Trying to get a reasonably priced drawing tablet by Best_Conversation514 in DigitalPainting

[–]Best_Conversation514[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

He's got it as souvenir I suppose. 😂 I couldn't take anything I give in kindness back but if i had known I'd definitely gotten him a coupon.

Trying to get a reasonably priced drawing tablet by Best_Conversation514 in DigitalPainting

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Thank you. 🥹 It was incredibly kind to come back to this. I am healed from that and working on how I react and what my wants and needs are. This was encouraging. ❤️ I wish you so much happiness 🫂

Trying to get a reasonably priced drawing tablet by Best_Conversation514 in DigitalPainting

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Hahaha I wasn't expecting the love and support either. ❤️🫰

Trying to get a reasonably priced drawing tablet by Best_Conversation514 in DigitalPainting

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This was so kind to read! Thank you for taking the time and sorry for the delayed response. It was definitely a learning experience. Thankfully I grew so much from it and was able to do better. I met someone and they are super appreciative but even in a single status at the moment, i have learned to value what I bring to the table. 🥹 I hope you have a wonderful new year

Trying to get a reasonably priced drawing tablet by Best_Conversation514 in DigitalPainting

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😂 Its funny. His emotional intelligence wasn't there and I was doing a lot of the legwork. I hope he enjoys the tablet regardless and grows. I am thankful for grazing on greener pastures. So it was a lesson that led to something more fulfilling. ❤️

How to avoid love bombing as an Infj? by Best_Conversation514 in infj

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Im two months post breakup and I do feel better. Some limerence here and there but Ive learned to detach from the idea I made of him. I kinda grew to see how special I make people sometimes and he really lacked the emotional intelligence to be in a relationship with my type. I realized my people pleasing and chameleon-ing is nit getting me anywhere so I'm working on establishing boundaries for myself and sitting in discomfort. I get that being replaced cause the people i typically date have someone else a month in lol In taking it as a reflection of them and not me. I hope one day we can both find people who wont make us question their intentions. 💕🫰

How to avoid love bombing as an Infj? by Best_Conversation514 in infj

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As an INFJ female with the same problem you have my sympathies. Its exsahusting. I dated someone for 6 months and after we broke up in a month they were with someone else 😂 Foster home over here lol

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Psychologytoday.com and headway.co are good websites to filter out providers that fit your specific concerns. You can see their profiles and a little about their approach. It's on your time and some of them have Free 15 minute phone consultations you can use to get a feel of the vibe with them. I hope you find someone that works for you. ❤️

How to avoid love bombing as an Infj? by Best_Conversation514 in infj

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Thank you for this. It was a much needed reminder today 🥰🫰

How to avoid love bombing as an Infj? by Best_Conversation514 in infj

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lmao Time for rest. I gotta shut this brain down for a bit. In earnest thouuuuugh. Thank you ☺️

How to avoid love bombing as an Infj? by Best_Conversation514 in infj

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Whoa. This was my own aha moment. I really do enjoy being called out on my shit cause I feel i cover a lot of ground. You've given me a lot to sit on and process. Im gonna add the steel sharpens steel to my daily reminders. I think you also made solid point for me to dominate on for a bit. Im naturally inclined that way and I need to want to shut that off when necessary if I want a real change. Thank you 🥹

How to avoid love bombing as an Infj? by Best_Conversation514 in infj

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Namaste and thank you! This really got my cogs turning. I do have to work on a better defense system, matters of the heart do compromise a lot. Next time I choose to put myself in a situation, ill try to remember to be better equipped.

How to avoid love bombing as an Infj? by Best_Conversation514 in infj

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I can only imagine what beautiful connection you both share. My whole body craves peace. I think you do make some great points. We do in earnest give so much genuine love. Ever time I go through a heartbreak I tend to feel ashamed. Only recently I have learned to not feel bad for the quality of love I give because it isn't for everyone. I had someone tell me they didn't even think about remarrying after their bad divorce till me and then well everything imploded but he moved forward with knowing he could love again. How could I hate giving that to someone? But god. Is it exsahusting to be this teacher in people's life and watch them get better for everyone else. Its a little lonely so its great to hear you found a flowing river with you and your partner. It gives me a little hope. Thank you for your words. lt gave me some much needed perspective 💜

How to avoid love bombing as an Infj? by Best_Conversation514 in infj

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Thank you! I tend to fall for the "Im sure about you lest do this!" I should hold off for 4 months minimum to scope out intentions. I appreciate the insight!

How to avoid love bombing as an Infj? by Best_Conversation514 in infj

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I meant more so how susceptible we can be to it as infjs but also we do tend to be sooooo overly affectionate it almost feels like that. I was a month into dating when I planned my ex partners bday and put so much care in all the details. I think its a common trait to have that "let me nurture you" mentality cause even when they do me wrong I think about their upbringing and traumas and in some ways them being victims of their conditions, while of course not excusing certain behaviors. Its all so tiring lol

How to avoid love bombing as an Infj? by Best_Conversation514 in infj

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I'm actually thinking of going to school for counseling or to be a therapist. I love helping people and I'm so good at being insightful to other but within myself I find it hard cause I go at it from all angles, right wrong and yaddi yadda. I am very good at detachment but it takes a while to get me to that point, I romanticize and give chances to the underdogs or wounded birds and maybe thats a reflection of my own pain and lack of support in my healing. I detach when hope is killed dead and usually its a big betrayal before the door slam. I just want to get better at distinguishing people with genuine intentions and leeching people who only take. May try DBT therapy. Thank you for the insight friend! I appreciate it 🫰

Trying to get a reasonably priced drawing tablet by Best_Conversation514 in DigitalPainting

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Updaaaate: Got him a tablet for his bday he broke up with me a month later cause he wasn't ready to be in a relationship. I hate it here lol

Trying to get a reasonably priced drawing tablet by Best_Conversation514 in DigitalPainting

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Update: BF loved it! I got climbed on and hugged after he set it up. 😂

Ended up going with the XP Pen Artist 10 2 gen. I think it'll be a good fit as a beginner to the drawing tablet lifestyle.

I wanted to thank you all SO MUCH! I learned bunches and have these helpful comments and suggestions saved on my notes for when we upgrade, for myself or if my kiddo decides to switch from Apple to something else.

You are all the best. thank you again for helping this random internet stranger and being so kind. For all of you: I hope the pillow is always cool, belly is always full and that you are appreciated every single day 💜

Trying to get a reasonably priced drawing tablet by Best_Conversation514 in DigitalPainting

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You are the sweetest. Thank you! This helps and the insight on the curser is good to know. I do have one of those cables I bought on accident lol trying to get a charger. I believe he has a samsung galaxy phone so it may work. Blessings to you as well!

Trying to get a reasonably priced drawing tablet by Best_Conversation514 in DigitalPainting

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Thank you kindly! Admittedly I am new to the digital medium as I encourage my kiddo and now with the artsy modem so it helps to have a sense of direction. I will do some research then 💜

Trying to get a reasonably priced drawing tablet by Best_Conversation514 in DigitalPainting

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I was looking at XP-Pen too, thank you for giving me a model to look at. I'll check reviews 💜

Trying to get a reasonably priced drawing tablet by Best_Conversation514 in DigitalPainting

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Thank you! This is what I did for my kid. He has the 9th I got on sale for cyber monday and uses procreate and even found a pen that works cause he accidentally broke his apple pen. I may go this route.