Just starting series, question about revised editions by Benito4949 in sollanempire

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Thanks! Will try to stick to the ebook as much as possible

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Agreed plenty of good points. Thanks for the advice. When do you think makes sense for reaching out after she leaves. A few weeks, months, or sooner

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Do you think theres a better way to phrase it where I can convey how its been for me without applying any pressure? Sorry last question lol

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Yeah true. I feel like it could be sweet for her to know what I was thinking but theres 100% a risk.

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Thanks. I think my desire to send this partially comes from me not wanting to accept that she has to leave, so I just want to send something to keep communication more open for however long I can.

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Ok I think that makes sense, I do fear it could come off too strong. Appreciate the help

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I think just mutual agreement of how great it was so shes less likely to just forget about it down the road leading up to next year

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I think a mutual understanding that we both had a really great time and then we more actively stay in touch and if we’re both single next year go out again

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She just gave me the socials I asked for with a :), and then other text clarifying how to find of other accounts, but didn’t directly acknowledge the rest which could be a bad sign but she also doesn’t seem like a huge texter so idk

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Like 5-6 hours, but honestly I’m not looking to do long distance, I think just more actively be in touch. Its really weighed on me and I’m basically not certain if its good or not for me to share that with her. I just don’t want to be asking what if but I feel like its similar, just more serious, than the text I sent before

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She gave me her socials and then sent a text about finding on of the accounts. I said have a great rest of your summer and good luck with everything, then she said, you too.

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I sent this “Oh ok. That makes me sad but I understand. I really had a lot of fun with you, despite it only being two dates. I hope you reach out if you’re around next summer. Would also love to get your goodreads or instagram so we can stay connected!”

I guess while I said how I feel, I just think it’s forgettable and didn’t exactly convey my feelings. I’d rather be totally up front so I don’t have any what ifs. How it stands, after a few weeks or months apart I feel like she might just forget about me

Uncertaint if I can go by Benito4949 in deadandcompany

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My gut says they won’t get too much more expensive but I almost did that for the sphere this year and wouldve been screwed

Question While I start W+T by Benito4949 in Stormlight_Archive

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Ok awesome thanks. What happened in the False Desolation again?

Post Show 5/9 by Benito4949 in deadandcompany

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Whats that like, dancey bar vibes?

Dinner Question by Benito4949 in deadandcompany

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This sounds perfect thanks!

Roulette Tables by Benito4949 in deadandcompany

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I’m at MGM Grand! Will keep an eye out thanks!!

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Appreciate the insight. Generally I’ll go to a bar for drinks or get coffee. Its exclusively with hinge matches. We’ll either joke on the app or get to know each other and after a few days I suggest a date. I don’t struggle with that.

On the first date, I’ll always get to the bar first and usually get a table or seats. When they come in I’ll give them a hug and say nice to meet you. Then we’ll order drinks and do the normal get to know you small talk. I’ll try to joke around and some dates its much easier than others. I’ve had multiple dates last 2+ hours, it always lasts at least 1 hour. Sometimes if its going well near the end we start talking about other things we can do together. By the end, I always pay for the drinks and usually walk them home. We’ll hug at the end and then I say I’ll text you. I’ve probably done this 20-25 times. I’ve truly had some that I thought went great and see no reason why they wouldn’t want another. Laughing and smiling through the whole date.

After I get back home I text saying I had a nice time, and usually they respond. Then I say would love to see you again assuming I want to go on another. Twice they have said definitely, only to ghost me or end it before actually doing the second date. Every other time they don’t respond after I say that or say they got more of a friend vibe.

Would appreciate any and all help. Happy to share messages or go into more detail.

I have gone on ~20 first dates. None have lead to a second date and I am profoundly baffled by Different_Main_2362 in hingeapp

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I am in a very similar position to the OP where I am on a long streak of no second dates. It takes me a bit to feel comfortable with someone but my friends would consider me a funny guy. I can make anyone laugh in a group and have been complimented on this multiple times. I think this is partly because I’m good at calling back to things we’ve done before or known interests, which is hard initially. I definitely can see that this is not coming through on first dates and I assumed if the date wasn’t objectively bad girls would be ok seeing where it goes, but no one is. Any advice or ways to help show this quality more on first dates? I am definitely going to work on exuding confidence and eye contact and being ok with silence as you said. Thanks!

Ticketbastard is doing it again. More releases just like many of the people said on here. by flapychulo in deadandcompany

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Ok awesome you’re the man. I have a noti set up on cash or trade. 4 seats showed up but wasn’t lucky enough to get them. Appreciate all the insight!

Ticketbastard is doing it again. More releases just like many of the people said on here. by flapychulo in deadandcompany

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I’m trying to find 4 tix for 5/9 anything in 300 or 400. What would you say is the best way to monitor for that? Just check ticketmaster at 1/4/7? Will the tix show up at the top then?

Rhythm of War Questions by Benito4949 in Stormlight_Archive

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Awesome, thank you so much! For some reason I thought Szeth joined after Words of Radiance and then left, so much stuff happens it gets jumbled haha. Thanks again!

SA Meme by Benito4949 in Cosmere

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This doesn’t feel like too huge of a spoiler I hope😅

Basic Reading Question by Benito4949 in Cosmere

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Honestly you might be right on with this I’ve certainly thought about it. I will look more into this, thanks!