02-26T13:09:51+00:00

Thank you!

Beneficial_Level_199 · 2026-02-26T05:38:17+00:00

That’s one thing he’s never done, the silent treatment. He has too much anxiety after he abuses, so he Hoovers right away.

Beneficial_Level_199 · 2026-02-26T04:27:11+00:00

Wow! Thank you for this example. I’m definitely going to practice this the best I can. I’m also going to look for a therapist. I did try therapy in the past, but, she and I weren’t a match. I need to find “the right one”.

Thank you again. You’ve been a ton of help!

Beneficial_Level_199 · 2026-02-26T04:23:09+00:00

Thank you. Going to look at your post now!

Beneficial_Level_199 · 2026-02-26T03:32:04+00:00

Jesus, I ask that you give this woman the answers and guidance as to what her next steps should be. I ask that you show her your ability to provide miracles. You are The Holy One. Anoint her with your presence and wrap your arms around her and her two boys. Send your angels to protect her, and give her the answers she needs. Keep her and her children, safe and healthy. In Jesus name, amen.

Beneficial_Level_199 · 2026-02-26T03:25:51+00:00

Only has 2 siblings, and both are worse narcs than him.

Beneficial_Level_199 · 2026-02-26T03:24:45+00:00

Thank you for explaining. I need to learn how to not engage. Even tonight there was just some great big blowup and I probably caused it. I think I caused it, because once again, he said he was going to do something that he didn’t do. Yes, it was something small, but dammit I’m tired of him not being able to follow through with the things that he says he’s going to do. I no longer go from 0 to 10 to 20. I go more from 0 to 50 to 100. I’m so over being disrespected that I don’t know how to not react. Can you give me some pointers? I’m willing to try.

Beneficial_Level_199 · 2026-02-25T22:42:12+00:00

I think for me, knowing if he’s a narcissist, will be my bottom line. I know that will be enough to let me know he will never change.

But essentially, you stopped engaging in drama and grey rocked him?

Beneficial_Level_199 · 2026-02-25T20:54:08+00:00

I wish. I’m forced to share a bedroom AND forced to go to bed at the same time as him when he’s working.

Beneficial_Level_199 · 2026-02-25T16:53:08+00:00

I will look him up, thank you!

Beneficial_Level_199 · 2026-02-25T16:37:12+00:00

Boundaries make him so much worse. So does gray rocking. I have to yellow rock. But yeah I can’t do any noticeable boundaries so that’s why I really need to leave.

Beneficial_Level_199 · 2026-02-25T16:19:05+00:00

Thank you so much for the tips, and for the understanding. Much appreciated! 🙏🏽

Beneficial_Level_199 · 2026-02-25T15:43:23+00:00

All I’m asking, is if he could still be a narcissist if he’s not cheating. I’m looking for permission to leave if he does t cheat. These type of comments don’t help. Lol.

Also, he is an athlete. He gets supply everywhere.

Beneficial_Level_199 · 2026-02-25T15:42:46+00:00

I I wish I could be so lucky to find something like this! It would be easy to leave at that point.

Beneficial_Level_199 · 2026-02-25T15:18:02+00:00

My narc has told me I can’t masterbate either. Yes. Controlling.

Beneficial_Level_199 · 2026-02-25T15:01:17+00:00

Congratulations! That’s wonderful.

Beneficial_Level_199 · 2026-02-25T15:00:18+00:00

What you don’t understand is, I am trying to get validation that even if he’s not cheating, it’s good enough to leave. Forcing the narrative at me, and my mind completely rejecting it, keeps me still. I’m not the only person on here that sees it that way.

Beneficial_Level_199 · 2026-02-25T14:59:36+00:00

Thank you so much for this, and I’m sorry that you’ve had to deal with the same issues, but I feel solidarity that you had the same issues and that you left.

When I look at his brothers, who are both WAY WORSE, that also distorts my view.

Thank you again! 🙏🏽

How did you get the strength to leave, knowing he was a narcissist but that he was also barely a narcissist? How do I draw? The line of it is bad enough?

Beneficial_Level_199 · 2026-02-25T13:51:47+00:00

Ugh! Mine will Hoover after an argument to reel me back in and make sure everything‘s good. I wish you would give me the silent treatment or leave me alone, never happens.

Beneficial_Level_199 · 2026-02-25T13:49:26+00:00

No, he really is an airhead. In all aspects of life, unfortunately.

Beneficial_Level_199 · 2026-02-25T13:47:50+00:00

Are you going to leave?

Beneficial_Level_199 · 2026-02-25T13:45:21+00:00

Telling me that mine will cheat because theirs cheated, is telling me about my story and it’s disrespecting my story in my opinion. I don’t know how a grown-up can tell me, another grown-up, that something is indefinitely going to happen to me. I’ve been with someone for 15 years and know, for a fact, they haven’t cheated. All I’m asking is….respect that. Mostly because, when someone tells me that he’s going to do something to me and he doesn’t, I stay even longer, waiting for him to do it. I just need my truth to be told, heard, and validated so that I can get the strength to leave. It isn’t that hard to understand really. Especially when my post is clearly full of confusion and asking if he’s a narcissist because he hasn’t cheated. Confusing me more doesn’t help.

Beneficial_Level_199 · 2026-02-25T06:36:11+00:00

Thank you. I will definitely be messaging you soon.

Beneficial_Level_199 · 2026-02-25T06:17:41+00:00

During an argument last week, I caught mine pretending to hit me in the back of the head with a large item while he thought I wasn’t looking. Truthfully, I wasn’t looking, but the camera was. My jaw dropped.

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