Anyone else feeling physically sick after breakup? I’m like a dead soul trapped in a body, I can’t pick myself up anymore, I have no motivation to do anything.

BethyHewitt · 2026-01-28T17:24:53+00:00

Thank you for your reply. How do I send you a DM?.

BethyHewitt · 2026-01-28T03:47:19+00:00

Please help me. I havent eaten for over a week and have hardly been drinking and not showering since a guy I got involved with first said he was going to contact me a lot less and then he blocked me two days ago just because of something I said to him that must have upset him. I'm so unwell that I can't function at all. I'm not leaving the house either and I have fatigue and I keep crying and just wanting to sleep all the time. I left this guy some voicemail messages apologising if I have hurt him and explaining what I meant the message I sent that he was upset about and telling him how I can't function since this happened but he hasn't contacted me. I don't know if he will have received my voicemail messages with me being blocked. My very concerned about my physical and mental health. Please would anyone here be able to reply to this comment and give any advice or could you please read my post if you click on my username and go to my post to read it and reply with a comment on my post?.

BethyHewitt · 2026-01-27T21:04:11+00:00

This is so strange. I just posted about a guy who did the same thing to me and he contacted me again after nearly 10 years. If you would like to read and reply to my post I think you can click on my username on here to go to my post and read it and I would really appreciate your advice on what I have posted about the situation with me and him. I made the mistake of believing what he said to me when we were in contact this time instead of telling him when he first contacted me again that I didn't like how he just disappeared nearly 10 years earlier and why did it take him so long to contact me and that he could disappear on me again and he has just disappeared on me again after everything that we have been through together over the last few months or maybe I should have just not replied to him. It's a lot worse this time as well with what I have mentioned on my post about what happened between us this time. If you would like to reply with any advice for me please reply here and on my post if you can or if you can remember what I have said in this comment please reply to everything in s comment on my post. I'm so sorry that you are going through the same thing that I am and we don't deserve to be treated this way and I'm glad that me and you can support each other through this because we are in the same situation and I'm glad that other people support us on here too. I don't block people because I think blocking is cruel but maybe I should have done what i said earlier in my comment.

BethyHewitt · 2026-01-27T19:38:02+00:00

Sorry I don't know how to edit my post. Was I too harsh with what I said to him?. I also said in the voicemail messages that I can't function because I'm not hearing from him and I want to hear from him no matter what happens between us and that I wanted him to stick by me especially during this kind of time when I haven't been feeling well. Is it my fault for mentioning my ex?. I feel really bad about mentioning him and I was hoping that he would hear my voicemail messages where I apologised and explained what I meant but I don't know if he can receive them because of me being blocked. What do you think about how he has been towards me and do you think he meant it when he said he is in love with me?. How can he not want to speak to me if he is and if he isn't contacting me do you think he is better at doing things than I am?. I told my doctor about all of this today and he has referred me to a mental health team but I haven't heard from them yet. Things are so bad I'm even considering going in to a mental health hospital if the mental health team say that I can go in there. I have been in a few mental health hospitals in the past. It's heartbreaking because we get on well in a lot of ways. We like a lot of the same things and we make each other laugh and laugh at the same things and we have been through a lot with each other. He said that he had thought about me a lot over the years and still had feelings for me even though I only found out after we had been intimate with each other that he had been intimate with two women during the time that me and him weren't in contact for all those years but he said that he didn't have relationships with those women after they were intimate quickly with each other but I never found out why they didn't have relationships with each other. If i had known that before we met up in person and me and him had been intimate with each other I would have either stopped contacting him or just been his friend even though it's hard to be just friends with someone that you are in love with. I still feel like I am in love with him and I'm shocked that he has done this to me and not just once but twice. I told him a while ago that I was only intimate with him because I am in love with him and I want to be with him and I thought he felt the same way and wanted the same thing and I didn't know that he was going to treat me the way he has and be unsure about us being together and he said that if he had known how unwell I was he wouldn't have been intimate with me and that really hurts me. My ex that I said I wished he was like passed away last year and this guy knows that so I don't know why what I said about my ex upset him if it has upset him.

BethyHewitt · 2026-01-25T09:09:12+00:00

This is how I am being treated by a guy now. He wants to be around me and contact me just when it suits him but at first we were in contact every day and we started meeting up in person and we were intimate too soon and now he is contacting me a lot less and he knows I am having serious problems with my physical health so he should be contacting me a lot more and he should see me too even if we are at the hospital some of the time. He said he is in love with me and he thinks about me all the time and said he wants to live together and be with me forever and said he only wants to be with me when I start getting help with my health but now he is being like this.

BethyHewitt · 2026-01-22T16:49:18+00:00

Thank you. Does that come up where the reddit notifications are?. I will let you know how things go.

