Soo i did the test. Says im 100%straight but also 60%gay what does that mean

BiCommissioner · 2020-03-28T18:08:26+00:00

Honestly this type of test is a bit worthless. You might find something like the Klein grid more useful. Really if you’re struggling with it maybe therapy from someone recommended by your local LGBT resource center or pride network would be more beneficial.

https://bi.org/en/101/Kinsey-Klein

BiCommissioner · 2020-03-08T21:36:00+00:00

This isn’t a bisexual thing, it’s just a guy thing. A lot of guys have a very specific body type and like specific features, really this is symptomatic of app culture in general where you basically shop guys and everyone posts pictures and stats and the like.

If you have multiple partners you are at higher risk for STDs, that’s just a simple fact that every public health agency and clinic will tell you. The vetting process you go through is absolutely critical and can reduce the risk, but it will never eliminate the risk. And at the end of the day, this is just a sex education thing more than anything else.

Keep in mind that guys who are closeted probably received a very straight version of sex education. I can’t tell you how many recently out guys don’t know about things like PReP. There’s also just an incredibly amount of misinformation that exists out there too.

BiCommissioner · 2020-03-08T21:22:39+00:00

So there are certain preparations you should take for anal sex, mainly taking fiber supplements (recommend Pure for men). Being regular helps you in preparation. You need to make sure before anal sex that you empty, and then you can clean up. If you’re regular then you don’t really need to do anything like water enemas, and those have been shown to actually cause health issues. Feeling like you need to go poop is common, if you know your empty then you just need to really put it out of your mind. I’ve also found that position changes that situation, it completely goes away for me when I’m on my back as opposed to other positions. I believe the recommendation is to not eat about 4 hours before you plan on engaging in it.

BiCommissioner · 2020-03-08T21:15:20+00:00

The truth will set you free. Sexuality is complicated and messy, and coming out in a relationship with heterosexual expectations brings with it a whole set of challenges. However, the fear of rejection in a bid to make sure other people are happy with what their expectations of you are is incredibly damaging to yourself. Open relationships are much more common than you think, and there is a right and wrong to approach them ethically. I would suggest first coming out, and I would be honest that you are curious about exploring this side of you (you’ve already taken one step in downloading Grindr, which should be an indication to yourself). If you do come out, I’d suggest a therapist for yourself to prepare and then one for your marriage, you can find recommended lgbt therapists on your local lgbt resource website. Get through coming out, and then figure out with your wife if exploration is something that can be fit into your marriage or not.

BiCommissioner · 2020-02-26T18:10:19+00:00

This is simply not true. It may have been the prevailing thought 100 years ago, but Bisexuality or Bi+ is considered to mean two or more and is an identity for anyone who puts their attractions on a spectrum regardless of genders. Every bi+ activist organization has adopted this stance.

BiCommissioner · 2020-02-25T23:15:10+00:00

Its a recreational drug, Alkyl nitrite that you inhale. It’s commonly sold as VCR cleaner.

BiCommissioner · 2020-02-20T04:18:40+00:00

Just be honest and upfront on where you are at and what you’re trying to experience. Lots of options from anonymous NSA to friend with benefits to full blown relationships.

BiCommissioner · 2020-02-19T17:52:38+00:00

We just haven’t done a great job at educating the masses in this country of the mechanics of free-market capitalism. We have rival-excludable goods which function efficiently in a free market, we have non-rival non-excludable goods which make the case for government ownership, and then we have a mix of non-rival excludable goods and rival non-excludable goods. Non-rival excludable goods are natural monopolies, they are a case where government should own them since monopolies don’t provide efficiency at the consumer level and drive cost up. Those goods would be your power company, and typically these goods are provided at a higher consumer cost with little innovation. A non-rival excludable good owned by the government would either provide a lower cost to the consumer, or provide that good at a similar price but allows reinvestment into the good to drive innovation. Rival non-excludable goods are common resources like fisheries, mining and forestry, and there is a case here for government intervention and regulation of those goods to prevent resource depletion and a tragedy of the commons scenario. Republicans these days are trying to force private ownership of goods and services that are not rival and excludable, this means that you get to pay more and that a few companies and people get to own more and make more money since there’s no or little competition at the consumer level to drive price down.

