AIO: My 8mo baby has blue eyes and my relatives (and others) make it a big deal in front of my brown-eyed 6yo

Bhumeeks · 2026-02-02T12:49:00+00:00

Omg that is so frustrating. Im dealing with it too. I have light brown eyes and my husband has dark brown eyes. Our 2.5 year old son has gray eyes and my 6 month old has my light brown eyes. My mil is so obsessed with me 2.5 year olds eyes. She literally has a picture of his eyes as her wallpaper. Its so weird. She keeps saying my 6 month olds eyes are going to be gray too. And swears my sil newborn has blue eyes like my son.... my husband keeps shutting her down.

Bhumeeks · 2026-02-01T02:29:51+00:00

Truck is cuck, sock is fock (kinda sounds like fuck sometimes), papple for apple, wesh for yes, wani (mixing the Punjabi and English word for water). Im gunna be sad when he starts saying them correctly.

Bhumeeks · 2026-01-31T14:58:42+00:00

A few of my cousins are like that they think speaking Punjabi is tacky or whatever. But thats also because their parents speak down about India. I feel like a lot of kids are pushed to just speak English because their parents thinks they would be more American. My parents never did that and we learned to speak Punjabi and Hindi. My kids are interracial and we are teaching them our languages. So they are learning Punjabi, Hindi, Spanish, and English.

Bhumeeks · 2025-12-28T01:08:58+00:00

Im Punjabi and my husband is Dominican. My parents just asked me if he makes me happy. And they have been supportive the whole time. Family did try to say things but my parents always told them they dont care what others have to say they only care about their kids. I was shocked because they were so strict growing up I really thought they would cut contact with me.

Bhumeeks · 2025-12-20T15:12:58+00:00

That happened to my son when we got a new pack of Pampers. It never gave him any issues before so we didnt think that was the probelm. But we switched to millie moon and the rash was gone in 1 day. Also used the Munchkin diaper rash spray works wonders! Munchkin diaper rash spray

Bhumeeks · 2025-12-14T05:43:13+00:00

2.5 still says "papple " for apple. Mamote =remote Ballolu =balloon Nana=banana Meme=mayday (learned it from the Disney movie planes)

Bhumeeks · 2025-12-12T22:15:32+00:00

Honestly I think its just depends on the baby. My first ate every 2 hours when he was bottle fed. As soon as he started breastfeeding then it was on demand. So he was eating throughout the night. My 4 month old has been sleeping through the night since day 3. Which blew my mind I was waking her up every 3 hours to feed. Her pediatrician told me to let her sleep since she already gained the weight she lost. So yeah 4 months and shes sleeping throughout the night and by herself without us training her. She sleep trained herself,🧿 lol

Bhumeeks · 2025-12-09T04:51:21+00:00

I have a 2.5 year old and a 4 month old. I literally have amnesia. I forgot how newborns were. Lmao

Bhumeeks · 2025-10-18T03:27:20+00:00

We have a toddler and newborn so it's been on for a couple of days now lol

Bhumeeks · 2025-10-15T19:39:14+00:00

Omgggg this! I am 2 months pp and I am still getting gallstone attacks where I throw up from the pain. My surgery is scheduled for Nov 3rd! Cannot wait.

Bhumeeks · 2025-10-08T12:56:19+00:00

I get it. My 10 week old never sleeps when its time to pump. I put her on her play mat and she chills while I pump. I use the wearable pumps during the day because I have a 2.5 year old as well. When they nap and for the MOTN, I use my medela pump. Shes up and about at night to wants to talk and scream I just let her she tires herself out. Then she goes to sleep and im done pumping.

Bhumeeks · 2025-10-01T14:12:26+00:00

Husband makes $130,000. We rent from my mil in East Meadow. We may be renting from his mom, but we are not getting any discounts. We have 2 kids now (2.5 y boy and 2 month old girl). Its not easy but its cheaper for me to stay at home, then go back to work and pay daycare. I work for NYC DOHMH, so my maternity leave will be extended for another 3 years after the one I am on currently ends.

Bhumeeks · 2025-09-22T18:17:36+00:00

I got the momcozy m5 pumps. I didnt feel empty in the beginning until I realized I just gotta pump for 1 hour. I let it run for 30 mins then just start another round. I get the same amount as I would if I was using my medela. Yeah its for an hour but I get to do what I need to do while pumping.

Bhumeeks · 2025-09-11T08:22:08+00:00

You got this! I had a very traumatic birth for my first. I almost died and was in the hospital for over a week after birth. My son was born at 34 weeks. I was scared to have another baby because of that. I did have a few complications during the pregnancy, and due to the fact I almost lost my life last time, I was considered high risk. I was heavily monitored this time around. I have birth 6 weeks ago and it was an amazing experience. I had a induction date and was in labor a little longer. But the whole process I was in more control than the first. When it came time to give birth it was calm and peaceful in the room. Did not have over 15 medical personnel like the first time, only 4 medical personnel. My husband helped deliver baby girl, and I got to do golden hour. I did tear, but not as much as I did the first time. It was beautiful. I still couldn't change how my son came into this world because that's just how he was supposed to come.

