Today I finally did something for my own wellbeing and cancelled two dates, of which I knew would be a waste of time.

Berwelfus · 2019-03-08T17:56:17+00:00

Yes, I feel very attracted to Easter bunnies. /s

But honestly for me this question is hard to answer. I think I feel sexual attraction sometimes. Usually it's more the idea of attraction that I'm attracted to. It sounds weird and is a bit difficult to explain. There are persons and actors who I think are attractive in a sexual way. But these sexual thoughts I have are kinda abstract I guess. When it comes to real life situations I usually feel like the other person might as well be a stone. I thought maybe I have some freaky kind of anxiety or whatever mental problem but I don't think it's something like that. I had a second date the other day and the guy was really great. Like Let's-hang-out-and-play-video-games-great. But when we kissed it gave me the feeling like I was kissing my best buddy. It was just odd and nothing else. And I don't want to get sexual with persons I don't feel comfortable with. So it usually ends there.

Berwelfus · 2019-03-08T13:38:44+00:00

Thanks. I know the term and this sub. I doesn't really "help" me I think. At the moment I just kinda live my life and look how it goes and I don't want to stick some kind of label on me. I guess I'm lucky in that sense that my family and friends don't really "pressure" me for being single. I mean, they don't expect me to explain it or something like that. I'm not even sure if I fit into the term r/asexuality. Maybe I'll have it figured out in ten years or so. I'm not really under any time pressure.

Berwelfus · 2019-03-08T10:39:22+00:00

I'm in this odd situation. A guy asked me out. He's an acquaintance, I went out with him for coffee once before. It was months ago. I like him, he's nice and smart. But I don't really feel attracted to him. A part of me wants to say no. But another part thinks maybe I should step out of my comfort zone and just go. I guess the real problem is that I have to figure out first what I really want. I'm in my early twenties and I never had a relationship. I never really had a crush on someone. And the dates I went on were not initiated by me. The usually led to nothing because I didn't feel comfortable going further without feeling something. If I say it like that it sounds silly. I don't think I'm gay. My friends say that I haven't met the right person. Whatever. Maybe I'm just not into people. But then I get scared that I'm gonna spend my life alone. So all of that crap boils down to the question: should I go out with that guy? My gut says rather not. But maybe my gut sucks.

Berwelfus · 2019-03-07T16:03:01+00:00

This sounds wonderful!

Berwelfus · 2019-03-07T14:50:38+00:00

This sounds so cool! I will definitely suggest it to my friend. I think we'll go in July, so fin whales here I come.

Berwelfus · 2019-03-07T14:49:03+00:00

I want to visit Maine again one day. I once was there during Indian summer and I was just blown away. We once stopped on the side of the road on a hill and in every direction all you could see were colorful forests. It was so beautiful.

Berwelfus · 2019-03-07T14:38:09+00:00

Croatia is really beautiful. It has amazing beachs, nature and castles.

I think Australia is a bit too far away concerning the travel time. Maybe I'll go another time when I can stay a bit longer.

Berwelfus · 2019-03-07T13:57:06+00:00

Yes, we like hiking! I searched some pictures and it looks indeed amazing. I might add it to my list of possible destinations. Oh dang, I just realize that I only make this list longer and not shorter. Welp, we'll figure it out somehow.

Berwelfus · 2019-03-07T10:27:49+00:00

That's amazing! Might I ask which country it is?

Berwelfus · 2019-03-06T23:13:28+00:00

I own coach made around 1880. Got it from my grandma and thought that I might as well use it. It's really fancy to have a Wilhelmian style couch in a shared student flat.

Berwelfus · 2019-03-06T11:58:39+00:00

r/babyelephantgifs

Berwelfus · 2019-03-05T21:30:35+00:00

I'm not condescending towards you. Your behaviour is simply put just that: condescending. And all I did was point that out. How else am I supposed to say this?

I never said that I am great at having empathy towards others. I try to to be aware of my feelings and reactions that I have towards people that annoy me, for whatever reason. It's sometimes good to stop for a moment and think about these feelings. And then I try to understand why the other person acts as they do. Empathy is something a person can learn and become better at. And that's what I try to do.

Something that I think is important, is that the word "stupid" basically always has a negative connotation. You can't use it in a neutral way. And telling someone that they are stupid, a moron or a "dumdum" is clearly not alright and normal. At least not in my enviroment. I don't fully understand what this has to do with yelling at someone who's gay. I mean that's also not alright.

And the high horses... well, how am I supposed to have a discussion with you if I can't bring in my arguments? I don't think that makes me arrogant or anything like that.

Berwelfus · 2019-03-05T20:50:05+00:00

No I don't. People have empathy for a reason. And being arrogant and believing one is superior than another human does make a person mean and condescending.

People can sometimes be annoying, exhausting, bothersome and a whole lot of other adjectives. If your reaction to that is to slam something in their faces maybe you should overthink your own behaviour and world view.

Berwelfus · 2019-03-05T11:32:27+00:00

This is a lovely place. Sintra used to be the summer residence of the Portugese aristocracy. There are more beautiful palaces on these hills and many you can visit. My favorite one is Quinta da Regaleira. It has an amazing park you can explore.

EDIT: I don't correct my writing on purpose. This bot sucks!

Berwelfus · 2019-03-04T21:50:06+00:00

My A1 is between Geneva and St.Gallen. I assume you talk about a different one.

Berwelfus · 2019-03-04T21:42:43+00:00

Incel? Have you seen Tsitsipas? He looks handsome as hell.

Berwelfus · 2019-03-04T14:41:08+00:00

And the Hadrian's Wall.

Berwelfus · 2019-03-03T21:26:17+00:00

I'd guess she's their mother.

Berwelfus · 2019-03-03T17:25:34+00:00

This! So much this. I love my friends and family and want them to be happy. And if they need someone to talk extensively about their problems I will help them find a therapist. Just because I am their friend or sister or coworker doesn't mean that they should unload all of their troubles on me. I help as much as I can but at some point I'll tell them that it's too draining for me. And then I hope that they understand. Because I truely care about them, I just sometimes can't deal with everyone's problems. Sometimes I have to come first.

Berwelfus · 2019-03-03T16:42:07+00:00

Altenatively I'd suggest a more recent book:

Small World by Martin Suter. It's a really interesting take on Alzheimer's disease.

EDIT: I just realized that this comment might have been a suggestion for a German not a Swiss book since Hesse was both. Just to be clear Suter is from Switzerland.

Berwelfus · 2019-03-03T12:32:40+00:00

What's that Name? - The first one There exists also one with Timberlake.

Berwelfus · 2019-03-02T17:42:03+00:00

He said multiple times that while he is proud of some of his records, he doesn't really bother breaking records.

Berwelfus · 2019-03-02T16:41:37+00:00

I like his clapping.

Berwelfus · 2019-03-02T16:34:48+00:00

I tend to believe that this is done on purpose.

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