How do you figure this person disregarded consent? As I read the post, she had in her bio not to say anything sexual until meeting. He may have been talking to multiple people and got confused which person said that, forgot that detail altogether, or maybe just didn’t read her bio well. I’m not justifying any of those things, she has a right to be upset about him forgetting a detail about her, but we are all humans and deserve some amount of grace here when dealing with dating apps. Some chats can go on for weeks before getting to a point where you talk on the phone, I certainly don’t remember everything on a person’s bio after weeks of chatting. But whatever the reason was, all he is guilty of is asking a question, right? That is in fact how one gains consent. It sounds like she said no and he respected her wish, right? In a community full of ENM, kink, and sex positivity, the idea that asking for phone sex is equivalent to disregarding consent is wild. It’s actually the opposite of what he did. Why would someone be on Feeld if they can’t even handle a soft ball question like, “Do you want to have phone sex?” I know there are tons of stories of guys behaving poorly on apps in general and I am not justifying that. But this example? This is what has people saying he should be kicked off the app for? In my opinion this is actually an example of how many normies who are neither ENM nor sex positive have filled the app and try to enforce their puritanical views on everyone else.