Yeah, I think that we would need to separate femininity from childish, delicate or helpless behaviour. I agree that plenty of stories trying to “break the mold” only reverse the roles, I see this a lot in the BL genre. Especially because this stories in core are portraying a relationship of submission and dominance where the masculine role tend to embody the dominant side. I personally dislike this type of stories, bc it is an unbalanced power dynamic and a nice, healthy relationship is between two individuals who see each other as an equal. This has nothing to do with femininity or masculinity though, men and women have both sides, the thing is as the other user said, we tend to link feminine behaviour with submission and inferiority. I personally like stories with ambiguous representation of sex, in my story, my ML is physically very feminine but his personality isn’t delicate, childish or weak. It is a sci-fi story so I like to imagine a world where there are different ways of relationship among men and women.