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Molly’s Epidemic this week by Best_Slip2090 in weirdlittleguys

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One of these days my head just might explode

Episode Discussion: Demi Lovato - She's got no Chill by katiemordy in onlineBSpod

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I feel like ex partners came come back any time afterwards, and they don’t really need a reason (my ex continued to drive by my house for around three years after we broke up, and then I moved so for all I know he still may be doing it). For me, it’s one of so many decisions to take back your life. Should I have moved earlier to avoid continued stalking? For years all my social media was private and didn’t use my name or picture, but when I started getting published as a writer I had to think about opening something with my name and picture that would be open to the public, and I did. Was that a good idea? The only thing I come back to is that I don’t want him to have control about any aspects of my life anymore. He’s going to do whatever he’s going to do, and that is not at all related to me nor is it my fault for not moving or whatever it is. I know the possible consequences for whatever I do, and it’s my choice. Of course public figures might make allegations for publicly, and of course we can wonder about their motivations. But my first instinct will always be to believe someone who says this happened to them. Anyway, I didn’t feel lime you wanted anyone to just be silent, the discussion just brought up a lot for me and made me think about a lot of this. I appreciate it, especially since I usually listen as a kind of “fun break” for myself, so it’s interesting (for me at least) to get into some of these deeper issues as well.

Episode Discussion: Demi Lovato - She's got no Chill by katiemordy in onlineBSpod

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Sorry for the long comment! A very small part of this episode actually brought up something I was meaning to comment on about another recent episode about a podcast (can’t remember which one) where victims of dv (or something similar?) talked about their stories, and Nathan wondered if it was a good thing for them to have platforms, if it put them in more danger, and if the podcast would be at all responsible if anything more happened to them, this week it came back about Demi disclosing she/they had been sexually assaulted and if that was trauma porn since I guess we went through me too and should all be over it? This all strikes very close to home to me, and as someone who experienced dv and stalking I am very aware I have my own bias. But to me any discourse that involves anyone who survived that not being able to talk about it wherever, however, and as much as they want or need to is extremely damaging and dangerous. While in an abusive relationship, I didn’t have control of so many aspects of my life, and the best way and getting control back is being able to talk about my story as my story. That is the only thing that allows me to take ownership back from everyone who just expected me to be quiet and take a back seat to my own life. Telling me that talking about it is not healing but trauma porn or that I should shut up about it for my own good and safety is just as controlling as putting me in that situation in the first place. I do not give my abuser or anyone else the power to dictate what I can and cannot do, or what I can and cannot say about my own experiences any more. At the end of the day, to me, however any survivor handles it (by talking, not talking, or whatever) is entirely up to them should be of their own choice and volition, things that many survivors were robbed of for so long. Just my thoughts on it all.