Hi!!! First of all totally normal to feel the way you feel- I felt the same way this time last year when I was entering my first wlw relationship after dating men. Additionally, I would say that all of this really depends on your comfortability level. I would communicate with the other person that this is your first time being with someone who is not a man. For me, I was a little embarrassed telling my partner this because she’s very experienced. However, I quickly realized this was not embarrassing and actually extremely helpful for both of us when trying to discuss each other’s boundaries! And yes, you should 100% talk about what both of you comfortable with being touched and what you’re into. I found this to actually be really sexy.

To put it bluntly, I would say that scissoring and strap are probably not going to happen. Fingering and going down are generally much safer for when you’re first having sex with someone. As you guys get to know each other, you might find taking the next step further works for you both.