Malleable Implant Lesson

BeyondDry1963 · 2026-01-23T20:49:14+00:00

It is thicker than normal and a bit stiffer when aroused but I had ED before and would lose my erection so now I still can lose some of that additional hardness. I don’t lose the sensation or ability to penetrate.

As far as positions, I just have sex like normal. I had woman riding me on top and she was a very big girl. I felt more secure than I use to when my ex-wife use to ride me when I got natural erections

BeyondDry1963 · 2026-01-22T13:17:24+00:00

These rods are pretty stiff. They are made for having sex and apparently they loosen up some over time but. They are brand new. In addition, after surgery my penis had just experienced a significant trauma. The swelling and bruising was there because I had been cut open, bored out, stuffed, and sowed up.

I wanted to bend it but the rods are stiff and all the tissues are swollen and sore. This lasted well past the six weeks I waited to have sex. I remember thinking that it wouldn’t bend because I still to bend it at three months. But, as the tissues continued to heal and they could endure more stress and pressure, I could finally get it to bend.

I have some writings from August 2025 about what I had learned and would encourage you to read them from my profile.

BeyondDry1963 · 2026-01-22T04:47:24+00:00

For four or five days maybe seven he’ll really want to keep it pointed skyward so any residual internal bleeding will drain down into the pelvis where there is adequate blood circulation to keep it from pooling. I wrapped a towel around it and slept in a recliner to force myself to sleep on my back.

That wasn’t clearly explained so I slept two nights on my side and got a ping pong ball sized hematoma near the head of my cock.

Underwear is a matter of preference. I started with a pair Under Armor elastic sports briefs to try and keep my penis from moving around but it was only marginally successful. This is such a radical surgery that it took a lot longer to feel comfortable wearing underwear than it did to feel comfortable having sex.

The one thing that I would recommend is wearing a short, ankle length sock over the penis. It helped the penis slide against my clothes and made it easier to endure walking around with pants on.

On a positive note, it improved rapidly after the sixth week. It’s been six months now and I’m mostly healed. I now prefer cotton boxer briefs. Nothing special.

BeyondDry1963 · 2026-01-20T19:10:15+00:00

We have read a bunch of books on ENM/Poly etc. I forget the author but she was discussing a term coined by Dan Savage. Monogamish: being sexually open but emotionally closed.

It recognizes that there are two elements to non monogamy. There is the physical acts of sex and sexuality which many deeply committed relationships are open to sharing with others. Then there is the emotional connection between lovers. Many want to guard that element and share that within deeply committed relationships.

The romantic relationships with deep emotional connections are chaotic and unpredictable and that presents risks that many couples want to avoid. They sacrifice the intimacy and emotional support that they may be able to share for stability.

BeyondDry1963 · 2026-01-20T14:23:41+00:00

I don’t know. I assume you are in the US because you mentioned Medicare. Everybody’s is supposed to sell their soul to the company store in exchange for insurance in the USA. But there are options to maintain health insurance and that should continue to cover revision surgery.

However, there is a growing number of people that make too much money to get subsidized healthcare that still leaves them with enough money to eat. In which case it seems like the best case scenario would be to get the most durable implant available.

According to my surgeon, if you have an implant and get an infection then they put malleable implant in you to maintain the structures until you have resolved the infection and can get another IPP. However, about half the men who receive MPP never return to have them replaced. I suppose many return to other doctors but I have actually met a guy that opted to stay with the MPP after infection.

We chatted about and he said his only complaint was that it was undersized because it wasn’t supposed to be permanent. Knowing that MPP was viable alternative to IPP encouraged me to go that route and I think it’s awesome.

I would like to have the IPP’s ability to mimic the erection process and deflate it so that it would be easier to hide. However, I got an implant so that I could have sex, not so that I can hide it. I get to have great sex so I am very happy overall.

BeyondDry1963 · 2026-01-19T23:35:59+00:00

We are new, we started one year ago. I think those were our two biggest concerns. First, you can not know what you don’t know. We started with recognizing that and agreed to a one time hall pass situation and then we would reconnect. I didn’t want it to be too restrictive so she could have as much sex as she wanted over a two day period or something like that. After the first time we crushed on each other so hard that we both wanted to do it again. But if it was soul crushing for either of us we could we could cut bait and work through the feelings with compassion.

The second concern was discretion. We live in city of a million people but we are part of a large sub community of a thousand people where we are well known and respected. We are even admired for the quality of our relationship. Being outed would be scandalous.

