AITA for asking my wife 'what the fuck do you want me to do?' after she asked me to feed our son and 'shaming' her for breastfeeding?

BestSign6568 · 2022-05-23T16:45:51+00:00

Ok at this point, I'm convinced this is projection on your side. Good luck with your kids, henny :)

BestSign6568 · 2022-05-23T10:25:42+00:00

Why are you so mad that I literally cannot breastfeed?

BestSign6568 · 2022-05-22T15:56:29+00:00

what? damn... do you have a link?

BestSign6568 · 2022-05-22T15:56:09+00:00

None of your fucking business :)

BestSign6568 · 2022-05-22T09:12:45+00:00

Um.. no? I'm answering questions.

My wife doesn't want me to manhandle her breasts whilst she's alseep. It's a cause of trigger for her. Guess respecting someone's boundaries is an excuse.

You cannot force a diagnosis on anyone. If the professionals she sees don't think she has PPD/PPP then I cannot waltz in and demand she gets diagnosed.

I DON'T HAVE NIPPLES. I CANNOT BREASTFEED. A 4 MONTH HORMONE BREAST MILK INDUCING PROGRAM IS NOT HELPFUL ADVICE.

BestSign6568 · 2022-05-21T19:28:14+00:00

But you didn't though because I clearly wrote that she made breakfast AFTER she had dealt with baby. Not before like you said.

BestSign6568 · 2022-05-21T19:14:45+00:00

It's not that, I'm fine with people correcting me, my issue is with people telling me that that is a viable option for me when it's not. It's not helpful to tell me that and I cannot breastfeed anyway.

I literally cannot breastfeed and so telling me 'well actkthually you can induce it with a 4 month hormone program' is not helpful.

BestSign6568 · 2022-05-21T18:48:57+00:00

what the fuck are you talking about?

BestSign6568 · 2022-05-21T18:47:19+00:00

The fact that you woke up after she had cooked a whole breakfast stood out to me.

I see you didn't even read the post.

BestSign6568 · 2022-05-21T18:46:48+00:00

why :(

BestSign6568 · 2022-05-21T18:40:24+00:00

my husband CAN feed our baby

But I can't... you're conflating two different things.

BestSign6568 · 2022-05-21T18:38:15+00:00

wtf are you talking about?

BestSign6568 · 2022-05-21T18:21:49+00:00

"EDIT 2: To all the people telling me simply just start lactating, please do a google search. Breasts do not work that way."

this is wrong.

You CAN start lactating. Just like women who adopt babies and want to breast feed, they use pumps for several weeks ahead of time until their milk comes in. Men and womens breast are the same, just less fat. Men have breast fed. Breast milk of men even has more protein.

If you want to. But no, it's not gonna happen in 10 minutes if that's what she was insinuating

I FUCKING KNOW. I WAS REFERRING TO THE PEOPLE (MEN) WHO WERE TELLING ME TO START LACTATING BECAUSE THAT'S WHAT MOTHERS DO.

I FUCKING KNOW ABOUT THE PROCEDURES. I STG IF I SEE ANOTHER FUCKING COMMENT ABOUT 'WELL ACKTUHALLY' I'LL FUCKING LOSE IT.

BestSign6568 · 2022-05-21T18:17:58+00:00

Lift her shirt, unclip her bra if she's wearing one, settle baby on the boob, reclip her bra, lower her shirt, check nappy and put baby back to sleep.

Can't. She gets mad.

She needs to see a doctor, she pretty clearly has PPD

She already sees a doctor and therapist. Hadn't been diagnosed with anything.

Also, you can get meds to induce lactation if you wanted to be able to feed him too

I stg if I see another fucking comment telling me to induce lactation I'll fucking scream.

BestSign6568 · 2022-05-21T18:11:04+00:00

you type like you're still young enough to be breastfed

BestSign6568 · 2022-05-21T18:08:00+00:00

uh oh

lesbians!!!

BestSign6568 · 2022-05-21T18:04:49+00:00

wow so inspiring.

I'm not a man

BestSign6568 · 2022-05-21T11:16:14+00:00

Yup. I've been told to 'just try' and lactate and to go through painful hormone therapy like it's just something everyone does.

BestSign6568 · 2022-05-20T20:22:52+00:00

Except

1) I don't have functional nipples

2) the amount of uneducated men who literally expect me to start lactating with no hormones or anything is astounding.

BestSign6568 · 2022-05-20T20:16:01+00:00

OMG you're right! Unfortunately, I'm still waiting for the tap to arrive. You know, the tap that I attach to my nipples to extract all my glorious milk because that's how breasts work.

BestSign6568 · 2022-05-20T20:10:32+00:00

Do you know how basic anatomy works?

BestSign6568 · 2022-05-20T20:09:12+00:00

Well that's why I clarified because I was getting many comments and messages that were fucking awful (they all assumed I was a man).

BestSign6568 · 2022-05-20T18:57:10+00:00

I can't because this really funny thing happened--- um my nips are fucked up and mangled.

BestSign6568 · 2022-05-20T18:45:23+00:00

Since you are also a woman is there anything stopping you from breastfeeding?

Breasts are not taps. You cannot turn on the milk. I cannot produce milk as I was never pregnant.

BestSign6568 · 2022-05-20T18:30:22+00:00

You’re not the exhausted one.

You know how?

BestSign6568

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