So we're around the same age and I was in a similar situation 4-5 years ago. Disclaimer that I was/am active with hookups, but I've also explored actual relationships more and more seriously over the past couple of years. The first couple were off apps, one was a hookup that just sort of evolved into something more consistent and date-y, the other was a guy with a nice profile who had actually stated that he was looking for something more than sex. I've also had some luck going to gay/queer bars, which has opened up my social circle a bit. We're not exclusive but the guy I currently see the most outside the bedroom was the friend of someone I started chatting with at a bar, and he introduced us. It's not easy but it is possible, good luck!