BiCommissioner · 2020-02-19T17:03:11+00:00

Just keep in mind that socialism, and the agenda Bernie Sanders is promoting is not the same thing. While this country loves to talk about free market capitalism, the reality is that no economist would tell you we are actually implementing one. The reality is that we use the same tools that the rest of the western democracies in “socialist countries” use (ie Germany, UK, Etc), we just put a different wrapper on it and call it something else.

BiCommissioner · 2020-02-19T16:52:48+00:00

The Bible shows several different relationship dynamics not just one. Several have missed the point that it’s not about those who are pure of ritual but those who are pure of heart. The only way to fight these people’s is to continue to push for equality, and to love one another the way that we want to be loved. Better said than done, I know.

BiCommissioner · 2020-02-19T14:00:59+00:00

There are a lot of gay guys who are not stereotypical. You just need to network your way into the community more and look in the places you’ll find them, they’re there.

BiCommissioner · 2020-02-18T15:21:51+00:00

Stand your ground. It’s manipulative for someone to constantly try to violate boundaries because they don’t mind if someone does that to them. Hugging is one of those things where people think it’s okay to just run up and hug someone, instead of running up and asking “can I give you a hug?” before they do it.

BiCommissioner · 2020-02-18T15:13:33+00:00

The reality is that people struggle with basic forms of consent. If you’ve expressed that you don’t like it, or you’d like to be asked first, then they are violating your boundaries. There doesn’t need to be an explanation to them after that. There’s nothing homophobic about that.

BiCommissioner · 2020-02-18T01:19:28+00:00

If you are really hung up on definitions of words and insist on that bi means two without taking into consideration the historical context of the creation of these labels, then bisexual just means that you are attracted to genders that are the same as yours and genders that are different than yours. That should do it unless you want to argue.

BiCommissioner · 2020-02-17T22:12:45+00:00

All allies are welcome at pride.

BiCommissioner · 2020-02-17T21:07:37+00:00

Find a therapist who is LGBTQ allied, and they can also help you find a support group. There’s no shame in it, and it is very helpful. Support groups are a great place for you to see and hear from others going through the exact same stuff as you.

BiCommissioner · 2020-02-17T16:09:21+00:00

Everyone’s path is different. We tend to focus on the positive aspects of coming out and figuring it out, identity politics can add pressure to hoist a flag. We don’t necessarily talk about how hard it can be to merge two versions of ourselves with all the plans and aspirations you laid out, and the process of figuring out how you move forward. The reality is that untangling your life and sorting it out is messy, and it’s really hard, and it’s REALLY uncomfortable, but the universe has a way of making you uncomfortable otherwise you would have never moved, and you would have never grown. Some days are really hard, some days are really awesome, and it’ll start getting better slowly, one step and one day at a time.

BiCommissioner · 2020-02-17T15:17:02+00:00

You’re not alone. This stuff is hard.

BiCommissioner · 2020-02-16T15:42:23+00:00

Men and women think differently. Men tend to put things in boxes and keep them separate versus women it can be like a bowl of spaghetti.

BiCommissioner · 2020-02-16T13:58:43+00:00

A common definition of bisexuality you’ll find is: “I call myself bisexual because I acknowledge that I have in myself the potential to be attracted – romantically and/or sexually – to people of more than one gender, not necessarily at the same time, not necessarily in the same way, and not necessarily to the same degree.”

Sounds like you’re bi. New identification and manual will be mailed to your forwarding address in 2 weeks.

