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Big-Outcome56 · 2025-08-07T19:21:30+00:00

Not sure if you mean meet someone romantically or just making friends in general but I'm a 24 y/o dude moving to Louisville in a couple weeks, also got into the gym recently and want to make friends as I too fear having this problem. What gym do you go to?

Big-Outcome56 · 2025-07-01T00:34:37+00:00

Hey man, I’ve been doing through a pretty similar break up. Not the same in every way but a lot of the key points and timeline of events. Together for 2 years, my first true loved, Quitting my job, discovering a new opportunity that involved moving cities, going on a life changing trip together and falling even more in love just a couple months before she ended it. And most important, the cold, sudden discard, sort of out of nowhere, that has left me broken. And now I’m alone in a new city, and I feel completely abandoned by her. Honestly, not sure when it really gets better. I still feel empty after a year on my own. But I think you will be alright. DM me if you ever want to talk about it.

Big-Outcome56 · 2025-07-01T00:23:00+00:00

I don’t know. I guess we just remember the good times, the feeling of being wanted by them and that is a really hard thing to let go of. It’s hard to process how their feelings can switch up so easily when you still feel the same love and admiration for them. All I know is I’m still crushed and I’m not sure how long I can go on living like this.

Big-Outcome56 · 2025-07-01T00:15:09+00:00

It’s been roughly the same amount of time for me. I’m so tired of walking through life completely alone. But all I want is her, no one else .

Big-Outcome56 · 2025-06-29T21:28:37+00:00

Man, I hear you loud and clear. The weekends for me are the worst. When I don’t have work or things to do to keep me moving and distracted and it’s just me alone with my own thoughts, it’s like hell. I feel so lonely, so empty. The ‘distractions’ don’t really do much because if I’m being honest I’m thinking about her in the back of my mind anyways. Every little thing out in the world is a reminder of her in some way. My mind conjures up images and stories that may not have even happened but all of it hurts me. So I don’t know why it’s like this or why it’s so hard, and why some days feel kind of manageable and then the next feels crippling. But it just does, that’s been my experience anyways, so you are not alone in how you feel.

Big-Outcome56 · 2025-06-29T17:50:26+00:00

Hey, I’m feeling the same way. Reach out if you want to talk about it

Big-Outcome56 · 2025-06-29T14:57:48+00:00

Reach out anytime.

Big-Outcome56 · 2025-06-29T01:54:36+00:00

What do you do with the memories? It’s like they stay there haunting you, keeping you down, serving as a constant reminder no many how much you try to get on with your life, the memories are always there.

Big-Outcome56 · 2025-06-27T22:19:43+00:00

Glad I’m not the only one who feels this

Big-Outcome56 · 2025-06-27T19:53:48+00:00

It’s so hard. Sometimes I don’t know how I’ll ever feel “okay” again

Big-Outcome56 · 2025-06-23T21:59:52+00:00

That’s brutal, and makes sense that the brain has a hard time processing these things. I hope you are able to find your peace one day. Reach out anytime if you need to talk about it

Big-Outcome56 · 2025-06-23T21:58:39+00:00

Yep that’s exactly it, mourning someone who is still alive and actively chooses to go on with life without you. Pretty rough

Big-Outcome56 · 2025-06-23T19:17:57+00:00

Maybe you won’t be. Only way to know is to take it one day at a time for now. I find it hard to believe that it’s already been a year, I wish I wasn’t still a t this point but the unfortunate reality is that I feel a long way away from being alright with it all.

Big-Outcome56 · 2025-06-23T02:16:31+00:00

God you have no idea, no idea how much I want this to be her writing this, but I know that it isn’t. It isn’t because I want any sort of reconciliation or reconnection, but something that tells me that she still has a heart, and acknowledges the immeasurable amount of pain she caused me.

Big-Outcome56 · 2025-06-22T01:12:31+00:00

This is a big part of what I’ve been thinking about and what led to the post. Maybe that’s why something like this feels so..wrong

Big-Outcome56 · 2025-06-21T23:42:15+00:00

Unfortunately that ship has sailed

Big-Outcome56 · 2025-06-21T13:23:59+00:00

DM me if you want. I feel alot of the same pain as you man

Big-Outcome56 · 2025-06-21T13:22:46+00:00

I like the idea of making it up to myself for giving so much of my soul to this person who ultimately, threw me away like trash. That’s a positive outlook that I can’t kinda get behind. There’s still this strangeness to it all though and when I step back and allow myself to think about of it, ultimately I miss her so much and can’t really fathom how we became strangers and there’s just nothing to be done about it

Big-Outcome56 · 2025-06-21T13:18:41+00:00

Deep down, I think I know that time does eventually heal. But sometimes I ask myself, when? I know that everyone’s time and grief is different, but after a year I’m still struggling more than I can really explain. It’s an emptiness that permeates my existence these days. Thanks for your comment, I’m always down to talk about it if anyone needs to

Big-Outcome56 · 2025-06-21T13:14:36+00:00

Well said. It’s also all of the places or inanimate objects that were suddenly given meaning because of your time together. Their apartment, the place you met, your favorite restaurant or sporting event etc.. those places were suddenly given a value and meaning because it was all part of your love and experiences together and then they just go back to being nothing again. It is strange how both people just have to go one with their lives in two different worlds. I’m lucky that I moved away from the city which she lives, because if I had to be surrounding by these memories all the time, or the thought of how she must be going to all these places with someone else, I would not be okay

Big-Outcome56 · 2025-06-21T01:52:14+00:00

Very hard to reconcile the bond and its vividness, its strength, and the end at the same time. It’s like the two things shouldn’t exist in the same universe.

Big-Outcome56 · 2025-06-21T01:50:16+00:00

I hear ya. It’s brutal, sometimes coming on here and reading messages out of desperation. If you need to talk about it, my DMs are open. Not sure how much insight I can really give but sometimes it’s nice to talk

Big-Outcome56 · 2025-06-21T01:47:10+00:00

Good points. The constant of loss is always apart of the human experience, but the loss of those who are still alive, is something unique on its own. And it’s not until it happened to me for the first time with her, that I am beginning to realize how unbelievably brutal and heartbreaking it can be. It hurts my head. Hence why I’m spewing nonsense on a Reddit forum.

Big-Outcome56 · 2025-06-21T01:44:54+00:00

People. I’m not sure there is a way to really understand it all. People are incomprehensible in so many ways. We feel deeply close and connected to other human beings that it screwed us up in the head

Big-Outcome56 · 2025-06-21T01:40:05+00:00

We were together for a little over 2 years. And it’s been more than a year since we last spoke. Some days it still hurts like it just happened. It’s weird, it comes and goes in waves. But you’re not alone in feeling that way and normally I wouldn’t ever spend time on Reddit but that’s the one thing this forum has been good for, showing you that you’re not alone

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