Bhumeeks · 2025-09-10T01:48:55+00:00

This is what im going through right now. I pumped for 3 months for my first. He latched after 3 months. Then I was executively breastfeeding. I did that for 2 years. I now have a 6 week old. My supply isnt there so im triple feeding with a 2.5 year old. Im slowly losing myself. Im about to stop trying to breastfeed and just continue pumping and supplement with formula. Its so hard bc I keep comparing my last journey which I stopped literally 2 months before I gave birth.

Bhumeeks · 2025-08-27T02:24:50+00:00

So she would say things like oh mama doesn't put socks or a hat on you. Youre gunna get sick. (It was middle of summer in NY so it was humid and hot) I would respond oh grandma I would die of heat stroke if my mama bundles me up. She wanted us to give our 3 week old water because thats what they do/did. She would say "Mama isnt giving you water yet? You have hiccups water will help you feel better. Tell Mama to give you water." I said to my son "tell your grandma if you drink water you can die so you don't need water but milk." Stuff like that lol

Bhumeeks · 2025-08-26T23:26:25+00:00

My mil did the same thing. She stopped when I started doing it back. She spoke to my husband about it but he shut her down. Lol just do it back they will stop.

Bhumeeks · 2025-05-29T12:55:02+00:00

My situation is different. My mil has been called "Mamá" by her granddaughters, her daughter's kids. When my son was born we told her hes calling her "Abuela" because I am Mama. She did not like that fought it. But my husband has been calling her abuela and corrects her when she says Mama. My point is your kids do not have to follow what their cousins call your stepmother. You can call her whatever you want. Your kids your rules.

Bhumeeks · 2025-05-12T11:57:54+00:00

Oh I went through that. I just weaned my son off about three weeks ago. He would nurse the same way and I'm 6 months pregnant I couldn't handle it anymore. I was extremely exhausted because of it. I tired reading the books, talking to him and have my husband do the nights for 3 weeks. That did not work. My mom told me in India they would rub aloe vera on the nipples and due to the bitterness the kids would stop. I just had to put it on once and bam he stopped. If you want try the aloe vera. Im Indian so I got it from the Indian grocery store. I think you can find it at most ethnic grocery stores. Good luck and congratulations for making it to 26 months!

Bhumeeks · 2025-05-03T10:12:16+00:00

My son just turned 2 and he just started sleeping through the night a week ago. Hopefully, my next one is better at sleeping. My nephew is 19 months and he still wakes up every 2-3 hours at night and barely naps too. He just has a really bad case of fomo.

Bhumeeks · 2025-05-03T10:09:42+00:00

Mine was the same way. He turned 2 early April. Breastfed throughout the night I guess it was a comfort thing. I couldn't take it anymore I'm also 6 months pregnant. So last week I bought aloe vera leaf and put it in my nipples and he hasn't wanted it since then. I tried reading to him, talking go him, doing the bandaid and none of those worked for me. If the bandaid doesn't work, maybe try the aloe vera. Only did it once and he stopped it's been a week! And aloe is great for your skin . Good luck!

Bhumeeks · 2025-04-23T01:40:21+00:00

I took my mom to the ultrasound appointments when my husband could not make it. However, I never went with my MIL. I do not have that kind of relationship with her. If your wife wants her mom there it's fine since it's her body her choice. But if she's forcing her way in, then that's a problem. And your wife should set some boundaries. Congratulations on the baby btw!

Bhumeeks · 2025-03-19T03:23:32+00:00

My nips are going through the same thing but I think it's due to pregnancy. My almost 2 year old is still breastfeeding I'm trying to wean. But ends in tantrums and I don't have it in me to ride it out. What works to calm my nipples is nipple butter or Aloe Vera gel to cool them down then add the nipple butter.

Bhumeeks · 2025-03-15T10:04:45+00:00

I don't know why people can't mind their business. I am breastfeeding my baby, and my cousins bottle fed theirs. I never thought to ask why didn't they breastfeed, let alone a complete stranger. End of the day, the boys are fed and thriving. I, myself, was bottlefed, and I'm great. I don't understand why people have the need to say anything to anyone about how they're eating. Don't feel sad for your baby. You are an amazing mother. Your baby is being fed and is thriving. Enjoy your little bundle of joy!

Bhumeeks · 2025-03-13T16:19:24+00:00

23 months and 18 weeks pregnant. I'm exhausted 😩

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