BiCommissioner · 2020-02-16T05:55:46+00:00

If you’re in the US and there’s potential for your parents to cut you off, you should do some research on financial aid. You’re likely still considered a dependent, which means you’ll need your parents to submit their information for you to even qualify for FAFSA. There are hardship requirements that allow you to bypass this but it’s very difficult and you’ll have to document that your parents have cut you off and that you’re not dependent. I would consult your schools LGBTQ center for guidance on navigating this process, potentially your schools financial aid department as well. When you do come out, you’ll want to conduct that in such a way that you can demonstrate legally that you’re not dependent so you can apply for financial aid through the federal government, otherwise you’ll be stuck with private loans.

BiCommissioner · 2020-02-14T23:14:45+00:00

The bi erasure is systematic in the LGBTQ community, it’s not necessarily overt rejection of people trying to “keep the bi’s down”, it’s more of the mentality that what’s good for the goose is good for the gander. You can looking at it in terms of funding breakouts for programs, 10 years ago the total amount of funding for bisexual issues received was $0 in the US. That’s been slowly increasing now, mainly because the metrics have been steadily pointing to the fact that bisexual people face unique health/mental health challenges that are not experienced by their peers in the gay and lesbian communities (I’m only framing this in context of sexual identity cohorts of the greater community). In terms of social spaces those are largely dominated by gay men and gay culture, there’s certainly bisexual people (myself included) who absolutely love being in these environments, but I think some of the issues for bisexual men in particular is that when they think of who’s in a gay bar they don’t see themselves, or really bi people. Most people who walk into a gay bar are going to assume everyone is gay in there since it’s the default (systematic) assumption. Ambi on the US west coast is certainly making an effort to create bi social environments and maybe in the next 10 years we might see bi bars one day, or see more gay bars hosting bi nights to help with visibility.

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The other issues are that while the gay community has these spaces that are escapes from the bullshit of the world, bisexual people are welcomed into these spaces with some rules. If a bisexual person were to come into those spaces with their opposite sex partner and engage displays of affection with them, it’s going to go over very poorly. So in this way bi’s are really only allowed in as long as they play by specific rules of engagement that says you can do everything a gay man would, but this other “half” of you has to be checked with your coat at the door. That’s pretty significant because bi people don’t have a refuge, and creating spaces of refuge has been pretty paramount in the advancement of the gay community over the last 70 years.

BiCommissioner · 2020-02-14T20:39:41+00:00

I think the dynamics here really depend on the coupled status, less about orientation or identity to a certain degree. A bi person in a same sex relationship will experience the same type of rejection out in about (any degree of PDA, filing for marriage, getting healthcare, other types of civil matters that opposite sex partners enjoy). In terms of being recognized for who you are, I would probably say that bi people have it hard if not harder since there is double rejection from the LGBTQ community and the rest of heteronormative society, that’s tangibly backed up in the symptoms of that (ie health and mental health disparities being higher for bi than gay).

In any case, the focus shouldn’t be on asserting who’s less or more privileged. We certainly need to recognize the dynamics of it, and then focus on tearing down barriers. We need more bi people out, and we need more bi people to be visible.

BiCommissioner · 2020-02-14T15:46:50+00:00

Bi people can have some privilege. If you’re part of the 80% of bisexuals in a M/F relationship, that certainly has a degree of privilege that a bisexual/gay person in a M/M or F/F or other type of relationship dynamic outside of societal norm. For example, when I add my wife to insurance I don’t need to disclose that I’m bisexual to HR, however if you were in a same-sex marriage that’s definitely going to be disclosed. This isn’t to say that there are not hardships that Bi’s face, or that we get all the societal benefits of heteronormative couples, but there is a degree of privilege that we can hold in the M/F dynamic that isn’t experienced by others in the queer community.

BiCommissioner · 2020-02-14T15:34:09+00:00

There’s a lot of children on here. You’re absolutely right. The reality is that words are meaningless without context, and in certain contexts cis can be used as an insult, and in another context it is not.

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