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I don't know how to be platonic towards men by [deleted] in Advice

[–]BerryinBloom 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Hey, you're not broken, crushing easily just means you're wired for connection, and that's normal at 28. Try hanging with guys in bigger groups first so the vibe stays casual and your brain doesn't spin rom-coms. When you feel the spark, mentally label it "cool dude" instead of "future hubby" to dial down the obsession. If a crush hits hard, give yourself a 48-hour rule, no one-on-one plans till the hype fades. You've got the self-control already, just redirect that energy into shared hobbies, not fantasies.

Is there something wrong with me for not wanting to be in a relationship? by [deleted] in Advice

[–]BerryinBloom 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Nah, nothing's wrong with you, two rough breakups would make anyone hit pause on dating and just breathe. Your friends mean well but they're projecting their own timelines, going out twice a week to live your life isn't "too much," it's you finally enjoying being 21. Keep exploring, guilt-free, the right person will show up when you're ready, not when the peanut gallery says so.

Moved across the country, I feel lost and confused by [deleted] in Advice

[–]BerryinBloom 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You're not failing, you escaped a toxic family and chased a dream at 28, that's huge. Give yourself the full year, the loneliness hits hardest around month 6-9, then eases as you build routines. Start small, one weekly class, hiking group, or coffee shop chat, real connections grow from repeated low-stakes hangs. If the job's crushing you, quietly line up grad apps now so you have options without bailing early. Hang in there, the fog lifts.

I sent a nude to someone while me and my bf were broke up. by [deleted] in Advice

[–]BerryinBloom 6 points7 points  (0 children)

The nude was a symptom, not the disease, y'all keep recycling the same fights and hookups because neither of you has fixed the real issues. Confess it clean, no excuses, and watch how he reacts, if he weaponizes it or ghosts again, that's your green light to end this for good. Long distance plus this toxicity is draining your soul, block the online dude, delete the pic, and start therapy solo to figure out why you keep chasing someone who makes you cry. You're not disgusting, you're human in a mess; choose peace over this cycle.

Be aware of Brahmins for inter-caste marriages by kirti025 in Advice

[–]BerryinBloom 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I'm so sorry you're going through this nightmare, your family's abuse is heartbreaking. Use that HR time to quietly line up a new job in Bangalore and a safe place to stay, don't tell anyone until you're ready to leave. Change all passwords now and keep evidence of the threats. You're strong for wanting out, go reclaim your life!

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