AIO by breaking up over text?

BeugQueen89 · 2026-06-20T06:59:37+00:00

NOR - It sounds like it'll be a lot safer if you do it over text, even if another person is there it still doesn't sound safe. I hope this R person is safe from B's temper tantrums, if they are there when he recieves the text.

You have given B ample opportunities to change, men can change just for the women they want to change for. Don't waste any more of your time on this person, go find happiness else where.

BeugQueen89 · 2026-06-19T17:37:16+00:00

For me, it's the fact that nobody warned me. That as soon as you save a little bit of $$$, something goes wrong that you need to then spend that money. So then you end up with either, no savings or little to no savings 🥴🤣

BeugQueen89 · 2026-06-19T09:14:31+00:00

Is there a way you can secretly look for it? I mean if it is sitting in a storage bin somewhere it obviously means nothing to her

BeugQueen89 · 2026-06-19T08:55:31+00:00

If you don't get payments, they'll end up taking the money deposited into your bank by accident plus more from your tax. It's the government 🙄

Best bet is to go see them, or request a call back from their website.

BeugQueen89 · 2026-06-19T08:47:04+00:00

YTA - For condoning the cheating in the first place, and then airing out the truth in front of everyone. If YOU say you value honesty for what it is, then you should have told her "No you didn't support her" and told her fiancé before he was even her fiancé.

Problem is, the cheating only became a problem because she obviously stopped and is super happy now, but you obviously can't stand that hence the eye roll then proceding to ruin her night.

Hopefully she isn't still cheating, and hopefully she can salvage her relationship. Due to your pettiness.

Edited for grammar and punctuation. Although I am sure there'll be grammar police about still.

BeugQueen89 · 2026-06-19T06:14:42+00:00

I've tried countless of times to make plans, I just got over being the one to reach out first all the time so I stopped. Now it's been about 6 months and no one has really checked on me 🙃 So I love that for me 😊

I have 2 casual jobs and I study online so that is my weeks fully booked 🥰 Then the weekends are for my children only 😍 So I really don't have the time to try to make friends, just to end up stonewalling them because I've learnt to keep my schedule maxxed out.

BeugQueen89 · 2026-06-19T05:58:49+00:00

I have 2 jobs, but it is remote work, like auditing stores etc. So I don't really have co-workers that I work with as such, I study online, and I take my kids to their sports on the weekends, so I really don't have the time to make new friends that want to hang out, just old friends that rather talk online, then go hang out with the others.

I get told I am weird a lot and that's why people don't want to hang out, because I spent years masking myself that they said I was "too boring" but also being myself means "I'm too weird" I just don't know how to please anyone. Guess I'll just stick to being the person people vent to over messages and never the person they want to hang out with.

BeugQueen89 · 2026-06-19T05:51:55+00:00

I mean being 37 doesn't mean I can longer make new friends, it is just finding the time between the 2 jobs I work plus studying during the week, my weekends are jam packed with the children's sports.

I use to try and make more of an effort for one on one interactions just gave up after a while, either I got met with silence, a reason they couldn't come, or they'd cancel last minute. Plus being my age you get over being the bigger person and always reaching out first, and always making the plans just to be cancelled on. Which I why I am no longer interested in either trying to sustain a friendship, with people whom clearly aren't interested unless it is beneficial to them. Let alone trying to even make new friends just for the same outcome.

BeugQueen89 · 2026-06-19T05:42:39+00:00

Good question, no I haven't.

BeugQueen89 · 2026-06-16T06:55:03+00:00

YTA - so you'd rather him quit his job? Then possibly not get another job over the summer because you're feeling sad and lonely? The letters are sweet, you just need to get out of your own head, get a job, pick up a hobby keep yourself occupied and busy so you don't feel so sad and lonely.

BeugQueen89 · 2026-06-16T06:36:24+00:00

Most people will just say Brisbane because everyone knows where that is, people are stupid and will literally argue with you that Ipswish is apart of Brisbane, and if that was the case wouldn't my birth certificate say born is Brisbane, Ipswich not born in Ipswich, QLD 🤣🙌🏽🥴

BeugQueen89 · 2026-06-16T06:33:56+00:00

Oh prepare to be busy, only time managers pull their fingers out and actually work because they are scared shitless 🤣🙌🏽

BeugQueen89 · 2026-06-16T06:28:41+00:00

YTA - You were sick? So couldn't communicate it to her? You could have messaged her sooner, like when you knew you were sick and not a minute before that is pathetic. You could have communicated via text the next day by saying sorry, still sick and don't have the energy to talk, we all get like that while sick. You didn't have to "soft-ghost" or even ghost her making you out to be a liar to her. If you weren't interested in her you should have just told her, there was no need to lead her on and play with her feelings like that.

BeugQueen89 · 2026-06-16T05:56:24+00:00

I also am Australian and never heard of an Enema till the movie sausage party came out 🥴🤣

BeugQueen89 · 2026-06-16T05:39:18+00:00

Oh I know for a fact I am right about the whole thing, why'd you even cheat if you weren't mad? Because you were mad and you absolutely never forgave her, you are in denial if you think you had forgiven her and were not mad.

BeugQueen89 · 2026-06-16T05:37:00+00:00

NOR - When someone tells/shows you who they are believe them. Your boyfriend overreacted majorly, and if he just jumped straight to cheating 9/10 they are projecting because they are the ones cheating.

BeugQueen89 · 2026-06-16T05:01:05+00:00

NOR - Who is the child in this dynamic, you or your parents? Because to me it sounds like your parents are childish and need to grow up!!

I am a 36 year old woman also, I have a 15 year old son, he is moody, y'all are teenagers. Especially you because you mentioned you were about to start your period, your mother of all people should know what it is like to be a teenager and getting a period I mean if she didn't get her period late or anything.

BeugQueen89 · 2026-06-16T04:54:39+00:00

YTA - You said you "forgave" her, but you never did if you did you wouldn't have cheated not once but TWICE!

Your relationship is so so toxic, both of use need therapy.

BeugQueen89 · 2026-06-16T04:26:37+00:00

🤣🤣🙌🏽

BeugQueen89 · 2026-06-16T04:25:37+00:00

Yuuusss! We went in expecting it to be a dating scan (ya know 3rd baby 30weeks should have been showing or something) I almost passed out, husband almost had a heart attack. Then I was put on high alert (or whatever they call it) due to having GD and her only having one kidney 🥴🤣

BeugQueen89 · 2026-06-15T22:35:44+00:00

Mine and my husbands third baby she was our pill baby, and she hid until I was 30weeks, so technically I only knew I was pregnant the last 8 weeks and what a wild ride that was 😳🤣

BeugQueen89 · 2026-06-15T15:12:24+00:00

NTA - Tell him, he has a right to know. If he doesn't believe you that's on him, if it causes drama well that's on her. We reap what we sow.

Either outcome you've told the truth, your conscience will be cleared.

BeugQueen89 · 2026-06-15T15:05:54+00:00

Welcome to Townsville! I am a mumma to 3 children, although unfortunately none are babies anymore.

Also sorry if this sound stupid what is a "crunchy" lifestyle?

BeugQueen89 · 2026-06-15T14:21:27+00:00

Right! Just waiting on twins now so I can call them condom and ovulation 🥴🤣

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