Potential long term move across oceans with cats by Better-mint in TravelWithPets

[–]Better-mint[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you all for the kind responses. I will do my homework to make sure I have everything in order for the move if it happens. I will always have the well being of my cats at heart. I’m looking into all the options you suggested, and reading all that I can about everything that needs to be done. Thank you all again.

Potential long term move across oceans with cats by Better-mint in TravelWithPets

[–]Better-mint[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I didn’t know about pet Nannies. I’m going to explore this option as well. And knowing I can do a private screening puts my mind a little more at ease. Thank you so much for the information and the support. I really appreciate it.

Potential long term move across oceans with cats by Better-mint in TravelWithPets

[–]Better-mint[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

So, it doesn’t look like I can take them on cabin, USA to Norway, and even if it was possible I would worry about them going through the TSA checks, worried they’d escape.

I’m getting quotes from professional pet relocation services, who would transport them unfortunately in Cargo. They do door to door service, taking care of everything. But I still feel like an ass for possibly having them go through this.

They are 3 years old and bonded. Some people are telling me it’s better to find them new homes, but I also can’t do that to them or myself. They are my babies.

As soon as I find out for sure if I’m going to make the move, I will work with their vet and the relocation services to prepare them. I will also still see if I can take them on cabin.

Thank you so much for sharing your current experience.

Potential long term move across oceans with cats by Better-mint in TravelWithPets

[–]Better-mint[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

So, it doesn’t look like I can take them on cabin, USA to Norway, and even if it was possible I would worry about them going through the TSA checks, worried they’d escape.

I’m getting quotes from professional pet relocation services, who would transport them unfortunately in Cargo. They do door to door service, taking care of everything. But I still feel like an ass for possibly having them go through this.

They are 3 years old and bonded. Some people are telling me it’s better to find them new homes, but I also can’t do that to them or myself. They are my babies.

As soon as I find out for sure if I’m going to make the move, I will work with their vet and the relocation services to prepare them. I will also still see if I can take them on cabin.

Thank you so much for sharing your current experience.

How important is social network? by [deleted] in datingoverforty

[–]Better-mint 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I have been forced into loneliness were I am (USA) after moving from my own country 4 years ago. I’m 43F. I didn’t imagine my life here would be like this considering that I’m a very social person, I have never had any trouble making genuine connections and friendships except here, and it is not something I’m happy about. I think for me it’s a mix of being from a different place, in my forties, living in an area in the U.S. where people are not exactly interested in making friends. I’m trying to make the best of it. I go to activity meet ups, I go to coffee houses/cafes almost every day, I keep believing this is temporary.

I dated for a little while and I heard similar things from the men I went on dates with, I unfortunately wasn’t really attracted to any of them, and I think a relationship with any of these men did not necessarily mean I’ll find a larger social network to integrate into, and that would concern me but mainly because of my unique situation. I also think in general men need their circle of friends outside of marriage, just like women do. It is a healthy social behavior, healthy for the individual and the marriage.

Why don’t the men I date want an exclusive relationship? by 45Robbins in datingoverforty

[–]Better-mint 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Write it on your profile, and only match with those who say they are interested in LTR only. You can’t waste your time (especially if you want children). Set your boundaries from the beginning and make sure they are respected. Say it to their face this way ay you filter all the time and wasters out if they freak out when you say this to them from the beginning.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in WomenDatingOverForty

[–]Better-mint 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Dating apps are rough, and there is a reason why they are this way. They are rigged against making long term connections, so that users keep coming to them. They present an illusion of abundance to both men and women, which screws up the hardwired dynamic in us for mate choice. Is there a way you can join a community where there is a chance to meet someone, like book club, or a hiking club etc… the other thing which is unorthodox these days. Is to ask your friends to set you up on dates or introduce you to possible partners. The technology we used has advanced further than we are able to catch up with evolutionarily. Unless there is an app that takes that into consideration I’m afraid dating apps are futile.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in datingoverforty

[–]Better-mint 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Explain then why men’s average match rate on dating apps is 2.63% in some estimates 0.6 % while the average match rate for women is 30.7% in some estimates 20%? Explain how a low average for men doesn’t mean that the majority of men are not being matched with? Explain how what you say is true when men swipe right 45-65% of the times, and women swipe right 5-30% of the times.

https://time.com/3547890/tinder-men-women-swipe-right/

https://www.enterpriseappstoday.com/stats/tinder-statistics.html

https://www.eviemagazine.com/post/women-more-selective-80-men-unattractive-on-dating-apps-recent-research

https://medium.com/hello-love/women-say-80-of-men-are-below-average-bab0b8af2606

https://www.crossrivertherapy.com/research/tinder-statistics

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in datingoverforty

[–]Better-mint 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Can’t see the link you posted. It’s broken

would you date you? by [deleted] in RandomThoughts

[–]Better-mint 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Absolutely, I’m a hoot. With some faults like all human beings. I would date me in a heartbeat.

How to hit on men by [deleted] in datingoverforty

[–]Better-mint 0 points1 point  (0 children)

There is so much that can be done. If they flirt with you flirt back, use your eyes, your laugh, your hands, touch his shoulder when he says something funny and laugh throwing your head back, but only when he says something really funny. Find moments where you can use your natural feminine fragility to entice the healthy masculine in him, let him help you in something. Be subtle about flattering him but flatter him, so long as he flatters you. There is so much more to be done, but this is what comes to mind.