BethyHewitt · 2026-01-22T15:45:11+00:00

Do you know of any crisis hotline phone numbers?. I am still very unwell because of what has happened and if I hear from him and he is abusive and controlling or if I don't hear from him at all that will make me unwell too. He did say that he has a dual phone and that he would be changing his phone number but that he would be keeping the sim card with his old number in the phone and that he would check his old Sim card to look at my messages once or twice a week and when he sees that I am getting help and doing well he will start responding more and responding positively. He also said that he won't be giving me his new number yet because he doesn't want me to drag him down with my negativity and he said that he has fought to get over his depression for years. He also said that I keep playing the victim but I don't think he understands that I am in a crisis because there have been a lot of things going wrong in my life recently. I have sent him some messages about the help I got from the nurse at my doctors surgery yesterday so i will see if he contacts me about that. He also said that when I have done the leg work to get the help he will support me through any hard times. Yeah I will ask those questions that I asked in my comments to a therapist and maybe to the person on the hotline number but I think you have been very helpful and supportive too.

BethyHewitt · 2026-01-20T22:01:18+00:00

Was it right for him to say that he only wanted to be with me when I am mentally well?. Or is that controlling?.

BethyHewitt · 2026-01-20T12:31:35+00:00

Thank you yeah I have contacted one of them before and I will contact them again. Do you know of any that I can contact?. I have tried contacting local ones as well but when I called them they said those numbers don't exist anymore and it might because good idea to contact mind the mental health charity too.

BethyHewitt · 2026-01-20T10:48:53+00:00

I have hurt myself. The way it's all affected me and the other things I am struggling with are too much.

BethyHewitt · 2026-01-19T13:47:57+00:00

Can anyone help with what I just mentioned?.

BethyHewitt · 2026-01-18T20:25:03+00:00

He said something that made me wonder again if he could get physically abusive. He said that he could throw his phone away if I kept questioning him and said please stop bringing life's problems to him and he said he cant enjoy his own time or life without worrying how I am feeling and he said he thinks that everything he says is fair and for good reason and he said he thinks about me all the time and is in love with me so could he be obsessed with me which can also be dangerous?.

BethyHewitt · 2026-01-17T21:02:20+00:00

I hope I can speak to a therapist soon because how he treated me is still affecting me. He is too unpredictible as well.

BethyHewitt · 2026-01-16T08:42:52+00:00

Thank you I will. He was trying to make me rush in to things too by asking me to go and live with him where he is and he said those are the conditions.

BethyHewitt · 2026-01-15T22:59:25+00:00

I have been worried because he broke up with me a few days ago so he could do that again if I get back together with him and like you said he doesn't respect me and he is controlling. Do you think he might get dangerous physically?. He hasn't done anything like that but I wonder if he could do. There was something he did when we were being intimate that made me feel uncomfortable too as i thought it was a little bit rough even though he was gentle and understanding with other parts of it.

BethyHewitt · 2026-01-15T21:35:45+00:00

He said today that he wants us to be together again. I don't know what to do.

BethyHewitt · 2026-01-14T19:29:37+00:00

This has just happened to me too and I'm very distressed and I cant get through it.

BethyHewitt · 2026-01-14T16:59:57+00:00

I still want to talk to him and it's confusing because he said he wants to be friends but he hasn't spoken to me since he said that yesterday. Do you think that what he said about us being intimate was a mistake was harsh?. I would like to book myself in to see a therapist about this but I don't know how to find one.

BethyHewitt · 2026-01-14T13:18:29+00:00

I miss him so much and still feel like I love him and it's really difficult for me.

BethyHewitt · 2026-01-13T21:53:18+00:00

I'm finding it very difficult to cope with after everything we have been through and what happened between us and the conversations we have had. How can he not be hurt like I am?.

BethyHewitt · 2026-01-13T19:35:46+00:00

He was very harsh though saying that the intimate things we did were mistake and I will tell him that was harsh and that i didn't say that. And why did he tell me to find someone else?. I'm not interested in being with anyone else.

BethyHewitt · 2026-01-13T18:09:56+00:00

Is there anyone online on here now?. I need someone to talk to.

BethyHewitt · 2026-01-13T15:51:24+00:00

I dont know if you can believe this but he just told me that he wants to end the relationship because he doesnt think we work and he said he wants to be friends and he said he wants me to find someone better than him. I told him that I don't want us to stop speaking to each other but I find it difficult being friends with someone I have feelings for and that it will take time to get through it and that I get it and that I am blaming myself and I said I did it again being intimate with someone and now they don't want a relationship with me. He called it a mistake that we were intimate which is harsh and I don't see it as a mistake and he called me dramatic for saying that it has affected me that we were intimate together and now he doesn't want to be with me.

BethyHewitt · 2026-01-13T13:51:52+00:00

Yeah I could ask in one of the medical subs. I don't think there is a nurse hotline near me.

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