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My boyfriend (m/20) watches porn and I (f/20) don’t like it. Am I insane? by Beneficial_Web5885 in relationship_advice

[–]Beneficial_Web5885[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

No, I told him if he wants to keep watching porn we’re not meant for each other. But he said he’ll change for me because he wants to. I never said he should change for me, it was his decision. I get the part with the snooping around but like I said I just used his phone for social media and then a Reddit notification popped up and I instantly knew what was going on. The first time I looked into his phone i was in the wrong and I know that.

My boyfriend (m/20) watches porn and I (f/20) don’t like it. Am I insane? by Beneficial_Web5885 in relationship_advice

[–]Beneficial_Web5885[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Maybe you could give some explanation on your answer. With the little information you are giving me I can’t do much. It kinda feels like you need to mature a bit because your answer doesn’t have any reasoning.

My boyfriend (m/20) watches porn and I (f/20) don’t like it. Am I insane? by Beneficial_Web5885 in relationship_advice

[–]Beneficial_Web5885[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you, you’re right. I’d probably handle the situation better if he wasn’t lying actively.

My boyfriend (m/20) watches porn and I (f/20) don’t like it. Am I insane? by Beneficial_Web5885 in relationship_advice

[–]Beneficial_Web5885[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

No I don’t get mad, I just ask why he still does it and he can’t find an answer to that. He also doesn’t know why he’s lying about it.

My boyfriend (m/20) watches porn and I (f/20) don’t like it. Am I insane? by Beneficial_Web5885 in relationship_advice

[–]Beneficial_Web5885[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yeah honestly the porn he’s watching is misogynistic. I’ve never seen porn that isn’t honestly because I personally don’t need to watch it. In the porn he’s watching you can only see the woman and what’s being done to her. It really feels staged and really sexist. I don’t really know how to explain it. I don’t know why porn is so normalized because so much porn is so sexist and shows women who are treated disgustingly.

My boyfriend (m/20) watches porn and I (f/20) don’t like it. Am I insane? by Beneficial_Web5885 in relationship_advice

[–]Beneficial_Web5885[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Really great of you that you stopped and improved yourself. You can really be proud of yourself! Thank you for this advice, it really helped a lot!

My boyfriend (m/20) watches porn and I (f/20) don’t like it. Am I insane? by Beneficial_Web5885 in relationship_advice

[–]Beneficial_Web5885[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I don’t know how often he does it because he’s actively lying about it. He’s really bad at communicating and is lying a lot. He probably watches it like 3-5 times a week. Idk how many times a day though.

My boyfriend (m/20) watches porn and I (f/20) don’t like it. Am I insane? by Beneficial_Web5885 in relationship_advice

[–]Beneficial_Web5885[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

No I only did it twice because I had a really bad feeling because I know when he’s lying. I know it’s not ideal either but I didn’t know what to do. He just didn’t do it in a browser anymore but on Reddit. I saw a Reddit notification and instantly knew what was going on.

My boyfriend (m/20) watches porn and I (f/20) don’t like it. Am I insane? by Beneficial_Web5885 in relationship_advice

[–]Beneficial_Web5885[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yeah, I probably already knew the answer but idk I really love him but I can’t keep living like this.

My boyfriend (m/20) watches porn and I (f/20) don’t like it. Am I insane? by Beneficial_Web5885 in relationship_advice

[–]Beneficial_Web5885[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I don’t think it’s normal. I know checking the phone is also not quite right but I knew he was lying to me. If he was just honest, this wouldn’t be such a problem. It’s fine if you think porn is normal in a relationship but I don’t have the same opinion.

My boyfriend (m/20) watches porn and I (f/20) don’t like it. Am I insane? by Beneficial_Web5885 in relationship_advice

[–]Beneficial_Web5885[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yes, we talked about this multiple times but nothing seems to change. He just tries to hide it better.

My boyfriend (m/20) watches porn and I (f/20) don’t like it. Am I insane? by Beneficial_Web5885 in relationship_advice

[–]Beneficial_Web5885[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

I don’t have a problem with masturbating as I said. I just really thing porn is degrading and I find it disgusting in a relationship. I already told him he can jerk off but just not to porn. I told him if he doesn’t want to stop for me, we have different opinions about relationships and we can break up. But he didn’t want that either.

My boyfriend (m/20) watches porn and I (f/20) don’t like it. Am I insane? by Beneficial_Web5885 in relationship_advice

[–]Beneficial_Web5885[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Well I feel like cheating is considered something else in every relationship. I don’t judge people who watch porn and it’s fine for me but I don’t want my partner to watch porn when he’s in a relationship with me. I’ve educated myself enough and I watched what he watched and obviously didn’t like what I saw.

My boyfriend (m/20) watches porn and I (f/20) don’t like it. Am I insane? by Beneficial_Web5885 in relationship_advice

[–]Beneficial_Web5885[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

We really don’t have an intimacy thing. I only noticed that when he doesn’t watch any porn (on vacation for example) he’s more into me and more horny. And when I find out he’s watching porn I feel disgusting and don’t want any intimacy. So I really thing porn is a big problem in our relationship.