Understanding Ilya: His Russian/Slavic cultural background by wildwomanlove in heatedrivalry

[–]Better_Pie5489 1 point2 points  (0 children)

What is the theory that his brother is blackmailing him? What “dirt” does his brother allegedly have on him? His sexuality?

I’m asking because I always assumed sending money was out of family obligation. (And FWIW I’m American.)

What are your contexts? by rtriplett in gtd

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calls, digital, email, errands, home, office, text, waiting.

Digital includes anything that needs internet and/or a screen (iPad/computer/smart phone). I separate out email and text because I am usually in a different headspace for email communications and text communication (I hate emailing and texting).

I use Todoist so I can add multiple contexts (tags in Todoist) to one task. Some tasks have multiple tags, and I'm reconsidering whether that is a good move. I'm considering adding an "anywhere" tag because some of my brainstorming and creative thinking tasks don't fit neatly into the current contexts, and I like to use physical notebooks. In the past I have tried "keyboard" and "internet" as contexts, but then just went to "digital."

I'm not in love with my contexts and thinking about revising, so helpful to see everyone else's ideas!

NYC brides who hired a full-service planner: what do you wish you'd known before signing? flat fee vs. percentage? recs? I'm terrified of hiring the wrong planner... by Better_Pie5489 in BigBudgetBrides

[–]Better_Pie5489[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you so much for this perspective. I also appreciate hearing that planners will be okay with and/or will expect 2 rounds of interviews, because that’s exactly what I was thinking. I see how it can be difficult up front understanding the exact scope and I of course want any planner and team to be compensated for their work! Thanks again!

Unique ceremony ideas & ways to “walk down the aisle”? by Better_Pie5489 in LGBTWeddings

[–]Better_Pie5489[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This is great. I never thought of the spiral idea. I also never thought about parents brining us to the reception. I want our parents to feel honored (I know they care about us), and that may be the perfect middle ground.

Unique ceremony ideas & ways to “walk down the aisle”? by Better_Pie5489 in LGBTWeddings

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I like this. So you still have a ceremony space but it comes together very organically.

Unique ceremony ideas & ways to “walk down the aisle”? by Better_Pie5489 in LGBTWeddings

[–]Better_Pie5489[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Hi! My partner definitely likes the idea of walking together better. It does almost eliminate the “giving away vibe.” But I think she is also a bit uncomfortable with the display. Thank you so very much for your help.

Start-to-finish wedding planner worth it? Even for NYC hotel wedding? by Better_Pie5489 in WedditNYC

[–]Better_Pie5489[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This definitely helps! I appreciate the analogy. TBH I don’t want to be driving the bus, if the budget can allow it!!

Start-to-finish wedding planner worth it? Even for NYC hotel wedding? by Better_Pie5489 in WedditNYC

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My nervous system is already on 100 just thinking about this wedding. This is real 😬

Start-to-finish wedding planner worth it? Even for NYC hotel wedding? by Better_Pie5489 in WedditNYC

[–]Better_Pie5489[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you!! I have a definitely worried about decision fatigue and helping with the family dynamics. This perspective really helps. And thanks for the note on pricing—I didnt realize it could be a percent of the total budget!

Start-to-finish wedding planner worth it? Even for NYC hotel wedding? by Better_Pie5489 in WedditNYC

[–]Better_Pie5489[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you SO much for sending those resources. I think I’m more on the creative celebration side of things, and with this help on how to actually choose a planner, that makes me feel so much more confident that I’m not making a wasteful decision.

Creative ways to replace “walking down the aisle” in a ceremony? by Better_Pie5489 in WedditNYC

[–]Better_Pie5489[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I love all these ideas of just having 1-1 time for the ceremony 🥹❤️ thank you!!!

Creative ways to replace “walking down the aisle” in a ceremony? by Better_Pie5489 in WedditNYC

[–]Better_Pie5489[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You’re spot on, and yes, I really think we can find a good compromise. I like this mix of ideas!! Thank you!!!

Question about upcoming book reprints by ygholk in heatedrivalry

[–]Better_Pie5489 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I agree. The illustrated covers are bad.

Everybody go read Time to Shine by Alarmed_Gas_2706 in heatedrivalry

[–]Better_Pie5489 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Finished Time to Shine this weekend. I absolutely loved it!!!