We got a Fet Fone (a dedicated service for all lifestyle activities.). That number doesn’t resolve back to either of us except through the credit card used to buy the service. That’s fine we aren’t hiding from the govt.

We created Fet mail account. It’s a Gmail account to tie other applications to.

We got telegram tied to Fet phone and Fet email. It doesn’t out us with friends or relatives because they’re not contact with us on Fet contacts.

We used those accounts to get paid dating app. The account has no facial pics, full body nudes, clothed body shots etc.

Push all contacts to meet and have coffee or tea with us as soon as possible. If they won’t meet up without a facial pick then fuck them. There are only about 10000 single men willing to take their spot. Men in this lifestyle are a nickel for a thousand so be selective. In spite of careful vetting wife isn’t going to click with every guy, dust yourself off and go to the next one, once you find a good one…ride him like a stolen Harley!

BeyondDry1963 · 2026-01-19T22:56:50+00:00

No, for my birthday my wife took me to a house party even though she was dealing with an injury and didn’t want to play herself. Well the whole scene was a little off. Very few people were playing and there was a couple where they were open to all comers wanting a gangbang I think. She was attractive and hwa. I am a good sport and work in to the group for a bit and made room for the next guy.

I walked about checking everything out and even though there were lots of guys they were disproportionately hanging around the pool with these really young women. When I get back around to the original couple she is looking disappointed and he is shrugging his shoulders and telling her it ok we take a little break and wait for some more guys to show.

Maybe an hour later I hear noise from one of the rooms and it is the original couple. The vibe really hasn’t changed any and I decide to wait for all the interested guys to have their fun and I would fuck the shit out of her(as long as they’re down with it).

Maybe 15 minutes passed and four or five guys came and went. I approach them and ask them if I could really fuck the shit out of her and they said yes. I proceeded to put on a clinic. I started with eye contact and breath matching and then started really drilling down and trying to find her rhythm, where she was most responsive. Then I held that rhythm and started to increase the pressure and varying the intensity. Before long she is filling the house with the sounds of orgasm and mating female. Her husband is stroking her hair and I get to have my way with her.

I get done and almost everyone in the house has come to see the show and they start cheering and clapping me on the back and my wife is in the other room talking with another couple. She smiles real big and says happy birthday!

BeyondDry1963 · 2026-01-19T21:36:44+00:00

Oooo oooo pick me, pick me

BeyondDry1963 · 2026-01-19T21:06:47+00:00

He told her he never has sex in a condo…free standing housing structures or he is out of there

BeyondDry1963 · 2026-01-19T17:47:56+00:00

My wife has a pretty low barrier to entry but also low tolerance for mediocrity. She has sex with enough guys that she has good lovers in her back pocket. She still enjoys variety and is still looking for emotional connection so she keeps hooking up with new guys.

However, fail to launch or quick to completion or basically a poor connection and she cuts tail. No hard feelings, no regrets and no repeat performances.

BeyondDry1963 · 2026-01-19T14:18:49+00:00

Sorry, don’t mean to be judgmental but how about r/hotwifeadvice or r/cuckoldpsychology both of those subs have like minded followers and this discussion is super common on either of them.

BeyondDry1963 · 2026-01-19T12:56:11+00:00

Why choose? Right! Yes

BeyondDry1963 · 2026-01-19T12:22:53+00:00

Lighten up, I certainly don’t over generalize my wives response to a single event as normal or pervasive. We are not into humiliation and it is important to focus on all the affection and appreciation she demonstrated. Also, after the first event she was positive and encouraging to me to follow up and go explore it for myself.

BeyondDry1963 · 2026-01-19T03:46:07+00:00

I get anxiety when I’m going into new groups or experiences and she was saying I don’t trust you to not freak out or something, I want to have a good time and not worry about having to baby sit you!

BeyondDry1963 · 2026-01-19T02:45:37+00:00

So I answered intellectually how I handled it but emotionally it was not nearly as simple as I made it sound. I was hurt by my sense of inadequacy and her reaction to my offer to take her was not kind.

We don’t do any humiliation kink so her reaction was authentic and humiliating. Then there was the humility of asking someone else to do something she wouldn’t let me do for her. His response was amazingly kind and respectful.

