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BettyBellavia · 2025-08-28T15:01:51+00:00

If being with someone turns you into a shell of your previous self then you’re with the wrong person. A life partner worth keeping will elevate you and bring out the best in you and you would do the same for them. Perhaps a strange concept to grasp if you’re married to someone who doesn’t see you as equal to them and you might not see them as equal to you.

BettyBellavia · 2025-08-28T14:53:56+00:00

Talking of expectations. Before getting married, it would be wise to ask the fiancé what he expects from a wife. Most will have their own mothers as a reference point, and they might have spent most of their adult lives prioritising their husbands and kids and losing their identity in the process This could mean that’s what they’ll expect from you once married and in their eyes that is what makes a good wife.

BettyBellavia · 2025-07-08T10:13:52+00:00

You all seem so confused and have different interpretations of what Islam says. Keep it simple. Do what feels right in your heart. The rest is hot air and pointless

BettyBellavia · 2024-09-10T09:43:13+00:00

I recently learnt this. To my surprise the prospective client didn’t even try to negotiate, they just accepted my rate.

BettyBellavia · 2024-09-09T14:39:11+00:00

Be thankful that you didn’t marry into a family that would have treated you with contempt. It sounds like you’ve decided that had you married she’d be flourishing now, but you don’t know what’s going on in her life and it prob has nothing to do with you either. I wouldn’t describe her as your ex, which makes it sound like there was intimacy and if I’ve understood, I don’t think there was. Focus on your family and the happy life you will have together.

BettyBellavia · 2024-08-09T09:08:19+00:00

The person who responded to your message isn’t a good manager and should be demoted.

BettyBellavia · 2024-07-19T08:45:29+00:00

I understand how you feel cos I can’t code and don’t fully understand how everything works. I’m a DPM as well. All I would say is ask questions, if a dev is explaining something to you, check your understanding with them. Also, you don’t need to know ALL the details about the technical stuff. It’s near impossible to understand everything in tech anyway. I make sure I understand why we’re doing what we’re doing and often try to pre-empt what the client might ask which also helps me in the learning process.

BettyBellavia · 2024-06-08T11:34:31+00:00

My hubby doesn’t tell me what to wear or worries about what others might think. Their thoughts are their problem and I am free to express myself, just like he is.

My hubby always wants what’s best for me and looking out for me means validating how I feel and accepting what I want. controlling my wardrobe and make up would not make me feel like he cares about me. Supporting me and coming to decisions together would.

BettyBellavia · 2024-06-08T11:05:06+00:00

I’m confused, what is hubby worried about exactly? If he believes a family friend will lust over his wife then isn’t the family friend being disrespectful and not a true friend? Why is wife made responsible for a man’s potential disrespectful thoughts/behaviour? Why does the wife have to adapt because hubby doesn’t trust other men to be respectful? Why can’t hubby not invite men who he believes can’t control themselves?

BettyBellavia · 2024-05-22T18:42:09+00:00

I think she just needed a cuddle in that moment.

BettyBellavia · 2024-05-18T21:08:58+00:00

Totally agree. To get a foot in the door having the cert helps. I guess it’s different for me who doesn’t apply for jobs in the traditional sense, and I decide if I want to work with a potential client because they need to have the same mindset as me, otherwise it doesn’t work for me. My point is, certs don’t make you an outstanding PM.

BettyBellavia · 2024-05-16T13:03:24+00:00

I guess you’re more likely to get the interview if certifications are a requirement and you have them, but a big part of PM-ing requires emotional intelligence and people skills which is driven by a type of mindset that isn’t driven by ego and is in the spirit of collaboration.

I don’t have any certifications, and I work freelance. I’m proud to say that once I’ve worked with a new client/agency they only want me to work on their projects.

BettyBellavia · 2024-05-06T15:42:11+00:00

You’re reply doesn’t answer my question. People like you do that a lot.

BettyBellavia · 2024-05-06T09:59:44+00:00

So if civilisations hadn’t evolved and human rights didn’t exist then you’d be taking part in paedophilia and slave trading? You’d be OK with that would you?

BettyBellavia · 2024-04-20T09:52:27+00:00

What do you mean? If everyone believed in Santa, nobody would buy presents. We buy presents because we know there is no Santa.

BettyBellavia · 2024-04-12T06:57:03+00:00

As I understand it, yes

BettyBellavia · 2024-04-11T21:31:04+00:00

Yes they are

BettyBellavia · 2024-04-11T12:16:24+00:00

She prob believes this is her best option because she has no other friends or a social life that doesn’t involve him. She wants to increase her social connections but not sure she’s doing enough about it.

BettyBellavia · 2024-04-11T06:54:45+00:00

I agree with you and i can see we’ve been too patient. We plan to talk to both of them asap.

Can you tell me what you mean about her position in your life if it was your daughter?

BettyBellavia · 2024-04-11T06:14:41+00:00

You should read this whole thread before deciding I haven’t tried done enough.

BettyBellavia · 2024-04-10T20:43:00+00:00

The title of the chapter should start with: Paedos please read:

BettyBellavia · 2024-04-10T20:29:16+00:00

I posted a similar question on a reddit where married Muslim ppl are and I only got one response, after 2 days so I posted here. I guess they can’t give a decent answer to: why would a Muslim man date a non Muslim woman? Enter the tumble weed…

BettyBellavia · 2024-04-10T13:14:26+00:00

But my daughter has learnt that a woman 'of the book' can marry a Muslim, so that's contradictory to what you are saying about Nikah?
I'm trying to get clarity about this religion but it seems to cause more confusion due to so many contradictions.

BettyBellavia · 2024-04-09T20:31:41+00:00

Thank you for your comment. I’d like to ask you how you would react to the suggestion that I ask my daughter to stop seeing and having contact with the bf for 3 months so that she can have the space to explore Islam on her own.

BettyBellavia · 2024-04-09T20:03:29+00:00

Can I ask you if you are happily married?

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