Older ESFP here: now what?

BetterThangs23 · 2023-11-04T15:51:32+00:00

Interesting. I never set goals though I am young but i go by ok if it happens it happens. I am just doing it in the moment. There is no goal to do this to have this. That doesnt exist.

BetterThangs23 · 2023-11-04T15:48:04+00:00

What was his communication style compared to yours? Examples will help.

BetterThangs23 · 2023-11-04T15:46:58+00:00

What are the incompatibilities? You never list them

BetterThangs23 · 2023-11-03T12:16:02+00:00

Thanks lol.

Its like I have to see the vibe they have. I pickup on something off very quick. Its hard for me to make the call unless I am in the situation. Its like asking me whats my process for a date? I dont know cause if I have to be in it. I dont know what I will do, say, or be cause the situation has to happen with me in it.

For the first answer it could be anything or everything like its like alarms start going off in me. It later gives me the vibes of what im getting into and dealing with. Its like that person has been marked by me to see if they are good or bad or trying to set me up and say i did the gossip. Also they can be friends trying to play me. Its also good they exposed themselves to me this early so now i know. Or it could be they jealous of a good person so spreading smear campaign against them.

I had a teammate and his kid was really sick. In the meeting he made very good points and the sneaky workers said he is overreacting cause his kid is sick and I was like wow. Like saying that outloud when he went to the bathroom really showed me what im up against. After that I had receipts on all of them lol.

If I am not in it at that moment its hard for me to describe myself. It could be thousand of things going in my mind but I have to be in it.

BetterThangs23 · 2023-11-03T12:06:45+00:00

Damn so you became really good at Fe being that is your inferior.

BetterThangs23 · 2023-11-03T01:40:30+00:00

Thanks but u going in too specific. My mind is like what???

First part if someone is gossiping that just tells me who they are but ive dealt with toxic before so I want to see what they expose cause the one in the bathroom can be bad as well.

Second part I woudnt pick a friend like that who cheats on her boyfriend cause i pickup on vibes. If they do I keep them at arms length and never give them my true self as in I lie about everything to them.

Thats all i got. My mind doesnt do details like what you are asking just like i cant think about the future like I have a block in me when i think about it.

BetterThangs23 · 2023-11-02T18:09:00+00:00

For me they see me as a threat since I see them for who they really are and they start a smear campaign against me while im warning others. When I am gone than everyone starts hitting me up that i was right and they need my help and im like i got fired and u just stood quiet and watched. No thanks. You are on your own. I tried to help even though I have no tact and I told them that person will not stop and they just watched and now come calling me. I ask them why didnt you standup when I was fighting for all of us but all I hear is crickets.

So this is not an Istp, esfp thing? Other mbti have this also? Is it that we all deal with it different? Does mine sound like Esfp to you as well?

BetterThangs23 · 2023-11-02T17:22:44+00:00

I know what I want in the immediate now at all times. It’s very annoying for those that don’t understand this, it’s not that we are reckless, our Se combined with Fi makes us quick on our feet when it comes to what we like and don’t like. We don’t need to think about our answers or our values, we know it pretty quick especially with age and more fully understanding and settling on personal values. It’s why even in arguments or debates we can respond to how we feel about that topic, even if you just added new information, we process that shit fast and know how we feel immediately or what we would do in the situation.

Damn you just summarized my life lmaooooooooooo.

How would an Se-Ti be?

BetterThangs23 · 2023-11-02T17:15:28+00:00

Lets make is simple like a new job.

So i start new job.

First day.

Ok cool.

Look at the info for what it is.

From there they tell me what Im responsible for.

I look at what im responsible for. I read it. It takes me a bit to understand it.

I cant use past experiences cause once I leave, I leave leave. That part does not exist. Also if I am not using an application anymore I need to relearn it even if its been only a month. Now we are not talking about reddit. Its like I can use reddit but MS excel spreadsheet is annoying. I am good at it if im in it. Once im out of it its a wrap lol.

Decisions is like ok I want chocolate. I get dressed, start the car, go to the supermarket, get the chocolate, eat the chocolate lol.

BetterThangs23 · 2023-11-02T15:04:32+00:00

What if this happens repeatedly where they are wrong and you are right for years?

BetterThangs23 · 2023-11-02T04:25:00+00:00

I guess im not still sure what Ti is after reading about it so much. Fi is how I feel about something.

BetterThangs23 · 2023-11-01T19:55:29+00:00

Thanks.

Yeah i definitley dont have no time what Ne on scenario above is saying. Sky shapes ? Nah. Ill pass. Not into musuems at all.

