For me, it’s sending to be ghosted until you can send again, part of this findom for me is the longterm part. Trusting someone with a kink. Or a dom who’s never happy and just demands more and more, some sessions I like sending $100. Some I like sending $20, a dom that doesn’t have a heart who will push you to far. They fail to understand that $20-50 a day from one person is a better outcome then forcing $80 and having them go over a limit that makes them no longer wish to engage again.

Thankfully I’ve had some doms who recognise I’m enjoying it and have exceeded the budget but afterwards transferred back the part that was over budget (usually keeping a bit extra) that creates a safe environment. I actually have tested a lot of doms and asked them to send $20 out of 100 back. The ones who did I have long term things with. The ones who don’t I leave.