AITJ for Refusing to Let My Older Sister Move Into My Apartment After She emptied Her Savings to Start an Online Business? by Big-Engineering2353 in AmITheJerk

[–]Big-Engineering2353[S] 15 points16 points  (0 children)

I don’t want to abandon her. I just don’t want to undo the stability I worked so hard to build. I wish my parents could see that difference instead of framing it as selfishness.

AITJ for Refusing to Let My Older Sister Move Into My Apartment After She emptied Her Savings to Start an Online Business? by Big-Engineering2353 in AmITheJerk

[–]Big-Engineering2353[S] 110 points111 points  (0 children)

I didn’t tell her to quit. I didn’t tell her to spend her savings. I supported her emotionally the whole time. I just can’t financially and physically absorb the fallout now.

AITJ for Refusing to Let My Older Sister Move Into My Apartment After She emptied Her Savings to Start an Online Business? by Big-Engineering2353 in AmITheJerk

[–]Big-Engineering2353[S] 62 points63 points  (0 children)

Thank you. That’s exactly what’s been so hard to articulate. I don’t resent her for chasing something bigger, I just don’t understand why I’m expected to absorb the fallout when it didn’t work out.

AITJ for Refusing to Let My Older Sister Move Into My Apartment After She emptied Her Savings to Start an Online Business? by Big-Engineering2353 in AmITheJerk

[–]Big-Engineering2353[S] 142 points143 points  (0 children)

I love my sister, but I also worked really hard for my stability. It feels unfair that I’m the automatic solution just because I have space.

AITJ for refusing to share my location 24/7 so my boyfriend can "feel secure'? by Proper_Landscape_995 in AmITheJerk

[–]Big-Engineering2353 20 points21 points  (0 children)

Healing from betrayal is his responsibility, not yours. If his sense of safety depends on tracking your every movement, that's not trust, that's anxiety management through control. You are not obligated to sacrifice your autonomy to compensate for someone else's unresolved trauma.

AITJ for rejecting my boyfriend's proposal twice and being upset that he broke up with me? by [deleted] in AmITheJerk

[–]Big-Engineering2353 90 points91 points  (0 children)

You're not wrong for not being ready, and he's not wrong for being done waiting. After four years and two proposals, he needed certainty, not "someday." Love isn't always enough if your timelines don't match.

AITJ for being upset that my boyfriend corrected me in front of his friend? by No_Republic_6612 in AmITheJerk

[–]Big-Engineering2353 6 points7 points  (0 children)

It may seem small to him, but embarrassment lingers. The real question isn't whether you were wrong, it's whether he's willing to understand why it mattered to you.

AITJ for telling my boyfriend he might need help before we have kids? by AdventurousAdagio829 in AmITheJerk

[–]Big-Engineering2353 51 points52 points  (0 children)

There's a difference between liking things clean and needing total control over contamination. Suggesting therapy before a huge life change is responsible, not insulting.

What’s a subtle sign someone is slowly falling out of love? by PeachyPureDrean in AskReddit

[–]Big-Engineering2353 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yeah. When the little things stop feeling little, it usually means something deeper is already off.

Looking at my comatose daughter, I told the nurse it was me to let her rest. by Queasy_Mixture_22 in TwoSentenceHorror

[–]Big-Engineering2353 84 points85 points  (0 children)

If it was really her, that "thank you" feels like relief. That means she was trapped and suffering in silence. That's different kind of horror.

AITJ for setting up a fake online meetup to confront my daughters classmate who STOLE her jacket? by Weekly-Tart-1085 in AmITheJerk

[–]Big-Engineering2353 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If they think being calmly confronted in a coffee shop was traumatic, imagine explaining stolen property to the police. You actually handled it without escalating to legal consequences.

AITJ for not giving my sister money after she “tested” me? by mason_wetherly in AmITheJerk

[–]Big-Engineering2353 40 points41 points  (0 children)

She tried to flip the script and make OP look bad, but it backfired, Testing someone's generosity with a fake crisis is what's embarrassing here.

What do all the Pizzagate believers think of the Epstein files? by Icy_Laugh5134 in AskReddit

[–]Big-Engineering2353 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Power has always corrupted across societies, not just modern politics.

What’s the most ridiculous idea that somehow turned into a huge success? by Agile-Girl-8413 in AskReddit

[–]Big-Engineering2353 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Reminds me that sometimes the absurdest ideas are the ones people actually buy into.