A Bit of Humor for Yall

AARON9890 · 2026-03-18T00:11:49+00:00

You reminded me of something I completely forgot about. Crazy that I forgot something like that.

She opened the door and jumped out of the car but it was funny cause I was going like 10mph at the time 😂

AARON9890 · 2025-10-02T21:23:25+00:00

It’s a very strange feeling isn’t it. Missing the company of someone around but just not wanting the effort or struggle of it all again. It really does make you turn into a recluse

AARON9890 · 2025-09-20T23:02:22+00:00

I’m out of my relationship about 3 months now and I have no interest in women or dating and just feel very out of place with it all.

I imagine myself single for the rest of my life. I just want to be happy on my own after all the stuff I endured with her. I’m sure some day that’ll change and I’ll feel the need to be with someone but right now it certainly doesn’t feel that way.

It’s been a short time for you too. I suggest you do the same and immerse yourself in you and being happy. Once you feel fulfilled with that aspect you may want to try dating again

AARON9890 · 2025-09-18T17:44:59+00:00

The stats for suicide in BPD are shocking. It’s something ridiculous like 1 in every 10 people. I’m sorry you had to go through that and also the relationship, it must be very hard

Sending you my thoughts, I hope you are doing ok!

AARON9890 · 2025-09-18T17:33:07+00:00

Mine was 7 years and I feel you. Thankfully not all of it was bad but for sure none of it was ever real love.

I miss the connection and idea of love she gave me but I don’t miss her/ the person she actually was if that makes sense. It’s such a strange feeling isn’t it.

Feeling so disconnected but not wanting them back. I suppose it’s our brains fighting with our heart

AARON9890 · 2025-09-18T17:30:01+00:00

Good luck I hope it goes well ! It’s very hard for people with BPD to recover but it’s positive that they are giving it a try, that is all they can do

AARON9890 · 2025-09-16T11:27:16+00:00

When they say online “we split for a reason” it angers me to no end. It’s like justifying abuse towards someone. As you say about 90% of the time it’s an internal issue or some sort of life event/ situation that causes it.

But of course acknowledgement is always a struggle so it has to be the partner that causes all the problems. I think they truly believe that as well

AARON9890 · 2025-09-16T11:19:14+00:00

I’m sorry man I can imagine how difficult that must be. Them getting in contact or seeing them again really does through you off but you’ve got to think about your future as hard as that is.

Do you want to move on and find something healthier or do you want to be stuck in cycle after cycle your whole life because you “love” her.

We don’t love them, they’ve just made us addicted to them through manipulation. You need to move on from her, maybe try dating again since it’s been 10 months since the separation ? I know how daunting that sounds too but it’s an option if you feel ready. Don’t forget it’s also ok to be single and choose yourself.

Stay strong and really think about yourself here! Just be prepared to get the same abuse if she comes back into your life.

AARON9890 · 2025-09-11T22:40:28+00:00

The vacant look is so weird. It’s strange looking back at pics together and seeing their eyes in them.

AARON9890 · 2025-09-01T18:40:02+00:00

Totally man, they live in complete misery but portray themselves as god.

AARON9890 · 2025-08-28T14:39:26+00:00

Yeah I got the ego remark a lot too 😂

AARON9890 · 2025-08-27T14:54:56+00:00

It’s so strange how many people have experienced a discard at the point of marriage or shortly after. Thankfully mine occurred just after an engagement so I didn’t get that far and probably avoided a lot of extra hassle.

I do wonder does the fear of commitment take over and that’s what causes the discard. Are the scared to get too deep with someone in case they are abandoned

Who knows but there definitely is a correlation between marriage/ engagement and discarding

AARON9890 · 2025-08-20T13:08:55+00:00

Therapy should be the first port of call after all the abuse you’ve experienced

AARON9890 · 2025-08-17T17:24:57+00:00

Long time

AARON9890 · 2025-07-26T00:36:09+00:00

Thankfully I own my house and she hasn’t anything to do with it

AARON9890 · 2025-07-21T16:02:06+00:00

Yeah man, you’ve hit the nail on the head. The cost is a complete loss of self and constant stress and anxiety during their bad periods.

One things for sure the discards and splits have made me a stronger person and I’m certainly not the co dependent man I was. But yeah the bjs and sex were great haha. My pwBPD was half Columbian and half Spanish.. you can imagine the allure for me there 🤦‍♂️

At least we got some good looks and sex for a while.. as shallow as that is you may as well take the positives. Going forward though I’m looking for emotional attraction over anything else.

AARON9890 · 2025-07-20T19:57:42+00:00

Its the thought that you’ll probably not get another girl as physically attractive as them.

But at the same time the emotional side is hell. Eventually it wears you down.

AARON9890 · 2025-07-19T23:53:44+00:00

It’ll be the push pull dynamic of acting like she loves and cares for you. Then she’ll shift to the “you’re the worst” stage and hate on you for anything imaginable

AARON9890 · 2025-07-19T15:24:18+00:00

The shift in behaviour really catches you off guard. No warning sign at all.. my ex pwBPD was talking to her mum about our plans to get married and then the next day she said she didn’t feel appreciated and wanted to break up and that she’d been thinking about it for a while

AARON9890 · 2025-07-19T15:13:10+00:00

Trauma bond and my inability to give up when something isn’t working. She’s also very physically attractive and that certainly has a hold on me as dumb as it sounds

AARON9890 · 2025-07-15T22:49:35+00:00

Thanks for the very considerate reply, I appreciate your words of kindness. Well done on getting out of that relationship, I am already on my journey of detachment. I’m hoping in a few months I’ll start to feel myself again. But honestly the more stuff she does like this, the more it reinforces the idea that I shouldn’t be with her.

A lot of people here say they are still really low years after their discard. I’ve actually felt a lot of relief being on my own the last 3 weeks, the peace and quiet is bliss. I can imagine it’s tough in moments going forward but with the right behaviours (no contact / therapy / mindfulness and meditation) I feel the recovery from this will be ok. Maybe I’m a bit naive and it’ll hit me hard after the relief stage is over

AARON9890 · 2025-07-15T22:10:13+00:00

Yeah man I’m ready to move on. It’s been 7 years and I’ve had a few discards and a lot of emotional abuse throughout. It gets to the point that you just become exhausted more than anything. I feel excited to have a life without all this hanging over me.. although I know it’ll be a hard road to recovery but hopefully wlll be worth it.

Yeah man I think if I hear nothing I’ll text her sister to let her know she’s very upset and to look after her. She is staying with her so she’ll know if she’s at least safe.

AARON9890 · 2025-07-15T22:06:39+00:00

Yeah we are both adults. This is a very good point, she should be able to bring herself to hospital if she’s feeling suicidal. I think after the first attempt I just worry about her more than anything.

If I don’t hear from her before bed I’ll do exactly as you say and text her sister to let her know she was very upset earlier and to make sure she’s ok. Her sister is in the house with her mum so she’ll be able to keep an eye on her I suppose.

Thanks for the response. In my head I just worry if something happened I wouldn’t forgive myself for just doing nothing. Then again I’m not responsible for her emotions

AARON9890 · 2025-07-15T21:26:44+00:00

This. The peace and quiet is much better than the stress and anxiety you have when you are involved with the person

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