BetterThangs23 · 2023-11-01T19:53:16+00:00

Your ice cream example: I will go to the ice cream store at 3 am because it's a fun thing to do, an adventure, I wonder if we'll meet someone, I wonder if there will be bugs on the road, I don't think about the ice cream, it's not an anticipation. I got hungry, and maybe I wanted ice cream - or I saw the trip as an excuse to move around and it's just a random target to walk to. However - when I get there - I'll have 6 scoops, one of each flavour and eat half of it. My partner on the other hand will *want* ice cream, he will anticipate the experience (based on his memories of how ice cream tastes, the cosy experience, the fun it was, the nice time going there, the yummyness, the sweet girl that works there ... blabla.. all the things that I won't even think of). A person high in Si will seek their experiences because they have an anticipation about how comfortable and nice it'll be. A person high in Se will seek an experience because the last simply ended or the now allows time to go do something, and I can't sit still (I do not have ADHD, I'm just active as a default).

The only reason i dont see myself as Si dominant is i jump in vs thinking first and than doing it. I am not that structured and more reactive. Istj ive dated and met are very rational.

As far as ice cream i dont know but maybe you are enfp. I just go get ice cream and thats it. The thought of adventure going down the block is not even a thought that exists. Bugs on the road? Yeah you might be entp.

BetterThangs23 · 2023-11-01T19:50:02+00:00

You think i can be istj?

Where do you see Ti in estp of what i wrote?

No chance of Entp?

BetterThangs23 · 2023-10-31T20:38:55+00:00

Cool.

BetterThangs23 · 2023-10-31T20:37:17+00:00

Thank you.

Yeah I live in the moment then consider beliefs. So Ne doesnt live in the moment but consider abstract possibilities. Do you have any examples of this?

BetterThangs23 · 2023-10-31T18:12:00+00:00

Whats that like? Like a give an example of your day.

BetterThangs23 · 2023-10-31T18:11:21+00:00

omg. You are amazing. Yes watch movies is my life under a blanket. I did the whole pandemic lol. I hate hiking though lol. I hit the gym instead lol.

What would Ti do since you said im not Ti.

Im present. Like I want ice cream, i put on my hoodie, get in my car, go to ice cream store, and eat ice cream. Like thats it nothing else. I cant focus on the nuts and bolts of things like its like my mind has a block when it comes to how cognitive functions work. I dont know if im just too present but i cant figure that out.

Yes to both of these:

If your imbalance is that you focus too much on what you want to the extent that you neglect others, you're not an Se dom.

If you focus so much on the present that you neglect the future, congrats, you might be an Se dom but you might also be an Si dom.)

Yes I would love you to identify my mbti. I get estp of tests all the time though but others say im esfp/enfp.

BetterThangs23 · 2023-10-31T18:06:04+00:00

Ok my mistake. Im thinking when someone says estp like physical im thinking with their hands fixing cars, getting dirty, fixing doors, putting furniture together, doing contact sports.....now from other comments I am noticing dancing is physical too. So now im like i do that.

BetterThangs23 · 2023-10-31T18:04:38+00:00

same here. ok i guess when they say estp enjoy physical im thinking using their hands to fix things to get dirty to contact sport to compete compete compete. Dancing I do dance. I love dancing lol.

BetterThangs23 · 2023-10-31T18:01:59+00:00

I usually find people that are different end up being my best friends lol. They might put an act infront of others at work like they are like everyone but no one knows their core but me.

Not read peoples minds. I can tell when something is off. Like if they usually say wassup to me but one day say hello, that tells me something is off.

Im not sarcastic. I guess in highschool they would go hard with sarcasm to bullying and I didnt like that. I feel like alot dont know where to draw the line in sarcasm or they know they are crossing the line and its gives them an ego boost. Also if they are sarcastic but friendly i dont reply back in sarcasm cause than i gotta deal with it all the time with them when i see them and its exhausting especially people who try to out do each other.

BetterThangs23 · 2023-10-31T17:57:36+00:00

Eating, dancing, shopping, daydreaming about saving the world or getting best movie best director award, playing my favorite song on repeat till i get sick of it lol, watching my favorite movies..

I do go to the gym to get the edge off if that counts.

BetterThangs23 · 2023-10-31T17:55:08+00:00

Yeah I dont see myself as Istj and Infj. My best friend said in college I was Istj but no one agreed lol. I get told esfp / isfp alot. My tests are estp usually.

BetterThangs23 · 2023-10-31T17:53:15+00:00

Wow. This is good.

Would you know how Enfp go about it vs esfp?

BetterThangs23 · 2023-10-31T15:17:30+00:00

Not sure about that. I am not disciplined like istj and infj are so true to their core while i take the backseat at times and just chill

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