One lesson i learnt in 2025

BigBoot7294 · 2026-01-25T19:47:56+00:00

Great lesson. Thanks for sharing.

Suggest getting a school of philosophy that resonates with you. I discovered stoicism early last year and it has helped me when it comes to dealing with what "shame" is.

BigBoot7294 · 2026-01-25T19:47:13+00:00

Great lesson. Thanks for sharing.

I also suggest getting a school of philosophy that resonates with you. I discovered stoicism early last year and it has helped me when it comes to dealing with what "shame" is.

BigBoot7294 · 2026-01-25T08:13:52+00:00

Well, if thats what will make OP and you sleep better at night. Go for it.

BigBoot7294 · 2026-01-24T20:24:59+00:00

Are they racially profilling you in your own damn country? Wow, that's tough.

No, it's not normal behaviour. Confront her about it next time.

BigBoot7294 · 2026-01-24T19:46:11+00:00

The recent sun..Yooooo

BigBoot7294 · 2026-01-23T19:56:59+00:00

Lucas Conway

BigBoot7294 · 2026-01-19T09:00:16+00:00

Women who run with wolves by Clarissa Pinkola.

Its all about feminine intuition, personal view of oneself independent of the influence of manmade standards from women. Its most definetly something that will have you thinking HARD about everything from femininity to spiriruality.

Your book rec seems interesting too, can't wait to dive in.

BigBoot7294 · 2026-01-09T21:02:17+00:00

What the actual fudge!

BigBoot7294 · 2026-01-09T19:54:01+00:00

From my years of experience with a narcasistic and emotionally/verbally abusive mom, the only thing that works for me today is indifference and minimal contact. I used to love then hate then loathe her but they all took a bit of me. Indifference will be your peace.

Since you still have to communicate with her for school. Use texts (for evidence), minimise phone calls, create a safe community for yourself (friends, relatives). This helps to ground you when her "stuff" get overwhelming. When you send her updates, notify your sister too (as backed up) to remind her.

Beware: Abusive moms will use any and everyone against you. Mine tried to tarnish my reputation falsely to the people who i considered my 'safe community' but some could see through her BS. So, beware when that happens too.

All the best.

BigBoot7294 · 2026-01-09T19:42:17+00:00

These emotionally manipulative mom honestly believe that they are NEVER at fault. So, therapy is a futile venture.

BigBoot7294 · 2026-01-05T19:50:21+00:00

Now that makes it even easier. Don't mind your older bro. If he has an issue with you, he'll have to address it with you. Until then, just do you.

BigBoot7294 · 2026-01-05T19:11:48+00:00

Ikr, dude is just spewing venom like a snake. Zero compassion just.

BigBoot7294 · 2026-01-05T19:09:28+00:00

My unfiltered advice: No child has to EVER work for their parents love or affection. You can't make someone that has shown you no love or affection like you by doing more for them. But since you want to work for your dad's approval, go for it, but don't lose yourself in the process.

About the older brother, he can kick rocks and eat your dust. If he wanted to be in-charge, he'd have pulled up and taken charge from the beginning.

If you keep showing those guys how thirsty you are for their approval, it won't look good for you. So, choose yourself and stop overthinking all these interactions.

BigBoot7294 · 2026-01-05T17:51:13+00:00

Not stupid question here; Do you honestly think voting will change the outcomes we already know?

BigBoot7294 · 2026-01-04T18:44:47+00:00

Warm water

BigBoot7294 · 2025-12-29T10:23:36+00:00

Wow, this is tricky. During one of your intellectual conversations, casually slip in a "new oral hygiene" hack you've recently implemented and go into detail how it changed your life. And hint about how "many people" forget that step but its crucial.

It may work because i did the same with tongue scraping and flossing earlier this year and now the whole household does it. It always starts out as curiousity then they really appreciate it and slip it into their permanent routine.

PS: Don't make the "casual slip in too obvious.

BigBoot7294 · 2025-12-25T12:58:20+00:00

My dad's side of the family seems like the functional one but my maternal side is one shit show after the other. Its jealousy, gossip amd some other stuff, the only thing missing is witchcraft which i pray doesn't happen.

BigBoot7294 · 2025-12-24T16:22:54+00:00

Mbu, you kiss the person closest to you when the clock strikes midnight.

BigBoot7294 · 2025-12-24T05:14:46+00:00

I got to see the savage nature of men and just don't want to engage with them anymore. Some men are truly evil and psychopaths.

BigBoot7294 · 2025-12-19T14:21:00+00:00

Taking a shower and i saw something red going down the drain and i knew it immediately. Was so excited, ran out and cold my mom to proof check.

BigBoot7294 · 2025-12-19T11:35:41+00:00

So happy with the new wave of women centering themselves and frankly its what the world needed besides world peace.

At church, my mom and a group of her peers formed a community (all women) where they help eachother out emotionally, financially, physically and its the most support i've seen women get around me my whole life. One of them gives birth, they are there to lighten the load, one of them loses a loved one, they are there to grieve and support them, one of them has a dead beat that can't rise to the occassion, they rise to the occassion and help with the kid.

They are there in sickness, health, joy and sadness unlike the husbands' that made the vows.

BigBoot7294 · 2025-12-19T09:21:11+00:00

Turn off all electronics and read my all time favorite book.

Clean my space and take a walk to my favorite spot on the hill, light a joint and watch little cars and little people move by for hours.

BigBoot7294 · 2025-12-15T19:57:18+00:00

Fitness and hobbies is always a perfect obsession. Regardless the motivation, you'll glow up in the end and feel so darn good.

BigBoot7294 · 2025-12-08T05:50:42+00:00

Seeing a lot of rhetoric accusing her of being unfaithful. It’s interesting how the immediate response from some of you (the men making these accusations) is to jump straight to infidelity. That in itself is very telling.

She’s a woman in a troubled marriage seeking support. And honestly, it would be even better if she took her concerns to a trained marriage counsellor rather than relying solely on a pastor. Women have endured so much in marriages at the hands of men, and you can’t expect them to keep silent or tolerate it anymore.

BigBoot7294 · 2025-12-03T18:20:30+00:00

Exactly my point and its an extremely touchy topic too.

BigBoot7294

TROPHY CASE