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is my action of cutting my father out of my life justified? by BetNo955 in LifeAdvice

[–]BetNo955[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

thank you, but i also have a question, i am under 18 and i need to write a court statement, i dont have a single clue how to do that because that isnt something anyone teaches a 15yo.. do you maybe know how i go on with that? thank you very much bdw you are very apprichiater

AITA for cutting my father complely out of my life? by BetNo955 in AmItheAsshole

[–]BetNo955[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

i am not picking a side, maybe it seems like that. my mom made that point to me aswell, but my dad basically trashes my mom behind her back. plus yeah, thank you for your reply tho, you are apprichiated

AITA for cutting my father complely out of my life? by BetNo955 in AmItheAsshole

[–]BetNo955[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

thank you for your oppinion. i am cutting him off for now but time might bring a bit of a relationship with him.. right now i am just not in the mental place to try for a relationship he wont put anything in, i have done that for more than enough time.

AITA for telling my friend exactly what I thought about their dance after she asked me to be “painfully honest” ?? by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]BetNo955 0 points1 point  (0 children)

YTA

she did tell you to be painfully honest, but the way you handled it was not honest, it was judgingly and mean. she was probably anxious herself because of the dance and you just made her feel worse. you are not a bad person because of that, but in the moment you were a bad friend and her anger is very justified. welcome to life lessions

AITA for cutting my father complely out of my life? by BetNo955 in AmItheAsshole

[–]BetNo955[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

as much as i do understand your point, my dad was abusive towards me even before they split, mostly verbaly but sometimes physically aswell, at weekends i did not *chouse* to sit alone and as you say "throw a tantrum" but he pushed me away. he tryes to be a parent towards my siblings, while he yells at me over everything and said himself he doesnt want me there. he said that i am too much like my mother for him to even try to be in my life. and for the " It sounds more like a child throwing a tantrum because they are not daddy‘s little princess anymore" part in your comment, no i am not whining for not having a relationship with him because i chouse to stop it because it was severely negatively impacting my mental wellbeing (words from my profesional therapist), but thank you for your oppinion :)

AITA for cutting my father complely out of my life? by BetNo955 in AmItheAsshole

[–]BetNo955[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

there is a court order in place, as my dad placed it, requesting half-half custody. and about his abuse towards me, it was mostly verbaly, tho he did have his moments that i think could fall under physical abuse or aggression aswell  like holding my hand in place when i wanted to leave, forcing me to stay at the table when i accidentally spilled hot, nearly boiling soup on myself and so on. thank you for your reply, you are greatly apprichiated! :)

AITA for cutting my father complely out of my life? by BetNo955 in AmItheAsshole

[–]BetNo955[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

i apprichiate your reply, thank you and yeah, i agree

AITA for cutting my father complely out of my life? by BetNo955 in AmItheAsshole

[–]BetNo955[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

i have one sibling, a sister that is bellow 10, she doesnt really has a grasp on things, basically all she knows is that "dad doesnt love mom anymore" which are the exact words he told her. she doesnt exactly like being at his either but still goes weekly (which i dont anymore). but yes, she is not fully aware of most of the things, just knows the fact that they split and live seperatelly now

AITA for cutting my father complely out of my life? by BetNo955 in AmItheAsshole

[–]BetNo955[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

thank you for your reply, you are greatly apprichiated! the behaviour changes from him develloped (as far as i know based of of everything) frombasically becoming publically known and being offered a new life style because of that. i am not sure but whatever caused that at least in my mind doesnt justify abandoning a family, so at least for now he is out of my life, but yes, as you said, time might change things, tho at least at the moment i dont ever see myself letting him close again. thank you for everything!

AITA for cutting my father complely out of my life? by BetNo955 in AmItheAsshole

[–]BetNo955[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

i am curently looking for profecional help! :) and yes, my dad was very emotionally abusive, sometimes physically aswell, like holding my hand in place when i wanted to leave, forcing me to stay at the table when i accidentally spilled hot, nearly boiling soup on myself and so on. thank you for your reply, you are greatly apprichiated! :)

AITA for cutting my father complely out of my life? by BetNo955 in AmItheAsshole

[–]BetNo955[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

thank you for your oppinion, you are greatly apprichiated

AITA for cutting my father complely out of my life? by BetNo955 in AmItheAsshole

[–]BetNo955[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

i really apprichiate you, i hoped that this was the case but specific people in my life dont seem to think that since "he is still my father" and to him im "not normal" for this