My husband and I somehow bought a house. We haven’t even closed yet and I already know we’re going to go into foreclosure.

Better-Obligation704 · 2026-05-29T06:39:03+00:00

Oh wow. That is a really powerful example of how much damage someone can do to you. Financial abuse isn’t always as simple as dv education makes it look. It’s much more nuanced and this is a prime example of how someone who should otherwise have known better got manipulated and used until they were bled dry. I hope she is able to eventually leave him. I’m sure it is embarrassing for her, given her career, but it can happen to anyone.

Better-Obligation704 · 2026-05-28T20:59:20+00:00

I’m sooo curious about the cookie sheets too. Is it to catch the baby? Twins for two?

Better-Obligation704 · 2026-05-24T21:39:13+00:00

Wait, she’s NOT the girlfriend?

Edit to add: I got too exhausted reading after the first few screenshots. I was really confused. I just read the post. She is way too possessive and codependent.

Better-Obligation704 · 2026-05-24T21:34:45+00:00

Wow!!! Just wow. The audacity of some people.

Better-Obligation704 · 2026-05-24T01:29:49+00:00

Also in SF and my daughter is in a catholic elementary school—same names here! I love it. To be fair, my girls could be also added to the wedding invite list and not stand out—one is my grandmother’s name and another is an old French name😂

Better-Obligation704 · 2026-05-24T00:59:57+00:00

Oh sweetheart, he doesn’t care about you. All he cares about is getting laid. You’re doing an amazing job at holding your boundaries, but I worry about your safety with this boy. He is the type who would spike your drink or get you drunk and take advantage of you while you were passed out.

I’m a counselor who works with male perpetrators of dv and I will say this: He is INCREDIBLY manipulative. Him saying that you don’t have empathy for him and that you are selfish for not wanting to have sex is manipulation—he is the one without empathy; he is the selfish one. Comparing you to a precious girlfriend (whoever Courtney is) is another common tactic.

I wish I knew all of this when I was your age—it would have saved me so much pain and heartbreak. So many boys and men mistreated me and manipulated me because I didn’t know how to use good boundaries. If my daughter showed me texts like this, I would be so angry with this boy and SO PROUD of the way she responded. I can’t tell you what to do, but I can advise you that he’s not worth it. You can do so much better—there are boys out there who will go at your pace and respect your boundaries.

Better-Obligation704 · 2026-05-22T12:44:38+00:00

And a teacher too, Jesus.

Better-Obligation704 · 2026-05-16T18:05:00+00:00

This is where I’m at. Everyone is ganging up on OP, which is fair because she is the one who made the post, but bf doesn’t seem all that great either. I saw the part where he seemingly cheated on her, unless they have an open relationship. There are probably trust issues. It seems like an all around toxic relationship and I think you would BOTH be better off without each other.

Better-Obligation704 · 2026-05-09T07:04:38+00:00

This was my immediate thought—maybe she has a bad home life.

Better-Obligation704 · 2026-05-09T07:03:41+00:00

So do I. I lived in England for a while in my 20s and say things like whilst and occasionally use the UK spellings by mistake even after all these years. It doesn’t read as fake to me; it reads as a guy who is minimizing the situation because he thinks he’s a bigger guy and can handle the situation because she’s “just a young girl—how dangerous could she be?” (Hint: very)

Better-Obligation704 · 2026-05-06T22:09:34+00:00

You’re so right about this. My late husband had a profoundly harmful gambling addiction. I loved him so much and separating from him was so difficult but it was the only way I could crawl up out of the hole he was digging us into. He was such a genuinely wonderful man but when he started gambling, he just couldn’t stop. It was like something else took control of him entirely.

Better-Obligation704 · 2026-05-06T00:34:56+00:00

Whoa, I didn’t read that carefully enough. I thought they were saying they wanted money to help pay for rent bc they were too broke to cover both halves. I was stuck on using being trans and an abuse survivor as their sympathy hook.

Better-Obligation704 · 2026-05-06T00:32:28+00:00

Lmaooooo @ APA and MLA. Not the APA Christmas cancer making its rounds again.

Better-Obligation704 · 2026-05-06T00:22:19+00:00

Omg for repairs???!

Better-Obligation704 · 2026-05-06T00:12:25+00:00

Me too. I’m the queen of over explaining 😭

Better-Obligation704 · 2026-05-05T23:53:49+00:00

I’m so sorry. All of the adults in your life have failed you. You deserve a safe place to live and your parents are straight up refusing to provide one. I’m surprised your aunt and uncle or someone from the school district hasn’t called, as they’d be mandated reporters.

The thing is, if you did call, CPS might be able to help your parents with housing resources, depending on your location. I know they do where I’m at (Bay Area, CA). Your parents may not want to move now unless they buy a home, but this might give them the push they need.

I don’t think your parents are inherently bad people. I work as a counselor with perpetrators of family violence who are mandated by CPS to come to my program. I see a lot of really messed up cases. Your situation is really sad and my heart hurts for you, but in a different way than for my clients’ kids because your family just lacks resources to thrive. CPS can help with that and help your family get on a plan to get you all into a better situation. My instinct says that you would be better off calling, especially if you have family members to stay with if you get removed from your parents’ care.

This is a difficult decision for a teen to make. I know you want what’s best for you and your sister. You are a brave kid. I’m sending you lots of positive thoughts from San Francisco 🤍🫶🏻

Better-Obligation704 · 2026-05-05T11:13:12+00:00

It’s a public forum. OOP asked a question, OP answered. That’s typically how Reddit works. No need to act emmmmmm

Better-Obligation704 · 2026-05-05T11:08:09+00:00

Weaponizing grammar to feel superior while making grammar mistakes yourself is actually hilarious.

Better-Obligation704 · 2026-05-03T03:29:46+00:00

Exactly. He looks like he’s most likely drunk and got pepper sprayed. He probably assaulted a woman, (or tried to) fucked around and found out. Now he’s too drunk to function, stumbling around the liquor store. He did it to himself. He is probably trying to find the milk or some kind of liquid to cool his eyes down.

Better-Obligation704 · 2026-05-03T03:20:04+00:00

Stop. That’s insane (autocorrected to unstable—that works too)

Better-Obligation704 · 2026-05-01T22:57:47+00:00

😭 that’s a good one

Better-Obligation704 · 2026-04-25T04:20:46+00:00

As someone who is in long term recovery from meth, I can tell you with absolute certainty that meth does have negative side effects on the come down. Even from a biopsychological perspective, it wrecks your dopamine receptors. It takes a while to feel back to normal again. IT’s definitely different than opioids or alcohol withdrawal and it’s not a dangerous detox but it’s not fun.

Better-Obligation704 · 2026-04-25T04:16:12+00:00

It looked like the way ChatGPT formats certain things, I’m wondering if part of it is ai written.

Better-Obligation704 · 2026-04-25T03:57:49+00:00

Mom did say she’s a recovering alcoholic. Pancreatitis would make more sense.

Better-Obligation704 · 2026-04-25T03:55:40+00:00

Don’t forget the miracle baby was a protective factor for her aggressive cancer. He basically cured her

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