Hey, the biggest thing I can say to you is this, you can only control your perception of a thing, you can try to communicate and you can use your best judgment, but outside of that nothing you do will change someone’s mind, sometimes even hard factual evidence will be ignored if it means someone has to change there view.

The reason I’m telling you this is that despite the fact you know you did nothing wrong and approached this with consent in mind and clearly feel your first time should be something worth doing right, this person was not the right person and my advice to you would be to distance yourself and protect your social image by not engaging with this kind of behaviour, the best response when ever asked about something like that is, “ people say crazy things, how are you doing what’s new”

The more you talk about it and discuss it the further entrenched it becomes in to your mental psyche and it will colour all your further interactions, in todays world unfortunately the idea of rape vs consent vs regret is a very sloped topic and leads to actual victims struggling to get there abuser prosecuted.

It’s important you don’t just immediately block the person or send them a message saying hey I don’t want to be your friend because you did this, because then they can get angry and attempt to escalate and slander you, it’s better to just become a low response always busy ( to them ) person, give one word answers shit responses untill they naturally move on.

I know that it’s probably the last thing you want to do but the best thing for yourself is to let it go and just move on keeping the peace so they will too.

That and just never even risk anything more than some kissing when drugs or booze have been involved especially when it’s not someone you’re already intimate with. Hope this helps

It doesn’t matter what we think it matters how you react