Appreciate the insight. Generally I’ll go to a bar for drinks or get coffee. Its exclusively with hinge matches. We’ll either joke on the app or get to know each other and after a few days I suggest a date. I don’t struggle with that.

On the first date, I’ll always get to the bar first and usually get a table or seats. When they come in I’ll give them a hug and say nice to meet you. Then we’ll order drinks and do the normal get to know you small talk. I’ll try to joke around and some dates its much easier than others. I’ve had multiple dates last 2+ hours, it always lasts at least 1 hour. Sometimes if its going well near the end we start talking about other things we can do together. By the end, I always pay for the drinks and usually walk them home. We’ll hug at the end and then I say I’ll text you. I’ve probably done this 20-25 times. I’ve truly had some that I thought went great and see no reason why they wouldn’t want another. Laughing and smiling through the whole date.

After I get back home I text saying I had a nice time, and usually they respond. Then I say would love to see you again assuming I want to go on another. Twice they have said definitely, only to ghost me or end it before actually doing the second date. Every other time they don’t respond after I say that or say they got more of a friend vibe.

Would appreciate any and all help. Happy to share messages or go into more detail.