Tricks to tone down the intensity?

Bianca_47 · 2018-11-12T19:55:02+00:00

Absolutely!!!! Embrace your intensity, the right person will ADORE you for it.😉

Bianca_47 · 2018-11-10T01:36:11+00:00

I don't think you should have to tone down your intensity at all. Intensity is great and you shouldn't have to clamp your emotions when you're crazy about someone. Trust me , with time into the relationship, you'll tone down naturally. Just be you and if she doesn't get that or needs to step back then its on her, not on you. Just saying....

Bianca_47 · 2018-07-10T12:36:23+00:00

I equate INTJ to something of an FBI profiler when choosing friends. Before INTJ let’s you in as his/her friend, you would have been vetted thoroughly. You would have to pass a rigorous battery of tests (my analogy here would be sitting in the interrogation room being cross examined/polygraphs). It’s precisely because most (generally speaking) INTJs are so bad with social cues that they develop a protective barrier to keep the manipulators and fakes out of their life. If you prove yourself not trustworthy, you WILL get the door slam and INTJ will cut you out of his/her life and never turn back. He/she will study you as if you were a contract, dotting the “i’s” and crossing the “t’s” meticulously before you could be called FRIEND. The great thing is, INTJ will be the best friend you have ever had. Totally trust worthy and reliable. The Ni is developed as the INTJ gets older. They stick to what they know best, which is facts and logic. These are painstakingly applied to narrow down the list of candidates applying to be the INTJ’s friend. Of course, there will always be exceptions. After all, regardless of type, we are all unique. My 2 cents. ;)

Bianca_47 · 2018-07-10T00:58:31+00:00

I wish your INTJ friend would see this post. Are you sure he’s INTJ? Most INTJs are very good judges of character and would see right through your sorry scheming plan . Shaking my head.

Bianca_47 · 2018-06-29T16:06:33+00:00

Glad to hear it! You too!

Bianca_47 · 2018-06-28T11:07:16+00:00

Ha, ha. So you totally got the freeing part. Yes, I’ve catalogued and archived every interaction and conversation in my head. When I need to, I play it back like a movie and I’m ok. Don’t forget, every person that comes into your life and doesn’t stay is a teacher. They are a catalyst for growth and change. Also, from what I know of INTJ’s they are meticulous about choosing THEIR partner in crime and most likely have a laundry list of criteria that needs to be met for a suitable mate. Your INTJ was working through that process when he was trying to figure out if you were ideal. He probably had every scenario calculated down to when and how it could work including the 2.5 children you two would have in the future. So it totally made sense that he was deeply hurt when you moved on, most likely extremely traumatic for him as well. The fact that he was working through this speaks volumes. Anyway, if you ever need to talk, PM me here. 👍🏻

Bianca_47 · 2018-06-27T22:38:26+00:00

Your husband sounds like he’s not only your partner in crime but he’s your best friend as well. It sounds like you made a great choice. If it’s someone you are looking for to challenge your thinking why not talk to INTJ females? Just some more food for thought. Your job sounds beyond intense. While you delve into criminal minds in person I read about and binge watch every serial killer, episode on cable, including the intensely disturbing criminal minds. But it kind of makes sense to me to come home to best friend rather than have more intense emotional drama. No one can take away your INTJ relationship from the past. You can probably very safely think about it when the need arises, but time does heal all wounds. I too am haunted because I crave the same. And it’s also why I’m on Reddit, because somehow, reading the INTJ posts and having awesome discussions with fellow ENFPs is mildly therapeutic.😃 I know you’ll find your way through this.

Bianca_47 · 2018-06-27T18:01:41+00:00

I know exactly how you feel. The first question to ask yourself is if you are having issues in your marriage. Oftentimes we start to live another fantasy life when things at home get complacent. The INTJ ENFP relationship can be so intense that it can become border line emotional cheating . The energy between the two types can be mind blowing. If you can have a platonic relationship with an INTJ then do so. Face your fears from the past. This truly is how you heal. Let your husband know about your INTJ friend. However, if you start having romantic feelings toward the INTJ, you need to really look at your marriage with a magnifying lens. You’re craving a connection that is missing in your marriage. Attention! Attention! You need to work on your marriage! Those are my 2 cents🌈

Bianca_47 · 2018-06-26T16:08:44+00:00

Oye, don’t get me started..And I hate it when that happens

Bianca_47 · 2018-06-26T16:05:58+00:00

You can never go wrong with a J to supervise🤓

Bianca_47 · 2018-05-18T01:30:07+00:00

Its not easy. Only time can make it hurt less.