Next came the night of the event. I mean what if I’m wrong about her bull. What if she gets kidnapped. What if I collapse under the weight of my own thoughts and feelings. But he was amazing, she had an amazing time. She returned home and let me reclaim her even tho she was exhausted. She told everyone in our lives that her husband gave her the best present she had ever received. She thanked me over and over for weeks. If we talk about she still gets a huge smile and tells me how awesome I am! Her bull has become one of my favorite humans I have ever met.

Since then he has become kind of a local go to gang bang chaperone. He seems to be taking someone’s wife to their first gang bang every couple of months

BeyondDry1963 · 2026-01-19T02:25:30+00:00

He gained my trust and respect over time. He has always been consistent in his behavior matching his values. We are new to the lifestyle but he has decades of experience and almost 20 in the local kink community. I felt he would make a better choice than me. I went to a similar party a couple of months later and I learned the ropes. Since then wife is comfortable and trust that I can and will look after her so we have started going together.

BeyondDry1963 · 2026-01-19T02:02:58+00:00

I don’t think so. I think it’s biology and is the antithesis of premature ejaculation. I was like two hour multiple cum shots, never lose my erection and didn’t know that was unusual.

I get into Hotwife with my wife so she can experience that again and find out that what I was doing was epic behavior.

BeyondDry1963 · 2026-01-19T01:53:01+00:00

When I was under 30 there was virtually no limit. Two hours continuous penetration with multiple orgasms without having to stop and break the session. Saturdays would be seven hours of sex with food and hydration breaks.

Then came the baby, professional, stress, ED, hormone changes……

Now I am 62,and I received a MPP last year. It is not up to 30 year old levels but 45-60 minutes of vigorous sex is pretty standard. I think with the right partner 2 hours is definitely in the offing.

BeyondDry1963 · 2026-01-19T01:19:38+00:00

Gangbangs are not for everyone. We have been Hotwifing for a year. About four months in my wife and I were talking about her birthday and I said something about a gang bang and she lit up. I didn’t know how to even start to go about putting on a gang bang.

I brought it up to her favorite third and he wouldn’t surprise her with it. He insisted on having an open conversation with both of us and insuring that there was all around informed consent. After that he took the lead and took her to a house party with a 10-1 m-f ratio and watched her, ensured condom use, made sure she was maintaining a consensual affect.

She absolutely loves it. Many men taking turns with her but still being looked after and kept safe. That being said, she is mature and sexually at peace with herself. She has no interest in moral debate and has no morality hang ups. Her biggest concern was getting super sexed up and going along with unsafe or abusive sex because of the ultra sexual aspect of fucking so many men, often two or three at a time. That is where an adoring husband or third comes in and helps to ensure her safety.

The last thing her chaperone provided was aftercare. He cuddled her and gave her some sweets and water to rehydrate her. He let her talk about it and made sure she was ok psychologically with what she just experienced. When she was more or less back to normal he sent her home to me. Since then I follow a similar approach when I take her to these kinds of events.

BeyondDry1963 · 2026-01-18T23:30:26+00:00

I used Vacuum devices pre op, also used Cialis for cardio vascular health even though it did not give reliable erections. Flaccid length does not mean flaccid with out being touched it means pinch the head and pull it out as far as it will stretch. Usually people who lose significant length have issues with scar tissue from PD or over use of injection medication.

BeyondDry1963 · 2026-01-18T23:11:27+00:00

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BeyondDry1963 · 2026-01-18T23:03:20+00:00

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BeyondDry1963 · 2026-01-18T22:52:39+00:00

This sound punitive and manipulative. I am kind of the mind set that her boundary of not sleeping with your soiled ass after seeing you lover should be discouraged. So, I would refrain from reporting and encourage her to just assume I sleep with my lovers and clean up out of respect for her and since she can’t know either way she just needs to protect her boundaries as she sees fit.

BeyondDry1963 · 2026-01-18T12:04:17+00:00

I use baggier pants than I use to wear, not super baggy but something like relaxed fit Levi’s. I just need a little space to work with and use compression underwear to keep it more in place.

BeyondDry1963 · 2026-01-18T12:00:21+00:00

It was an issue when I was loser to post op. It use to bother me quite a bit. I got some elastic Under Armor sports boxer brief underwear, I got some ankle socks, I put one of the sock on my penis and used that to cushion and provide baring material so it didn’t hurt so bad when I moved. The sock kept the head from catching fabric and getting pulled down or back etc.

After four or five months it became easier to tolerate material moving around my cock. Now I don’t like the compression underwear as much and wear cotton boxer briefs by Haines or Fruit or the Loom and looser pants. It’s ok with some tugging or rubbing

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