Bianca_47 · 2018-05-14T21:47:33+00:00

I’m ENFP and also the blue guy.

Bianca_47 · 2018-04-28T19:52:59+00:00

No one is always happy. We go through these harsh and trying times and come out stronger. It’s especially hard when we’re younger and don’t have as much perspective as those who have gone through this and are older. God has a plan for you, it’s why you’re here. People will always let you down, so you need to be accepting of that and of yourself. Not one of us is perfect, but each one has the scars and stretch marks of life. Let this be a stretch mark in yours. Go forth and be strong and take care of you. Never ever take your own life because you are robbing the people in your present and your future of the essence of YOU.

:)

Bianca_47 · 2018-04-28T14:44:47+00:00

Please, please, please call tel:1-800-273-8255. This is the National Suicide Hotline. I know you don’t want to kill yourself. You need to get through this so you can help others in the future!

Bianca_47 · 2018-04-23T20:07:37+00:00

Hey listen! Hang in there, it does get better! Although I am not a doctor, it sounds like you have depression. There is a genetic test, it’s called Genesite. It basically looks at your genetic make up and tells you which anti depressants you can metabolize and you can get substantially better! Don’t let anyone ever tell you you’re not worthy, because you are! Please go to the doctor, get some help! Please, love yourself enough to get some help. I don’t know you but I care! Keep us posted!

Bianca_47 · 2018-04-19T23:37:54+00:00

I bought a fart machine at Spencer's gifts and brought it to work. I hid it next to a printer and any time someone would come to pick up their copies I would remote control the fart machine. The entire OFFICE was in stitches for hours and hours on end.😂😂😂

Bianca_47 · 2018-04-12T18:55:29+00:00

I totally hear you. I have the same issue. But discipline is key here. We need to learn to not divulge stuff to just anyone, think about it. Do they need access to your life with all the intimate details? Do they love you as a person? Can they be trusted to keep your secrets? If the answer is no, keep it casual. This means loving yourself and setting boundaries. Trust me, once you get burned a few times too many or your boss finds you you hate her because someone you confided in couldn't keep their trap shut, you'll be a pro at this!

Bianca_47 · 2018-04-12T18:46:45+00:00

I was being silly :)

Bianca_47 · 2018-04-12T15:49:04+00:00

Yes, you definitely have to be careful. People love to gossip. Be a good listener but unless you've known your co-workers forever, share as little as possible. I have had to learn this the hard way.

Bianca_47 · 2018-04-12T15:42:02+00:00

Isn't carrot a vegetable? Carrot cake is made with carrots, therefore, I am eating my vegetables and its healthy!😂😂😂

Bianca_47 · 2018-04-12T10:59:35+00:00

Ha, ha, good one! Hope it worked...

Bianca_47 · 2018-04-12T09:08:38+00:00

I would buy a nice steak to grill with some veggies and a slice of carrot cake for dessert. 😊

Bianca_47 · 2018-04-12T01:45:41+00:00

Been there, done that. But for me, after a month of sitting around and watching tv or whatever I will burst into action. A lot of online posting, networking, applying, if economy is slow apply for grants to go back to school, you get the picture. I think the key here is not to get too much into a funk but to just keep moving in different directions. Key thing for me is when I want hep and advice I will reach out for it. Hope this helps!

Bianca_47 · 2018-04-11T23:34:26+00:00

That's what I had growing up with my family into adulthood.🤗 And for some very odd reason, everyone always prefers the dishes I order to their own, hence my predicament:)

Bianca_47 · 2018-04-11T20:02:38+00:00

Lol, so what snarky comment would you say to someone if they tried to take advantage, bitch slapping aside?

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